Suhani Vaidya

5 Factors Affecting Self Esteem

Self Esteem is the overall opinion you have of yourself.

Sense of self-doubt, you are overly apologetic, Perfectionism, procrastination, negative self-image, needing to prove your worth, and being a workaholic - a way to prove yourself are all symptoms of low self-esteem.

Surprised?

I wasn't aware I struggled with low self-esteem. I worried about other people's opinions, and no matter what I did, how I showed up, or how much I achieved, nothing was ever good enough. And this led to me lacking fulfilment & purpose and happiness in my life and career.

Working on myself and learning the tools and strategies helped me build my self-esteem, gain confidence, and start believing in myself and my abilities to help and guide others. What an incredible journey!

Are you struggling with low self-esteem? Here are some of the factors that affect your self-esteem.

1. Your experiences:
The most obvious factor that can affect your self-esteem is your childhood experiences. Most of the beliefs you hold about yourself reflect the messages you receive from teachers, parents, siblings, peers and those who influenced you.

2. Your potential:
Another factor that can impact your self-esteem is your level of achievement or success. It can be easy to start doubting yourself if you don't feel like you're reaching your full potential.

3. The opinions of others:
What others think of you also influences how you see yourself. If you constantly feel like you're being criticised or devalued by others, you are more likely to struggle with poor self-esteem.

4. Your personal relationships:
How you interact with those around you can also affect your self-esteem. It can be challenging to feel good about yourself if you don't feel like you have healthy or supportive relationships.

5. Your mental health:
Finally, your own thoughts and perceptions are a significant factor in self-esteem. Constantly focusing on your weakness and flaws leads to depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues; it can be hard to feel positive about yourself.

If you're struggling with low self-esteem, it's important to remember that several factors can contribute to it.

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👌5 Tips To Attract Abundance Into Your Life

When you think of abundance, what image pops up in your head?

Abundance isn't just about the money. It is having abundant thinking, dialogue, and words in the areas of mindset, money, relationships, and health.

Do you believe? Or have you heard these growing up?
"There's not enough to go around."
"Don't be greedy."
"You can't have it all."
"If you have more, someone else will suffer."

Contrary to many beliefs that are limiting us,
Abundance actually means the more you have, the more you get,
the more you get, the more you give.
The more you give, the more you receive to give back to the world!

So many of us run away from abundance; we don't even know we do it.

We are actually scared of money; we are terrified of love. What if we get rejected? All in all, we are afraid of having an abundant mindset.

To attract abundance into your life. Focus on these practices:

1. The thing is, What you want, wants you.
What you are moving towards is moving towards you. We live in an abundant world. We just don't know it.

2. Get into a habit of questioning the beliefs that are holding you back. When you question a belief, guess what? You don't believe it anymore.

3. Wholeheartedly be thankful for all you have and the good things that happen to you. This attitude of gratitude will attract more abundance into your life.

4. Your mind's job is to go after what you want. If you see it, you can achieve it. Visualize yourself surrounded by abundance. You get to create your life; make it an outstanding masterpiece.

5. Seek help from a mentor.
A good mentor can help you ditch the diminishing beliefs, patterns and conditioning and instil empowering ones, so you become a magnet to attract your life's abundance. If you're struggling to attract abundance into your life, consider finding a mentor who can help you get your magic back.

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How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Why is it so hard for many of us to say no?

It can be tough to say no, especially when feeling pressured or obligated. We may worry about disappointing others or fear that we'll seem rude or uncooperative. But saying no is essential in caring for our needs and setting healthy boundaries so we can say yes to ourselves.

I used to be very uncomfortable saying no to others. Working from home part-time with a two-year-old toddler, completely overwhelmed with my workload, I remember saying yes to taking on a new project in my corporate job. I knew very well at the time it was a bad idea. But I was afraid of saying no. Feeling guilty, they wouldn't like or accept me or even fire me.

As a result of saying yes to everyone, I felt like I was treated as a doormat at home and work. But now I realize it's not only okay to say no but also necessary.

