The Relentless Lifestyle

Guess what pi**ed me off today?

An influx of these random fitness FB groups showing on my feed w/that little 'Join' option at the top. I'm not even IN them nor do I want to be but they keep showing up.

And it's always the same thing. Someone asks something like "how do I lose weight faster" & within the hour they've got a dozen replies from strangers with 0 training telling them to cut carbs completely, do a 40-day water fast, run every single day for an hour before you lift weights — & other bu****it that makes me want to scream.

I'll be honest, sometimes I start typing out an actual answer. Something real, something backed by, oh I don't know, an actual education & 15 yrs of experience. And then I delete it. Because I know exactly what happens next — the keyboard warriors show up to argue with me about their "results," & I just don't have the bandwidth for that.

But here's what bugs me the most: people are ASKING for help. They want to do better. And instead of getting pointed toward someone who actually knows what they're doing, they're getting fed advice from someone with just as little clue as they have — advice that can genuinely wreck a metabolism, a relationship with food, or put them in a worse state than when they started.

You don't know what you don't know. And neither does the person answering you in that comment section.

If you're getting your health advice from a free-for-all Facebook group, please — for the love — find someone qualified instead. You deserve more than their cousins sisters girlfriend guess.

So since you're here & not in one of those groups — here's what I'd actually tell you if you asked me.

It's NOT flashy. It's not trendy. You won't get results overnight but it's what works. Ready?

If you do not have the basics down (sleep, hydration, protein, basic movement & a handle on stress) you will struggle no matter what you do. Supplements, peptides, detoxes, meal plans, etc will only get you so far if you don't have a solid foundation.

I understand you are finally ready to get healthy but it's not happening overnight...the same way you didn't get to your current state of (un)health overnight.

Pick ONE thing. Start there.

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I had a handful of new client consults this week and I realized today how many times this came up and had to share.

I'm not building you a strict plan. I mean, if you're one of my online clients who's specifically coming to me for a workout plan, then yes. 🤣

But for my in person coaching & training clients? We're building habits. In fact, we're gonna be all over the place in the beginning as we figure things out.

My focus? Helping YOU figure things out for yourself so you don't need me longterm.

That looks like: you learning to listen to your body instead of ignoring it.

And all of that has to work for THIS season. Right now. Not the season you had pre kids. Not the "someday when life calms down" season — because that s**t isn't happening anytime soon. Life is ever changing.

And every time I say it out loud, I watch something shift on their face as they say "OMG YES!"

Because most people have only ever been handed a rigid schedule. Eat this, work out this way!

That never works longterm because it doesn't fit real life. And let me guess, you probably blamed yourself because you weren't disciplined enough. You weren't consistent enough. You just needed to want it more.

I call bu****it. What you need is to actually listen to yourself and adjust, instead of forcing something that was never built for your life in the first place.

15 years doing this, and the people who actually keep it together long term aren't the ones gritting their teeth through something rigid. They're the ones who check in with themselves and adjust as life changes instead of quitting the second things stop fitting.

Rigid doesn't survive real life.

So if you're in a season right now where everything feels like it's falling apart and you're convinced that means you're failing...you're not. You're a normal human who is still learning to listen to yourself instead of forcing this season to look like a different one.

What season are you in right now — and is anyone actually helping you build around it, or is everyone just handing you the same rigid thing? You know, the 'try this peptide, this detox, this plan, eat this way!' BS.

A client said something to me last week I can't stop thinking about.

"I know exactly what to do. I just don't do it."

I just sat there like... yep. You and 98% of my clients.

And it dawned on me...that's the industry's dirty little secret, right there in one sentence.

15 years of coaching and I'm convinced the biggest lie we've all been sold isn't about macros or supplements or whatever workout split is trending this week.

It's the idea that if we just found the RIGHT plan, we'd finally stick with it.

We wouldn't. I promise you we wouldn't. I've watched hundreds of people prove it. Myself included.

Because sticking with something was never about the plan. It's about what happens in your brain the second life gets hard and you have to actually choose something.

Do you skip the workout because you "don't have time," or because it's easier than admitting you're running on absolute fumes?

Do you order DoorDash because the day got away from you, or because cooking feels like one more job when you're already touched out and done making decisions?

Here's the part nobody wants to hear: the food and the workouts usually aren't the real problem. They're just the first things you throw overboard when everything else feels like too fu***ng much.

I used to think my job was handing people a plan. Now I know my job is helping people figure out why they keep ditching every plan they've ever made.

Two very different jobs. Only one of them actually works.

If you've ever done "everything right" for two weeks straight and then crashed and burned with zero idea why... it wasn't a willpower problem. It never is.

It was something underneath it that never got dealt with, and it's still sitting there waiting for you.

So tell me — is that just me, or does that hit a little too close to home?

I was thinking about this the other day...

I've spent 15 years coaching people, and you know what almost nobody actually needs?

Another meal plan.

Seriously.

I feel like most of us know we need to eat more protein.
We know we should move more.
Drink water.
Sleep more.

We've downloaded the apps, bought the supplements, joined the gyms, and started over more times than we can count, right?!

The problem isn't information.

The problem is figuring out how to make all of that fit into a real life that's busy, stressful, unpredictable, and honestly...kind of chaotic sometimes.

That's why I put together this free 5-day email series.

It's not a challenge. It's not a detox. And I'm not going to promise you'll lose 10 pounds in 5 days because that's ridiculous.

It's just 5 short emails where I teach the same foundational stuff I work through with my coaching clients. The things that actually help people stop living in that constant cycle of "doing great" until life happens.

If you've been following along for a while and keep thinking, *I should probably do something...*

Start here.

It's free. No catch. Whether we work together or not, it's the information that I genuinely wish more people knew before they wasted another year chasing the next quick fix or investing in a coach who promises the world in the form of a 90 day challenge.

Comment **EMAIL** and I'll send you the link.