09/04/2026
I have 18 years of professional training and still occasionally make decisions I absolutely know better than to make. đ
Thatâs actually taught me something about preparedness.
We give people advice like:
âAlways pay attention.â
âAlways stay in control.â
âAlways make the right decision.â
But humans donât operate at 100% every day.
We get tired. Distracted. emotional. overwhelmed.
And sometimes apparently we encounter bottomless mimosas.
A good plan shouldnât collapse the first time you arenât at your best.
Thatâs why I care about options, communication, and having other people who know the plan.
Now Iâve told on myself.
Whatâs something you absolutely knew better than to doâŠand did anyway? đ
09/03/2026
â ïžLetâs test your friend group.đŹ
You go to a concert with four friends.
Two people drive separately.
One phone dies.
The crowd gets packed.
Eventually the group gets separated.
Everybody has somebodyâs locationâŠ
but nobody agreed on a meeting point, nobody knows exactly where the other car is parked, and nobody decided when it was time to start worrying.
So hereâs my question:
Did you actually have a plan or did you just have technology?
Location sharing can be useful.
But before the fun starts, check the basics:
Who are you with?
How are you getting home?
Where do you meet if you get separated?
It takes less than a minute.
What does your friend group already do before a night out?
09/02/2026
I want to ask women and LGBTQ+ folks something:
When did you first realize you moved through public spaces differently than other people?
Maybe you started noticing bathrooms.
Maybe you paid attention to exits.
Maybe you became aware of how people reacted to you or your partner.
Maybe you always knew where you parked.
Maybe you were the friend keeping track of everybody else.
A lot of these habits become so normal that we donât even think of them as preparedness.
We just think:
âThis is what I do.â
But life taught us to notice certain things for a reason.
So Iâm curious:
Whatâs the FIRST thing you automatically check when you walk into somewhere new?
09/01/2026
Iâve learned that almost two decades of military and law-enforcement thinking apparently did something to my ability to justâŠgo somewhere. đ
Someone says brunch.
My brain says:
Where are we going?
Where are we parking?
Whoâs driving?
Whatâs the plan home?
Meanwhile, normal civilians apparently just say, âOkay, see you there.â
So Iâm starting a series called Learning How to Civilian because I genuinely want to figure out where preparedness ends and âBee, please relaxâ begins.
Former military, first responders, nurses, safety people, or just my fellow planners:
Can you actually go somewhere without knowing the plan?
