Reboot Mindset Training

Proactive leaders seek feedback (by asking the right questions), listen without defensiveness, and use what they hear to improve.

Reactive leaders avoid the conversation because the truth may not support the image they have of themselves.

Which one are you going to be?

One of the main reasons argy bargy is so difficult to deal with in the workplace (and at home) is because we’re not dealing with conflict, we’re dealing with combat – and the later is all about winning, not about solving.

Conflict is one of the healthiest things you can have in a relationship, because conflict is “I don’t see it the way you do, therefore, can you help me understand how you see it?”

Where as combat, is “I don’t see it the way you do, therefore, you’re wrong!”

One is going to give you a plethora of new possibilities, creative solutions and buy-in from those around you.

The other is going to make your environment reminiscent of puberty, where the biggest tantrum wins.

So, how do you prevent combat and get everyone to embrace healthy, grow-inducing conflict?

Easy!

You let everyone know beforehand, what will happen when things get tense, instead of trying to resolve it (or avoid it) once it does.

In next week’s Reboot Toolkit, I am sending everyone a copy of my Open Dialogue Agreement – a one page, 10-line document that I guarantee will create a shift in how people communicate.

The Agreement takes less than a minute to read and I invite you to slap it up in the tearoom, hand it to everyone at induction, pass it around at your toolbox meetings or better still, stick it on the back of all the toilet doors.

If you’re not already receiving the Toolkits, you can subscribe here: https://tinyurl.com/RebootYourWorkplaceToolkit

Because the best way to deal with combat is to prevent it, but you need to teach people how.

The moment we draw breath, put the issue on a metaphorical milk crate and look at it from other angles, we become less reactive, more curious, and a hell of a lot easier to be around.

If you’re fighting to be right, you’ve already lost!

What would happen, if just for one day, we all had a thought bubble above our heads revealing what we’re are actually thinking?

Do you reckon you’d be in strife?

Miss Nyla here on the other hand does not need a thought bubble.

💭You went to the fridge and came back with nothing?

I was in the supermarket and I had a lady come out of nowhere and throw her arms around me – a tad disconcerting let me tell you! Reckon if I knew karate she’d have been a goner

Anyway, seems she signed up to an online course I ran aaaaages ago and she’s off conquering stuff and feeling a million bucks and she’s attributing that to me. As tempting as it was to get a fat head, I had to correct her because I am merely a tool (haha – many would agree) but she’s the one that actually used it.

Anyway, it was a pretty special experience, and even though I haven’t thought about that course for ages, it inspired me to bring it out of mothballs in case you reckon now's a good time to tell control freaks, all those nasty pasties and while we're at it, that bloody inner critic to jog on too!

It used to be a 6-week thing with a community and challenges with a hefty price tag, but now you can just download the whole thing and do it on your own for just 45 bucks!

Kind of like a pep talk from me on tap. Lord have mercy!

There are 19 video lessons that you can watch, listen to or mix it up and do a bit of both. Digest some, digest them all and do it in whatever order you like and keep it forever.

WARNING: I made it a few years ago, so I was a bit more theatrical in those days and far less filtered – hence the title LOL UNFCK Yourself & Find U. Mind you, I'm not crass or vulgar, just .... um .... real I guess.

In case you’d like to know more, these are the modules:

Module 1: Overcome Self-Sabotage
Module 2: How to Stop the Drama
Module 3: How to Change Your Self-Talk
Module 4: Set Boundaries like a Badass
Module 5: How to Have tricky Conversations
Module 6: How to Start Backing Yourself.

Grab it here https://tinyurl.com/UNF-yourself-and-Find-U

Feel free to share this with anyone who is dealing with controlling people, having to manage other people’s emotions or is doubting their own value.

When I run training, I always like to tailor the content and the icebreakers so they're not only helpful but also fun for those in the room.

Some of the quirkier challenges I've risen to have been delivering:

🪄Training with a full on Harry Potter theme (content and costumes).

🧸Leadership training where everyone wore onesies.

