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A moment of beauty from this weekend and a reminder that:

"On the day when
the weight deadens
on your shoulders
and you stumble,
may the clay dance
to balance you.
And when your eyes
freeze behind
the grey window
and the ghost of loss
gets into you,
may a flock of colours,
indigo, red, green
and azure blue,
come to awaken in you
a meadow of delight.
When the canvas frays
in the currach of thought
and a stain of ocean
blackens beneath you,
may there come across the waters
a path of yellow moonlight
to bring you safely home.
May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
may the clarity of light be yours,
may the fluency of the ocean be yours,
may the protection of the ancestors be yours.
And so may a slow
wind work these words
of love around you,
an invisible cloak
to mind your life."

~ John O'Donohue

Few things are juicer or more powerful than a clarity intensive.

Imagine you and i spending a potent 90-minutes together, a laser focused session to unveil the clarity (or strategy) you need to take the next small step, or big leap in your life or business.

Followed by one week of integration support and coaching, you'll emerge with clarity, an aligned action plan, and deeper commitment to self-responsibility.

"Engaging with Mar and Unveil Veritas Coaching & Consulting was transformative! I highly recommend this experience to anyone who finds themselves at a career crossroads or who is seeking to unlock their full potential."

⚡ Book your clarity intensive - comment "Path" for details! Or let's chat privately - say hello in a Direct Message.

Reminder to self (you too, if you need it - save for later):

YOU WILL FAIL.
Or make mistakes.
It's what you do with a learning opportunity that matters.

I watched this female American crow attempt and fail to build a nest last year. It's been a gift to see her and her mate return this year, to observe them try again (directly outside my window), and succeed.

A reminder from nature that some things will take time and multiple attempts/approaches.

💡𝐅irst (or Further)
💡𝐀ttempt ⁣
💡𝐈n ⁣
💡𝐋earning

You're creating a life you've dreamed of, but it feels harder than it should sometimes.
Don't quit.
Don't do it alone.

❤ Curious about what creating sustainable change in your life or business could look and feel like?

💡Let's chat privately - send a Direct Message.

Save this post for the next time you need a reminder to lean into your courage and let it guide you - Your heart knows the way! ❤️

If you find yourself half naked
and barefoot in the frosty grass, hearing,
again, the earth's great, sonorous moan that says
you are the air of the now and gone, that says
all you love will turn to dust,

and will meet you there, do not

raise your fist. Do not raise

your small voice against it. And do not

take cover. Instead, curl your toes

into the grass, watch the cloud

ascending from your lips. Walk

through the garden's dormant splendor.

Say only, thank you.

Thank you.

~ Ross Gay

🌌A womb
🌌A portal
🌌A cocoon

A process held in reverence, grace, grief, compassion.

⚡A death of the old and a birthing of the new.
⚡A gateway to new possibilities.
⚡A reorientation

Honour the space between no longer and not yet. It holds enormous value for your journey *and* don't get stuck here.

"Most of the holes
that i have fallen
down
down
down
down
down
down
down
down
down
into
turned out
to be cocoons

they weren’t tombs
my love,

they were wombs."
- John Roedel

❤️ Honour the space between no longer and not yet.

Are you in a liminal space?
⚫ on the precipice of something new but not quite there yet.

aka the void - the void before the form.

A liminal space is a unique realm where you are no longer in your past but not quite in your next phase. It’s a time of uncertainty and a space of transition between where you've been and where you're going. Like being on the cusp of a new chapter, but the page hasn't turned yet.

What got you to here won’t get you to there.
The lived experiences, strategies, beliefs, and mindsets that brought you to this point?

It's likely some of them won't be the same ones that propel you forward from now, to how and where you want to be.

Contemplation tip:
If you're here, now
What needs to be

healed
integrated
settled
clarified
released
committed to
loved
by you?
before creating the next period of your evolution?

