07/31/2026
Who would you cross an ocean for?
Convenience has become one of the defining values of modern life.
And slowly, almost without noticing, relationships begin to feel like commodities.
Useful while they fit our schedule. Replaceable when life becomes busy.
Maintained only as long as they remain easy.
I don’t want to live in that kind of world.
Over the past few days, I reconnected with two women who have been among the deepest friendships of my life.
Deep connection has a different relationship with time.
Life has seasons. There are seasons of building friendships.
Seasons of distance. Seasons of survival, heartbreak, parenting, dark nights of the soul, and rebuilding.
Real friendship doesn’t disappear because life becomes difficult. Sometimes it just waits.
And when life brings us back together, the relationship often returns with even greater depth.
Looking back over my life, I noticed something fascinating.
Almost every extraordinary relationship began with an adventure.
The relationships that shaped my life were never optimized. They required curiosity, presence, time, travel, showing up, returning, investing.
Today I hear many conversations centered around compatibility, efficiency, convenience, and protecting our time.
I understand why. Life has become overwhelming.
Still, I refuse to build my life around that philosophy.
I want relationships that ignite something in me.
Friendships that make me want to cross an ocean simply because spending a week together feels meaningful.
A partnership that inspires that same devotion.
People whose presence expands my life rather than merely fitting into it.
Extraordinary relationships ask for extraordinary commitment.
One of my mentors once told me:
“Shared joy is double joy. Shared grief is half grief.”
I am entering a new season. A season of renewed vitality, new beginnings, and a deeper appreciation for the extraordinary people who have walked beside me.
So, my friend...
Who would you cross an ocean for?