09/06/2026
This morning I was in Hosea 13:9, and a single word stopped me dead in my tracks.
The verse talks about God being our Helper. In the original Hebrew, that word is EZER (×¢Öµ×Ö¶×Ø).
Itās the exact same word used in Genesis 2:18 when God looked at Adam and said, āIt is not good for man to be alone; I will make him an EZERāa helper suitable for him.ā
Most modern church teaching has completely neutered what that means. We hear āhelperā and think of an administrative assistant, a sidekick, or a glorified maid.
That is not what the Hebrew says.
Every other time Ezer appears in the Old Testament, it describes God Himself showing up as a military rescue, a shield, a vital protector, and a warrior ally in battle (Psalm 121:1ā2, Psalm 33:20).
When God created woman, He didnāt make an afterthought. He created an Ezerāa high-capacity, spiritually discerning, warrior ally designed to complete what the man was missing.
I teach this to my women right out of the gate: Getting married doesnāt make you a wife. You were CREATED a wife. It is a divine design, an assignment of massive capacity and spiritual authority.
Now, letās talk about the hard truth.
Iām not talking to the secular world today. Iām talking to the men who claim to have a biblical worldview.
The men who look great on the outside. The ones who might even show up to church every Sunday, raise their hands, and quote Scriptureāyet behind closed doors, pride is running the show.
They wonāt listen to their wives.
They get offended the second she offers discernment or direction.
They act like they donāt need her for anythingāthey almost try to be their own wife.
Hear me on this: Pride is the first chapter in the book of failure.
A truly godly man doesnāt see his wifeās strength or prophetic insight as a threat. He studies her design. He leans in. He listens to her because he understands that God placed an Ezer beside him so he wouldnāt operate in blind spots. When a man refuses his Ezer, he is literally refusing the help God designed for his survival.
And for the wives walking this road... let me be deeply vulnerable with you.
This road is not easy. It is a daily crucifying of the flesh and a masterclass in humility.
There have been seasons in my own journey where I was so frustrated, so weary, and honestlyāmad at God. You see the blind spots clearly. You carry the download from the Secret Place. And yet, you have to watch the process unfold at God's pace, resisting the urge to manipulate, mother, or control your husband.
Itās a long road. Itās a battlefield.
And you cannot walk it alone.
If you try to carry an unequal spiritual weight in isolation, you will become bitter, resentful, and exhausted. You need a fierce, holy community around you. You need mentors and coaches who will hold you to the highest standard, keep your heart pure, and remind you who you are when the pressure gets intense.
Your calling as an Ezer is not small. You are not a doormat, and you are not a passive spectator.
Stand in your identity. Guard your heart against pride and bitterness. Stay rooted in the Secret Place.
God didnāt make a mistake when He designed you to be his Ezer. š„š”ļøš
Drop an AMEN or a š„ if you needed this reminder this morning!