The liminal is a necessary phase, place, and process. A unique balance between taking the time and space you need *and* not letting fear keep you stuck there. It's different for everyone - you know when the time is right for you ❤️

January 1st doesn't need the theatrics of transformation. Maybe you're also tired of the societal gallop towards 'new year, new me' on Jan 1st.

I am. Instead, my body is echoing nature here in the northern hemisphere. Fallow. Resting. Digesting.

Integrating the growth of the prior seasons.
Rich in material. The void before the form.

This time of the year, the real magic happens when you let go of the societal pressure to perform change (privately or publicly)

When you embrace the gradual, often imperceptible, shift towards an alignment with your inner truth and with Truth, it leads to being more in tune with your desires, passions, and your uniqueness.

But doing so asks you to slow down, a deeper introspection, a gentle unveiling of the layers you've wrapped around your true Self. Intentionality is key in this work, guiding you back to your core Self, where authenticity resides.

All your goals and resolutions?
They're signposts, not destinations.

Clarity or results don't arrive as a result of the pursuit of a 'new' you, but in the cultivation of a more authentic, fulfilled version of yourself.

It's not about discarding who you are in the name of reinvention.It's about nurturing the profound depths already within you.

Imagine a year where the goal isn't to become someone new but to become more comfortably, unapologetically, and joyfully yourself.

⚡ What would that feel like?

✨ What would change for you?

🅰 🆁🅸🆃🆄🅰🅻 🅵🅾🆁 🆃🅷🅴 🆂🅾🅻🆂🆃🅸🅲🅴 (🆆🅸🅽🆃🅴🆁) ⤵️

Honoring the darkness today on the winter solstice, knowing that within lies inner light.

💓 Begin by finding a quiet and cozy space where you won't be disturbed for 5-10 minutes. Dim the lights or use candlelight for a cozy atmosphere.

🫁 Bring your awareness to your breath. Take a few slow, deep breaths to center yourself.

💓 Notice your body, and wrap your arms around yourself. A self hug filled with reassurance and love.

🫁 Feel every breath you release as an acknowledgement of your being

🕯️ Light a candle.Take some time to reflect on the past year. How has it been, really?

❤️ Be with what arises.

🔥 Imagine a flame within you - how will you nurture your inner spark more?

⚡️Release anything that doesn’t serve your evolution - What will you anchor?

What will you release?

🔥 It’s all grist for the mill. How are you using it to fully step into being?

❤️ this land, these skies.

Wow. still taking my breath away after 15 years.

Zero filter or edit.

Listening. Learning👂❤️

Want to come hang out with others who've also been procrastinating on so many things? 😂

Join us on Dec 11 at 5:00pm Pacific for 1 hour of getting s**t done aka accomplishing personal tasks or objectives in a community atmosphere. This will be a co-regulating space with music and support as we use this hour to explore and complete our own tasks.

Drop a gif in the comments below if you want to come and i'll send you the 🔗 (free to attend but registration is required)

🎯Those who can't define “enough” likely won't attain it. It's like trying to hit a bullseye on a moving target.

Whether it's success, wealth, love, or happiness, without clear awareness of your values, intention, and needs, enough will appear out of reach. 

🔍 What does "enough" mean to you in different aspects of your life? What if you could define it on your terms?  

🔥❤️ Imagine the peace and fulfillment in knowing you've reached a point that genuinely satisfies you, something not dictated by society's endless fu***ng demands  -but by your own values and desires. 

🔥

If you're new here - Hi! I'm Mar 👋🏻

I guide creatives, entrepreneurs, leaders and disruptors in unveiling truth and purpose to create a life you love.

We'll work together to uncover your deepest beliefs, motivations, goals, and patterns; to ensure your actions and life is aligned, and in service to your deepest Truth 🔥

 
 
 

One of the first things a client said to me was "I'm not a creative person"

6 months later: "so turns out, I AM creative - i just didn't know it. 😃"

Years of negative self-talk from his inner critic had held him back from trying new things because he "wouldn't be good" at them.