🏆A Survivor themed teambuilding sesh.

😳The Office themed dysfunctional behaviours workshop

💣A Mission Impossible themed communication day.

But, I have never run a Dad Joke Throwdown … until now!



What an absolute hoot this was.

It was an icebreaker that started a three-hour Click! Colours communication session for Warrikal. There were 21 leaders in the room, who all came prepared with a dad joke that’d take less than 20 seconds to deliver. Everyone had a scoring sheet where they had to give each comedian's joke a score out of 10, with at least two decimal places (to prevent the likelihood of a draw).



Then, the score sheets were spirited off to an unidentified judge, elsewhere in the building who tallied the results, and these were announced at the end of the session.



Happy to announce that the hilarious Clinton Guppy was crowned the winner of the Inaugural Warrikal Dad Joke Throwdown by a 6.72 point landslide.



His joke was a real corker, but it just missed out on a PG rating, so if you want to know what it was, happy to share, but you’ll need to PM me 🤭

BTW, I reckon you can never have enough dad jokes in your day, so feel free to add your own in the comments. Happy to give yours a score 🤣



If you want to add some memorable oomph to your next training day, I’m up for the challenge (I think).

Shoot me a theme and I’ll see if it’s something I can dive into my props cupboard and pull off for you.

www.RebootMindsetTraining.com.au

May the 4th be with you!

Great day for a bit of leadership curiosity around whether you’re leading from the light side or the dark side.

🌑 Dark side: Your team needs Jedi-level patience to navigate your moods and inconsistencies. Those you like get the best of you, those you don’t, get very little of you.

✨Light side: Your team knows where they stand because you’re fair, and make decisions based on policy, not preference. They don’t hesitate to tell you important stuff because they know you can manage your emotions.

Great leaders will ask their teams which ‘side’ they reckon they’re on.

If any of your staff hesitate to answer then you may have one foot on the dark side, because your people shouldn’t need to check what kind of mood you’re in before they decide if it’s safe to be open and honest.

Great news - it’s never too late to defect.

As I was driving home yesterday, I started reflecting on how different we all are, yet at the core, we’re all the same.

So, why is it that so many of us see the exact same situation differently, and appear almost oblivious to different viewpoints, and even competitively territorial about our own viewpoint?

I find this so interesting and have no judgement for anyone with a different view because, well we all have a lifetime of encountering s**tty people, phenomenal people, stark raving mad people and people so visionary we can only be in awe.

All of them have taught us something about ourselves, about the world and about what we need to be, do or have in order to be accepted, successful or loved.

After stopping halfway home for coffee, sadly decaf (because late in the day I’d be a menace at 2am if I got the high octane stuff), something else occurred to me.

We are all very, very, very, very, very committed to proving our limitations.

That no one gives a % #!&.
That we’ll look stupid if we …
That no one wants us.
That we’re the problem.
That we’re doing it all alone.
That we’re failing.
That we’re not safe.
That we’re not attractive.
That love comes with a catch.
That we don’t get a say.
That we’re better than others.
That everyone’s better than us.
That we’re too fat.
That no one gives a toss.
That we’re no good at ...
That we need control.
That we’re not valued.
That the good stuff won’t last.
That happy is unsafe.
That we’re no good at …
That it’s all too hard.
That we’re s**t.
That they’re s**t.
That it’s all going to s**t.

It’s bloody exhausting.
For us and for those around us.

We should stop that.

Imagine what could be possible for us if we stopped being so committed to collecting evidence that we’re isolated, lonely, better than others, not as good as others, unsafe, inept, powerless, defective, superior, useless etc.

You know what would be possible?

We’d finally see all the opportunities, the ideas and the meaningful connection that is all around us every single day, that our commitment to lack, makes us blind to.

How do we do it?

We simply become prepared to shift our perspective.

In those times you feel angry, lonely, unheard, not enough ask yourself: what am I committed to proving right now?

And if it doesn’t feel good, shift your perspective til it does, or at least until it feels a little better.

Because the heavy things you’re believing are true … just might not be.