Evan Spargo Coach

The true test of our edge comes when we are in the arena.

For me, Hyrox a few weeks ago was the arena.

It’s where we are in the field of “battle”, where there is nowhere to hide, the stakes are high and all you have is yourself, and the work you’ve done to rely on.

The arena could be a boardroom, a sales pitch, a marathon, a relationship, a hard conversation, speaking your truth in front of an audience.

It’s been years since I did something truly outside of my comfort zone that physically and mentally pushed me to my edge.

I got to 3/4 through the Hyrox race, my heart rate had been over 175bpm for almost an hour, and I was yelling to my doubles partner Blake, “Mate, I’ve got to slow down, I’m cooked.”

He just looked back and said, “Brother, you’ve got this.”

And after many years, that was the moment I met my edge.

The voice in my head was screaming to stop, my back was seizing, I thought I was going to purge from both ends lol, but something deep within me took over and started leading.

The message was clear… “Don’t stop until the end.” And so I didn’t.

It was liberating, deeply satisfying and incredibly uncomfortable.

It dawned on me in that moment, how much as men we can leave on the table, how much untapped potential lives within us, but rarely gets the opportunity to be drawn from.

The way to our potential is well past our comfort zone, and I see so many high performers get to their 30s and 40s and stop testing themselves.

This included me for the last few years, and it reflected in how I felt about myself. I had lost a s**t load of confidence and aliveness, because I got too comfortable.

If you’re a man who knows he’s got untapped potential and something burning inside of him, it’s time to meet your edge again. Whether that’s a physical challenge, a mental one, or something that just genuinely scares you.

Our potential lives where our edge is.

Time to bring that s**t out again.

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This is exactly the work we do at The Awakening Men’s Retreat on July 3–6, in the Byron Hinterland NSW.

Four days. 10 men. Meet your edge.

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A few years ago I sat around a fire with a group of men I had never met at a retreat.

We were giving each other feedback, raw, honest, the kind I never got in everyday life.

When it came to my turn to speak I did what I always do, I prepared, I wanted to sound smart, polished and impressive.

Then something shifted.

A wave of ease moved through me, and instead of saying what I had prepared, I just spoke.

What came out was unscripted, strange, creative and weirdly me. The kind of thing I would normally edit out before it reached my mouth.

The guys started laughing. Which was surprising, because I’m not usually funny lol.

In that moment I realised something that changed everything.

It is okay to be me and to lead as me.

I had been hiding the best of myself because I did not know if it was good enough.

That fire gave me permission to stop doing things like everyone else and start doing them my way.

I also noticed I was not the only man sitting around a fire hiding the best of himself.

I built The Awakening for the introspective man…
The man who bottles everything up inside when he knows he has so much to say.
The man who has depth but never shows it.
The leader who looks after everyone else but himself and his own wellbeing.
The man who thinks he is too intense and that no one can handle him.

This is where men finally stop hiding the best of themselves, and bring all of it out.

I have taken everything I have learned over 20 years in fitness, coaching and sport, working with over 200 men, and put it into 4 days in the Byron Hinterland NSW.

A 4-day Men’s Breakthrough Retreat.
July 3–6, 2026. 10 men. 7 spots remaining as of today.

If something in you is nodding, that is not a coincidence.

Full details in the link in bio.

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The part nobody tells you about chasing high performance...

The books celebrate the wins.
The podcasts praise the grind.
The highlight reels shows the results.

Nobody shows you what it quietly costs…

Your relationships.
Your presence.
Your health.
Your sense of self.

Swipe through if any of this sounds familiar.

If you’re ready to perform at your best without paying this price, link in bio.

Your body knew you were breaking down before your mind admitted it.

Most of us men live entirely in our heads.

Thinking.
Analyzing.
Problem-solving.
Strategizing.
Ruminating.

Meanwhile, the body is screaming at us, and we have no idea.

Here’s what I’ve learned through the thousands of hours of coaching and my own breakdowns:

Your body doesn’t lie. When you ignore what you’re feeling for long enough, it shows up as physical symptoms instead.

The research backs this up...

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk spent decades studying trauma and found that unresolved emotions don’t just disappear, they get stored in your body as tension, inflammation, and nervous system dysregulation.

e.g. The weight around your gut that won’t shift…Chronic stress keeps cortisol elevated, which promotes fat storage in your midsection. Your body is literally holding onto weight because your nervous system thinks you’re under threat.

You can’t think your way out of a dysregulated body, the body has to come first.

But here’s what most of us don’t realize:

The body that’s been screaming at you is not broken, it’s trying to save you.

Every signal it’s sending… the tension, the exhaustion, the weight and the numbness is information. A map back to yourself.

The moment you stop ignoring your body and start listening to it, everything shifts.

Swipe through if any of this sounds familiar. Then ask yourself, what’s your body been trying to tell you?

E.g. tight jaw could be angry at a situation you’re not speaking out loud.

Tightness in shoulders could be you’re stressed at work and need to regulate.

Sick feeling in your stomach around your partner could be your gut telling you to have a conversation with them now.

Once identified, then take the action to address it.

Turned 37 yesterday and went on an adventure 🛳️🏝️

A little snapshot of the last 5-6 months…

From spending 3 epic months in Bali during winter, to landing back on the Gold Coast, and calling this home for the foreseeable future with .

After a long period of deep introspection, working on my own and travel, it’s been so fulfilling to settle, connect with community, catch up with lifelong friends and focus on what lights me up…

Coaching, footy, community, training, beach and committing to things that scare the s**t out of me.

Pumped for 2026!

Merry Christmas 🎄❤️

You’ve mastered performance, goals, business, sport, career…

But when it comes to women and relationships? It feels like a language you were never taught.

The higher the performer, the more tension I see in their relationship.

Here’s what women tell me again and again:

👉 “I don’t feel safe. He’s not present. He can’t handle me.”

And when she doesn’t feel safe, she won’t relax. When she can’t relax, she won’t open, soften, or trust your leadership.

Instead, she pulls away, complains, tests… and nothing you do feels enough.

The truth?

It’s not about more flowers, more date nights, or more fixing.

It’s about who you are in the moment with her:

✅ Your presence.
✅ Your steadiness.
✅ Your ability to hold yourself (and her) when it gets messy.

That’s the difference between being the man she craves… and the man she merely lives with.

That’s why I created this:

👉 How to Be the Man She Can Finally Relax With (a practical $9 guide)

Inside, you’ll learn:

✔ The 5 traits that shift her from guarded → open
✔ How to lead with calm presence (even in conflict)
✔ A weekly relationship check-in kit that brings back connection

This isn’t theory. These are the exact tools I teach high-performing men to rebuild trust, respect, and attraction.

If you apply it, she’ll feel the difference in weeks, not years.

DM me GUIDE and I’ll send you the link to grab your copy ($9)

Or tap the link in bio to get it now

Geeeez we’ve missed you Bali! 🙌🏽

For the past 18 months, I’ve been leading The Ascension, a Men’s Community I created for those ready to do the real inner work.

It’s been one of the most meaningful things I’ve ever built.

Here are 6 powerful lessons I’ve learned from holding space for men to heal, grow, and lead from who they truly are.

If you’ve been craving this kind of space…

My 6-week course is where it begins.

👉 Link in bio to join us.