His life had no room for experimentation, and too much of everything overwhelmed him - expectations, belongings, work, choice, opinions/advice from others, noise.

Over the period of 12 months, he worked with me to strip it all back and uncomplicate his personal and professional life in ways that's brought enjoyment, creativity, ease, and peace back into all he does.

🔥 Don't underestimate the importance of self-talk and the content of your conscious and subconscious that you reinforce for yourself daily.

🔥 Getting in touch with the creative parts of yourself can be life changing. And before you tell me you're not creative - we all have the the ability to be and create in different ways...

⚡ Learning to practise and lean into my creativity in ways that lit me up (regardless of my inner critic) was a glimmer that started a 10+ year journey to my true Self...

⚡ And if you're asking WTF is a glimmer?
Think of 'em as agents of comfort and love sent by your wisest self.

A glimmer is the antithesis to a trigger. It's things/memories/experiences/people/places/pets/practices that make your heart sing and body feel safe.

💖 Choosing to strengthen your relationship with your creativity, and your glimmers, can illuminate the path back to your most authentic self.

And i'm not talking about bypassing trauma or attachment injuries with 'good vibes only' / 'love and light' BS. Anchoring your glimmers in daily life can be incredibly helpful in building a sense of safety in the world.

💖"Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness”. Being a human means you've experienced trauma to some degree('Big T' and 'little t') weaving more neural pathways of protection and survival, rather than pathways of connection and thriving.. When trauma isn't processed and integrated it can 'get stuck' in your body, reshaping your nervous system and changing the way it responds to the demands of your daily life.

💖 The nervous system responds by telling you *how* you are (not what you are, or who you are) and when you experience activation (aka triggers) of the sympathetic nervous system or the dorsal vagal branch of the parasympathetic nervous system - ideally your body moves between them, like switching gears when driving - but neither state is healthy to get stuck in for an extended period.

💖 Stuckness can happen when Big T and little t trauma occurs so paying attention to our glimmers, to those things that evoke a sense of safety, comfort, flow and joy can bring about a return to autonomic regulation in your body, leading to transformational shifts in your body and perspective.

Slowing down and being present with what is, is when you find breadcrumbs and reminders from the universe of why you're here.

Sometimes these reminders are in the last place you'd expect to find them. Like a pit toilet in the middle of nowhere 😂💩❤️

It's a sickness with no name.

The way the world approaches work mirrors the behavior of a cancer cell. Growth for the sake of growth.

Productivity for the sake of productivity.

We prioritize these without considering the real cost.

Even when we're no longer in survival mode, It doesn't matter how wealthy some become, or how fulfilled needs are. We find ourselves compelled to work, aiming to push our productivity to its limits.

This mindset is often hailed as your 'work ethic'. This madness embedded into our psyche as 'work ethic' strikingly mimics the invasive nature of cancer, within our societal framework.

I've supported leaders experiencing suffering and burnout as a result of this conditioning and I know firsthand the damage it does at a leadership, and personal level.

I know, because I experienced life changing and disabling burnout that took over 3 fu***ng years to recover from. I was never built for 40+ hour work weeks - I was conditioned to believe i was.

My work is in service to pointing you toward your sovereignty and exploring the balance between your head, heart, and intuition; expanding awareness in support of a well lived life.

Because work doesn't define who you are.

Snippets from a slow, restful and nap filled weekend.

How was yours?

And if you don't have people like this in your life right now, stay open, they're out there.

Fistfuls of fragrant yellow rose petals,
velvety and pink-tinged scattered on mottled grey limestone.

My first intentional working/ritual at the age of 8 was guided by intuition and my petal-stained fingers.

craggy rock holding an old bone,
lichen-covered crabapple branches,
and crow feathers.
tapping into something deeper,
being called by my body and the wild land around me.