So if you're afraid to say no, remember it's okay. It doesn't mean you don't care about others; saying no is the best thing you can do for yourself and others from the get-go.

Four strategies to say no without guilt:

1. Learn to say NO without justifying yourself.

Fear of saying no is one part; the other is we usually justify the reason. Justifying why we are saying no reinforces our need to please others. A simple "No, I can't help you with that today" is enough.

2. Be persevering.

It is an opportunity to get a little uncomfortable and stand your ground by practising persistence. Stick to your decision firmly and politely.

3. Give yourself permission to say NO.

It's Okay to honour your needs and respect your priorities. It's important to remember you are not responsible for everyone else's needs but yourself.

4. Practice saying no.

The more you practice, the easier it will become. Start with small opportunities and work your way up to bigger ones.

Saying no can be challenging at first, but it gets easier with practice and saves you from burnout. It's worth preserving your sanity in the long run.

Saying no can be tricky, but doing what's best for you is essential.

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👌 The Truth Behind Happiness

We all want to be happy, don't we?

Happiness is subjective, and it can vary from person to person.

We all chase Happiness in our lives through careers or relationships. Ultimately the question we ask ourselves is will this fulfill us, and will this make me feel satisfied?

A few years ago, I realised Happiness for me is doing what I love and exploring what brings me joy and satisfaction. And doing things I am incredibly passionate about.

Many people think when they have a lot of money, they'll have financial freedom and don't have to worry. What if?
You are working so much and making all the money, and you don't even have the time to enjoy the money, enjoy the free time you have and you feel lonely and miserable.

And when you come home, you don't want to do anything. You end up zoning out watching TV, drinking, or socialising to escape this internal chaos.

In reality, Happiness is an embodied experience that varies from mild satisfaction to wild Euphoria.

Someone wise said, "HAPPINESS comes from within and is found in the present moment by making peace with the past and looking forward to the FUTURE."

Seeking Happiness? I would love to help.

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❤How To Forgive Deep Wounds

Forgiveness doesn’t come easy, especially when it hurts.

When somebody hurts, abandons or abuses us. Do you know how much anxiety & depression producing energy it takes to hold on to unforgiveness?

I don’t know YOUR hurts but I know how deeply it hurts. I have had a fair share of intense wounds that were extremely hurtful & hard to forgive. As much as I wanted to cut them up into pieces and burn them alive, after going through the process of forgiveness, I can’t emphasize enough how peaceful I feel within.

Start with the three essential steps to forgive:

✅ Recognize that you need to forgive. This may seem obvious, but oftentimes we are reluctant to forgive because we don't want to admit that we have been hurt. We pretend it didn’t happen or minimize the effects it had on us. Forgiving doesn't mean it never happened or believing we are too strong an adult to be affecting us. It is realising we need to forgive. It is not an event, It is a process - Just like the severe burns on your skin needs to be healed inside out one layer at a time.

✅ Acknowledge the hurt. It might make you mad that you need to admit to forgive. You can’t forgive what you can’t acknowledge. It's important to allow yourself to feel the pain you've experienced. Admit that it hurts you, you have to face it and feel it so you can forgive.

✅ FORGIVE. Once you've recognized that forgiveness is necessary and have acknowledged your feelings, you consciously decide to forgive the person who hurt you. FORGIVENESS is for us to set ourselves free.

By forgiving, you're choosing to release yourself from the pain of the past and move on with your life.

Forgiving can be a difficult process, now more than ever it's important to forgive to have more freedom, more Joy, to be yourself and to live on purpose.

Still struggling? Would you like a cheerleader who can help?

Work with a mentor…

Working with a mentor can help you learn how to forgive. A mentor can offer guidance and support as you work through the process of forgiving together. They can also provide resources and tools that can help you in your journey towards forgiveness.

If you are seeking forgiveness, it is important to find someone who you trust and feel comfortable talking to. If you need help, I am here.

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