Elevate with Gem

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Self love is important,

But so is a healthy dose of self awareness;

The humility to say ‘ughh I really don’t like how I’ve been behaving’

Or

‘I know I could be showing up waaay better in ___ area of my life’.

It’s not to shame ourselves or put ourselves down; it’s to allow ourselves the growth to step into being the people we want to be.

So sis, if we’re being really honest, where do you know you could improve?

And what specific steps are you going to put into place to allow that improvement to occur?

Your highest self is waiting for you babe. She’s lovingly waiting for you to be tired of holding yourself back.

So, what’s your next step?

I’m not the ‘get you there at any cost’ kind of trainer;

I won’t put your aesthetic goals ahead of your health.

I’ve been there; I know what it feels like to hate the body that you’re in so much that you’re willing to do anything to ‘fix’ it.

I’ve been so desperate to change that I’ve inflicted horrible abuse on my body too.

When you’re that desperate you’ll do anything. Cut out entire food groups? Easy. Exercise 7 days a week to near breaking point? Done. Starve yourself? Sure. Just tell me what to do & I’ll do it.

The thing I learned though is this: it will never be enough.

The pain that you’re feeling right now, it doesn’t go away when you reach your ‘dream body’.

You can’t hate yourself into a version of you that you love.

And honey, you deserve to know what it feels like to radiate self love, self respect & live in a happy & healthy body.

I’m not the ‘get you there at any cost’ kind of trainer. But I am the girl who can teach you how to show up for your goals AND love the body that you’re in.

For online or in person training, send me a DM ✨

Life is cyclical, it’s just like the seasons.

There will be times of growth, expansion & everything feeling smooth sailing.

There will be periods of rest, destruction & the feelings of everything falling apart.

Here’s what the seasons have taught me:

We need to stop fearing the winter, the lulls, the metaphorical s**t hitting the fan, because in truth, we need it.

Every big & great level up in my life was preceded by a time of utter discomfort, of feeling like everything was over for me (dramatic, I know).

But I’ve learned that just like the trees lose their leaves, we also need to experience periods of loss & hibernation to make way for the new growth coming our way.

Sometimes it’s these moments of feeling so fu***ng uncomfortable that finally forces us to take action.

Sometimes it’s losing the things we didn’t want to lose, only to be gifted with something better we didn’t even know to wish for.

The reality is, no matter how bad it might feel, you’ve survived every situation life has thrown you so far. And if you stop to look at the details you’ll probably realise that rock bottom taught you things the mountain tops never could.

Next time it feels like it’s all over for you, remember this. Instead of distracting, sit with the discomfort. What is this time asking of you? What do you need to let go of? Who do you need to become to move into the next version of you? If you’re quiet enough you’ll hear the answers. If you’re brave enough you’ll listen.

You will survive the fall & in the process you’ll realise that you can fly.

“I have to train”

Or

“I get to train”

You’re the narrator babe, you decide how the story sounds.

As for my story? I’ve decided I’m either going to change anything I don’t want filling up my pages or I’m going to get damn grateful about it being there.

No in between.

I get to go to work. I get to pay bills for the things I’m lucky enough to have access to. I get to take care of my body with exercise. I get to cook nutritious food.

Perspective.

In what ways do you still hold back from your full bodied expression?

In what ways do you shame, hide, diminish parts of yourself to be more palatable, more accepted, more loved?

And can you see how this isn’t actually about other people? That it is actually you not accepting & loving those parts. That you are projecting the unacceptance of others before you’ve even given them a chance to prove you wrong.

For me I still struggle in revealing ’messy’ emotions. Sadness, anger, tears. The pain & the vulnerability is something I’ve told myself that people won’t know how to handle. And so I often find myself trying to hold back from these very real, normal, human emotions.

But I then I stop to consider that I’ve never thought of someone else’s emotions as ‘messy’. I’ve never listened to someone’s pain & thought them less worthy of love because of it. So why should I hold these beliefs for myself?

How about sis? Is there a part of you that your soul is begging to let you express? Maybe it’s time we all started leaning a little more into our full selves.

no rainbows without rain 🌈🌦

HOW TO NOT SELF DESTRUCT:

You have to take the tiny victories.

The wins that actually feel like losses.

The wins that look like turning off Netflix & going to bed early when 99% of you wants to say ‘f*ck it’ to your goals, your early morning, your future productivity & wellbeing.

The 99% of you that gets enough pleasure & distraction from the self destruct, the downwards spiral because in a twisted way it is comforting.

Comforting like going back to a toxic ex is in that it’s familiar, even though it’s awful - the devil you know.

It’s the 1% that’s really uncomfortable. It’s unknown, unpredictable, unsafe in that it will require you to let go of your demons that you cling to as some nostalgic identity that lets you off of the hook for all the things you never accomplished.

You ignore the 1%, shush her, put her in a box because she terrifies you. She demands greatness (which you have) but she requires an unwavering commitment.

A commitment in the sense that once you’ve chosen her she won’t let you forget. You can stray off course, go back to your demons & your distractions but she’ll take all the pleasure away because you’ll know that you’re choosing to betray her.

You’ll hate yourself for standing in front of your dream & choosing the initially satisfying but ultimately devastating path of self-destruction.

So choose her. Especially when the 99% is drawing you in. That is when she needs you to stand up to your commitment the most.

Take the tiny victory, own that you have the potential for greatness & that you can stay true to your word.

Turn off Netflix & go to bed.

Why does investing in yourself feel scary?

Why does committing to the coaching/learning/accountability bring up all kinds of resistance?

I think the answer for you lies in the answer to a different question:

What core belief about yourself is being contradicted or challenged by you choosing to go all in?

Sit with that one for a minute. Let it be uncomfortable. And in that discomfort you might discover the part of you that truly NEEDS the coaching/learning/accountability.

The part of you that won’t invest in yourself because deep down you don’t believe you are worthy of more,

Or the part of you that doesn’t trust yourself to follow through on your commitments,

Or the part of you that feels threatened by success.

These parts are very real for most of us. And we usually let them unconsciously rule our decision making.

But what if you decided that you weren’t going to let those parts control you any more.

What if, in meeting those parts of you, you recognised that they are the parts that would most benefit you if you learned to ignore them, to challenge them, to unlearn their belief systems.

So while they will be throwing tantrums as you lean into the discomfort of committing to your growth, I hope you find the courage to do it anyway.

We all have those parts sis, don’t let yours hold you back any longer ✨

‘Show off’

It’s not something that we ever want to be labelled as.

Our whole life we’ve conditioned to know that being a show off is a bad thing, will lose you friends & essentially punish you for owning your abilities.

I get it, no one wants to be around someone who talks themselves up by making others feel small. But have we become so concerned with not being that person that we’ve inadvertently kept ourselves small?

Is our aversion to being called out, to being labelled as a show-off in fact holding us back from our potential?

I know for me it definitely was. In trying to avoid being put in the ‘show off’ box I learned from a young age to keep quiet about the things I was good at. Not just verbally but also in how I performed. I tried really hard not to draw attention to myself, “don’t be too much” I’d say to myself.

And while I may have avoided being called a show off I also avoided stepping fully into my capabilities. Through me teaching myself to be ‘modest’ I also started to believe that I really wasn’t capable of more.

And what a waste of a life that is.

We get one chance to do all the insanely cool things we want to do with this life. And we do no one favours by not letting our talents be known.

So tell me sis, is it time you let yourself step into all of your abilities? To let yourself be seen, to achieve & to celebrate those wins? The world needs your gifts, so please, risk being a show off, I want to see you shine 🤩