I carry it in my bones and blood.
I have died for it.
I've been renewed from it.
I've healed from it.
I've been humbled by it.
I rejected it when it felt too much,
a wound for the world to reflect back to me.

I came into being on land with many thousands of years of history,
hundreds of years of invasion, genocide, and colonization,
and a more recent layer of warpiness and trauma as the Catholic church permeated everything - socially, medically, legally, education etc.

Despite 18+ years of attempted indoctrination, none of it stuck.
Because deep down, I knew what they were peddling wasn't Truth.

It's no longer a wound.
It's no longer a belief.
It's a way of being.

A quiet knowing that sometimes defies logic and/or mass consensus reality.

Disconnecting people from
- themselves
- discomfort
- pleasure
- their inherent personal power
- nature and the land
- ancient knowledge and teachings
- communities
- Reality
is everywhere and
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬𝐧'𝐭 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡.

Truth isn't always comfortable or convenient. It's paradigm-shifting, messy, painful, and will unveil old patterns and everything that isn't You.

𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 is what I'm in service to.
In myself, and in those I work with.
𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 is part of what lights me up in working with my clients.

𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡.
𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐜.
𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲.
𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.

Humans are a social species '𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘸𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥' to connect so it's natural to seek reassurance and acceptance.

Neuroscience indicates we're designed to connect with others, as mirror neurons in our brains are stimulated when we interact.

When talking to someone, these neurons activate and respond to the actions we observe in others. Certain pathways in the brain process/mirror behaviors (or emotions) the other person is conveying.

As change sweeps through your life, you might find yourself seeking validation from others. The challenge lies when our sense of trust and validation is mainly outward-orientated.

This manifests as asking for advice from others rather than turning inward towards your own wisdom, indecisiveness, regularly doubting yourself, and getting stuck in learned helplessness.

It can also look like overachieving, success (by society's definition), and feeling the need to keep attaining qualifications or certifications.

🌟✨ 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫'𝐬 𝐞𝐲𝐞𝐬, 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧.

External validation is like chasing a mirage—it can never truly quench your thirst for self-acceptance. Truth is, the most powerful validation comes from within. Sounds easy right?

But validation from within is a lifelong practice. It requires honoring your own worth, making choices aligned with your values, and embracing self-compassion.

J is an accomplished senior leader I worked with last year. On paper, J had a successful life with an impressive list of degrees, awards, and promotions over two careers. However, she didn't feel like it was "enough."

Through our coaching journey, I guided and challenged J to uncover her own wisdom and align her decisions with her true self. She discovered that her worthiness was not dependent on external factors but rooted in her inherent strengths and values. She realized she'd been seeking external reassurance to validate her achievements, and sense of self-worth.

As we celebrated her small and big wins and acknowledged her growth, she experienced self-validation and gained greater self-confidence. J recognized a deeper pattern of feeling unworthy in other areas of her life and also sought therapy to address the root causes.

To reorient yourself towards self-validation, it's important to better understand who you are as an individual - your beliefs, values, and strengths.

Improving your relationship with yourself is key:
- Embrace the strength and wisdom that resides within you.
- Cultivate a deep sense of self-trust.
- Trust your instincts, honor your values, and listen to the whispers of your heart.

𝐂𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬, 𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐯𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐧𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞.

🌿 Movement Is Medicine
💨 Breath Is Medicine
👐 Touch Is Medicine
🛌 Rest Is Medicine
🎠 Play Is Medicine
💖 Connection Is Medicine

Reflect on how you will prioritize your "medicine" and personal evolution today.

💫 Will you move your body, savor each breath, embrace the power of touch (yes self-touch is also beneficial!), or allow yourself much-needed rest.

Maybe your medicine is to engage in joyful play, read, break out your dusty art/craft supplies, reconnect with a friend, or seek out new meaningful connections.

Inviting you to take a moment to reflect on how you'll embrace and prioritize these forms of medicine in your life, today.

