Adam Simmonds

Stop trying harder in your marriage. Here's why it's not working.

Trying harder usually means trying to control your partner, and that creates resistance, not connection. The work is turning inward, not pushing harder outward.

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It's not divorce you want. It's a different experience with the person you married.

Do you actually want a whole new partner, or do you just want a different marriage with the one you have? Very different questions.

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You didn't fall out of love with your partner. You just stopped practicing it.

Love isn't a feeling you get once and keep forever, it's something you do daily. Most marriages don't end because the love disappeared.

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Her nagging is her fighting for you.

The moment she stops asking for change is the moment you should really start worrying.

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Love is a word. Care is a behaviour.

You can say I love you all day. If it's not showing up as action, she's not feeling it.

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Success outside, emptiness inside.

She's thriving at work, with friends, on her own. At home, she still feels completely alone next to you.

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Maybe you don't want someone new.

Maybe you just don't want another 20 years of this.

The distance. The resentment. The lack of intimacy. The feeling that you've become roommates instead of partners.

Maybe you want to feel something new with the person you already chose.

More connection. More intimacy. More laughter. More partnership. More of you two again.

The marriage you created at 30 isn't the marriage you live in your 40's, 50's and 60s.

Relationships are supposed to evolve and grow as we do.

You don't need to go back to how things were.

You need to create what comes next.

Follow and if you want to recreate your relationship and grow together instead of apart.

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