Mind Your Being

💙 You can be successful AND still feel stuck.

💙 You can be a great leader AND question yourself.

💙 You can have a really good life AND know something needs to change.

That’s actually where a lot of my coaching conversations begin. Not with, “Everything is falling apart.”

More like…

🤍 “I know I’m capable of more, but I don’t know what’s getting in my way.”

🤍 “I keep having the same problem over and over.”

🤍 “I know what I should do. I’m just not doing it.”

🤍 “I’ve accomplished a lot… so why don’t I feel the way I thought I would?”

That’s the work I am passionate about.

Creating space to slow down, get curious, uncover what’s really going on underneath the surface, and make intentional choices about what comes next.

No fixing you.
No telling you how to live your life.
No one-size-fits-all formula.

Just really good questions, honest conversations, new perspectives, and some tools to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

And laughter, plenty of laughter! If we can’t laugh at life, what’s the point?!

If you’ve been thinking, “Maybe I need someone in my corner for this next chapter…”

Maybe you do. 💙

I’m currently welcoming new 1:1 coaching clients.

Send me a DM and let’s talk. No pressure. Just a conversation.

Confession: I’m not very good at eating. 😂

I know. Weird sentence.

Aside from being allergic to everything, I rarely notice that I’m actually hungry.

But I’m actually on a journey right now to eat more… more consistently and before I suddenly realize it’s 3pm and I’ve been relying on meeting agendas and adrenaline to get by.

As leaders, I know I’m not alone.

We jump from meeting to meeting. Someone needs us. An email feels urgent. A problem pops up. And lunch? Lunch gets pushed to “in a few minutes.”

Except sometimes that few minutes becomes a few hours.

We talk a lot about taking care of our teams, managing our energy and showing up as our best selves.

We can’t forget, we’re humans leading humans.

And humans need to eat!!

So lately, part of taking better care of myself has been ridiculously simple. Stop. Sit down. Eat the lunch.

🍽️ Not when everything is finished.
🍽️ Not when everyone else is taken care of.
🍽️ Not when I finally have “time.”

Because there will always be one more thing.

Turns out leadership development sometimes looks a lot less like a course… and a lot more like eating your chicken before 3pm. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anyone else terrible at remembering to eat?

Today’s leadership lesson is brought to you by the approximately 742 bug bites currently covering my ankles and feet. 🦟

I’m trying to get stuff done, but my lower limbs are screaming.

And that’s how life often works.

Sometimes we assume we have a focus problem when we actually have something else demanding our attention.

An unresolved conversation.
A decision we keep avoiding.
Something at home.
Something at work.
Or, apparently, 742 bug bites.

You can keep telling yourself to “just focus”… but sometimes the better question is…

What keeps stealing my attention, and what do I need to do about it?

Now excuse me while I sort out what on earth to do about these bites!!

Ever have one of those days when you 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 what you need to do… but your brain just won’t cooperate?

That can be what’s called an 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲.

Think of executive functioning as your brain’s management system. It helps you:

✨Get started on a task
✨Prioritize what needs to happen first
✨Organize your thoughts and actions
✨Manage your time
✨Stay focused or shift focus when needed
✨Remember what you were just about to do
✨Regulate emotions and impulses
✨Follow something through to completion

𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼.

You can be incredibly capable, motivated and intelligent and still struggle to translate 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 into 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨.

Stress, overwhelm, lack of sleep, burnout and cognitive overload can all make these skills harder to access. This is something many people experience, especially when life demands are high or cognitive load is heavy.

💡 𝗧𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀: When your brain feels stuck, make the next step ridiculously small. I mean 𝙩𝙚𝙚𝙣𝙮 𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙮!!

Often times we don’t need more motivation. 𝗪𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗺𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝗱. Start somewhere and start small. 🧠✨

Leadership confession…

Today I had a meeting with… my car. 🚗😂

No phone calls.
No emails.
No podcasts.
No “I’ll just answer one more Teams message.”

I just sat there for a few minutes.

It’s funny how so many of us leaders wear “powering through” like it’s a badge of honor. We skip lunch. We work late. We answer emails at the Thanksgiving dinner table. We convince ourselves that taking 10 minutes away somehow makes us less productive.

Neuroscience says the opposite.

Your brain wasn’t designed to stay in focused mode all day. When you step away, even for a few minutes, you give your brain’s default mode network a chance to kick in. That’s when it starts connecting ideas, solving problems in the background, consolidating memories, and calming your stress response.

Translation? Sometimes the most productive thing you can do… is absolutely nothing.

Ironically, I didn’t even realize how much I needed the pause until I took it.

So if you happen to see a leader sitting alone in their car this week, don’t assume they’re hiding from work.

They might just be having a highly strategic meeting with their brain. 😉🧠

The eye patches aren’t fooling anyone. 😂

I’ve been a little quieter on here lately because life has been full… in the very best way. A season of presentations, celebrations, conversations, connecting with incredible people… and as an introvert, my social battery is officially blinking red.

So today’s question is…

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂?

For me, it’s probably not what you’d expect.

It’s not a spa day (I’ve never really been a spa girl). It sure as heck is about slowing down.

It’s eye patches for the tired eyes.
It’s getting outside and spending time in my garden.
It’s reading a good book.
It’s sitting by the pool with no agenda.
It’s cooking nourishing food.
It’s refilling the supplements.
It’s getting in a walk, soaking up some sunshine, learning something new, snuggling with my dogs, and maybe… just maybe… taking a nap.

For someone else, self-care might be a massage, a concert, coffee with friends, or a weekend away.

The point isn’t what you choose.
The point is that you choose 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴.

We spend so much of our lives taking care of everyone else… our families, our teams, our clients, our friends… that it’s easy to convince ourselves we’ll get to ourselves later.

But as the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. And while that phrase gets overused, it’s true.

Self-care isn’t selfish.
It’s maintenance.

It’s how we show up with more patience, more energy, more clarity, and more of ourselves for the people who matter most.

This weekend, I’m giving myself permission to recharge so I can show up fully again on Monday.

Now I’m curious…

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂? ❤️

I bought myself a little treat. A hand cream that I scored for 40% off. Now, I’m not really one for fancy hand creams, however while on a little staycation, I do enjoy a splurge here and there.

Inside the beautiful box was this quote from Socrates.

“Be as you wish to seem.”

Now Socrates didn’t really write, so who knows if he uttered those exact words (he lived in ancient Athens, so doubtful). However, I dig the message.

𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗼𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱. 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱.

In a world where everyone has an opinion about how we should show up, how to spend our time, how to spend our money, and how to think-act-feel, it can feel pretty overwhelming when all of that noise conflicts with who we actually are.

So here’s your reminder to slow down, and remember who you are and, ultimately, who you’re becoming.