💫 The choice is yours

Connecting to your courage will change your life. In doing so, you allow life to meet you with new opportunities, connections, and experiences.

Courage forces you to step outside your comfort zone, evolve as a human, and live your purpose.

Courage is powerful and can propel you toward a life of fulfillment, purpose, and success. I remember the moment I decided to leave my job, home, family, and friends in Ireland to embark on a new chapter.

After arriving home from work, I was cooking dinner in the tiny kitchen of my 1800s cottage. My mind was spinning as I mulled over an invitation.

Later that evening, I stretched out in front of the fireplace, quietened my loud mind, and connected to my heart. My brain said one thing, but my body and heart lit up at the opportunity. I listened to the part that whispered 'Go!' and took action, applying for a work visa and a bank loan with a mix of terror and excitement.

It took an immense amount of courage to leave behind the familiar and embrace the unknown - 4400 miles away in Canada. And my journey was supported by certain privileges and advantages like being able to access a loan.

However, courage doesn't discriminate; it resides within each of us, regardless of our background, experience, or circumstances.

What are some ways for you to tap into your courage?
More posts coming this week ;)

If I asked you to name all the things you love, would you mention yourself?

How long would it take?

Would you pause, searching the depths for clarity, or would the answer flow from your lips without hesitation?

You, with your constellation of dreams and whispered desires, have you forgotten the tender warm heart that beats in your chest?

In that moment of self-acknowledgment, you claim your birthright - an unyielding, unconditional love that resides within.

💡 When you find that love within, it radiates outward, a beacon of light illuminating the darkness.

I'm curious - how long it would take for you to name yourself? 😉❤️

🖕F living under the weight of perfection with its expectations, heaviness, and inhumanity. This can be a life lesson years in the making.

Y'all, as a recovering perfectionist, the irony doesn't escape me that my HD incarnation cross is Correction.

People hear "positive vibes only" so much that they think everything they do has to be perfect.

Focusing only on the 'positive' suffocates other valid expressions of your humanity which leads to suffering, imposter syndrome, burnout, and disease.

Doing things 'just so' led to creating a successful career of strategic support and correction, noticing patterns, and tiny details while keeping a bigger picture in mind.

It also kept me stuck in my personal life, being unwilling to be vulnerable or seen fully, and in other ways that weren't apparent to the outside world. I was living from a place of tight, rigid energy.

What's your relationship with imperfection?

What's your relationship with discomfort?

Are you able to identify behaviors or patterns that are no longer serving you?

❤️ Thank the people in your life who love you enough to reflect back the greatness within you *and* who will call you in/out when you're self-sabotaging or willing to settle for less.

Those friends watching you live in a comfort zone or engaging in habits keeping you unhappy, disconnected, and unfulfilled but say nothing?

I mean, it’s easier to pretend not to notice when someone is stuck, or living out of integrity than it is to have a conversation with them.

It's important to have people in our lives who reflect the greatness we carry AND who lovingly challenge us to get out of our comfort zone and survival mechanisms to play a bigger game in our life.

Gaining language and an understanding of how we unconsciously engage in perfectionism as a coping mechanism is where we're able to start healing and begin to live more authentically. Yes, that means accepting mistakes, messes, and mending.

❤️ By identifying those unhelpful patterns and understanding how perfectionism sneaks into your life as a coping mechanism, it leads further on a path to healing and living more authentically.

⚡⚡⚡ p.s. Waitlist is now open for the next round of 1:1 life and leadership coaching* in mid-July for leaders, creatives, business owners, & disruptors wanting to create a uniquely impactful life & legacy.

I’m a professional transformational coach and International Coaching Federation member who can support you in transforming burnout, self-censorship, and disconnection from yourSelf while creating and living a life that feels so good!

*Services by application. I offer a no-pressure introduction call at no cost to see if it's a mutual fit. Private coaching packages and payment plan options are available.