14/10/2026
Becoming the woman you’re meant to be comes with a bill, whether you like it or not.
When I started setting boundaries, some people went quiet. Awfully quiet.
The ones who’d always had my YES, my always being there, my picking up the bill.
I took it personally for a long time. Maybe it was me? Did I do something?
I kept doubting until it hit me one day...they weren’t leaving me.
They were just missing a version of me that had been very convenient for them. The one that put them first. Their feelings, their comfort, their convenience.
But the version I was becoming? She didn’t play by that book anymore. I felt it in myself too.
I’d grown into someone who said the thing she used to swallow, who stopped blaming and took responsibility for her own life, and part of me grieved the woman I’d left behind.
She was exhausting, but she was familiar. I knew exactly how to be her. Until I didn’t.
Why do we not talk about that part of growth out loud?
Growth isn’t just a glow-up or a switch you turn on. It’s an entire all-in journey. It is shedding.
You lose something. Some friendships, some habits, some stories you told about yourself that felt like home.
It’s hard, but you do it regardless, for YOU.
And I’d choose the woman I’m becoming every single time.
So let’s be real, what’s one thing you’ve outgrown that you didn’t think you had to grow out of?
