Tom Boyle

** I'd love your feedback **

I'm looking to run an in-person group for parents navigating separation, identity shifts, and rebuilding life after separation.

I'd love feedback on an optimal time & day each fortnight to run these events.

Wednesday evening?
Saturday morning?

Or another day/time each week?

Cheers,

Tom

Late Night Check-In

Almost midnight.

Quiet house.
Brax asleep.

I gave myself:
a couple of episodes of TV
food I’d avoided all week

Not from impulse.
From choice.

I knew I was borrowing energy from tomorrow.
So tomorrow, I don’t get to complain.

There's a new feeling in that awareness and ownership.

Today started early.
Out the door before sunrise.
Work done.
Money earned.
Then Currumbin Sanctuary... all this with my boy.
I am so grateful for the life I live and how he gets to witness first-hand Dad being resourceful and doing whatever it takes to succeed.

It was a great day.
No rush.
No agenda.

I’m noticing how much kids feel everything.
Tone.
Patience.
Energy.
It keeps me honest about the man I’m becoming.

There’s a shift happening.
Not because it’s all solved.
But because I’m choosing responsibility over noise.

Skills.
Money.
Leverage.

Agency over my time.

Nothing flashy.
Real, authentic movement.

Tomorrow I reset.
Lock in rhythm.
Nippers first thing and more quality time with my boy!

For now... it's time to sleep.

📢 Something Clicked for Me Tonight

I was listening to a podcast while doing the usual dad things - packing lunches, cleaning up, house quiet.
Something landed.

When I was coaching before, I worked with a lot of people who were struggling. Deeply. Some were unhealthy. Some were lost. Some were burnt out. Some were barely staying afloat.

I could help them with a lot.

BUT... I couldn’t help them with the one thing that actually controlled everything else - money.

I see now that this has been my own lesson too.

I’ve learned how to navigate separation.
How to co-parent.
How to keep showing up when life doesn’t look how you planned.

What I’m learning now is different.

How money actually works.
How leverage is built.
How to invest.
How people create freedom at scale - not by grinding harder, but by thinking differently.

I don’t have all the answers yet.

But I know this:
I’m no longer interested in surviving systems that were never designed to create sovereignty.

There’s something really pulling at me here.
I'm excited to explore this and see what unfolds.

** A Morning Like Most Others **

This morning started early - 4:30am.

I got up, listened to my hypnosis and then did breathwork.

Upon finishing breathwork Brax woke - unusually early... 5:20am. He wanted some extra cuddles. So we stayed in bed a bit longer than planned. I lay there with him while he settled back down. Part of me knew we could’ve jumped straight into the day - but being there with him mattered more in that moment.

By the time we got moving, the usual rhythm kicked in.
Out the door for our morning walk.
Then shower.
Breakfast.
Then into work. I am grateful that he can accompany me with this.

Some days still feel heavy in the body. The early starts add up. Energy isn’t always there on tap. And motivation doesn’t always show up when I’d like it to.

What I’ve learned - and keep relearning - is that waiting to feel ready doesn’t work for me.

What does help is movement.
Keep focused on moving the next thing in front of me.

Then in the afternoon make sure to get in another workout. A few squats. A few push-ups. Some weights. Some kettlebells. A stretch. A short sprint. My arvo sessions bring me back into my body.

Training has always helped me mentally. It clears noise. It gives me somewhere solid to stand when everything else feels uncertain.

I am noticing that there are seasons where clarity isn’t loud. Where answers don’t arrive neatly. Where I don’t have the full picture yet.

But I still show up.
I still take care of my son.
I still take care of my body.
I still take the next small step.
That’s what this morning was.
Nothing overly eventful.

Just a Dad doing his best to keep moving forward.

The Raw Truth About Single Parenting - and Why I’m Starting the Space I Wish Existed

It’s taken me a while to post this.

Not because I didn’t want to, but because I knew the second I shared this, there was no turning back.

For the last 12 months - especially the last 6 - I’ve been walking through a fire. Co-parenting, working multiple jobs, holding the emotional load of fatherhood, trying to show up for my son, Brax, while building a life that actually feels aligned.

In that time, I’ve had dozens of conversations with other parents - mums and dads - who are doing the same: raising kids, holding down careers or businesses, navigating separation, dealing with legal and financial stress, and still trying to stay sane, calm, and present.

It’s brutal. It’s transformative. And it’s a rite of passage I wouldn’t trade.

But there’s one thing that’s missing: community.

Real support. A place where you don’t have to pretend. Where you can talk about the things no one else gets unless they’re living single parenting too.

So I’m creating it: The Parenting Ground.

A weekly support group for single mums and dads. Honest convos, shared tools, and community.

This is for those of us doing it all - school drop-offs, bedtime routines, court dates, full-time work, managing debt, wanting to connect in vision, purpose, passion, and still trying to heal and grow through it all.

If you're feeling the weight and want somewhere to feel grounded, resourced, and supported - send me a message.

Why Parenting Agreements Are a Lifeline for Fathers

Co-parenting can be smooth. It can be cooperative. It can be about what’s best for the child.

But for some men, that’s not the reality.

For men dealing with high-conflict co-parenting, a rock-solid, court-backed agreement isn’t just paperwork—it’s survival.

Because without one, you’re playing a game where the rules change whenever the other parent decides.

Here’s the cycle men in these situations often face:

🚨 Step 1: Pressure & Demands
Flooded with urgent messages, requests, and pressure.
If you don’t comply immediately? You’re “uncooperative.”

🚨 Step 2: Control & Dominance
Decisions aren’t discussions, they’re demands.
If you set a boundary? You’re the problem.

🚨 Step 3: Manipulative Kindness
Suddenly, they’re “reasonable.”
They say “Let’s do what’s best for the child” (but it’s still on their terms). You may even receive an apology.

🚨 Step 4: Back to Pressure & Guilt
Once they get what they want? Back to pressure, back to control.

🔥 How to Break the Cycle

✅ Stick to the agreement like it’s law.
✅ No justifying, no defending—keep responses minimal.
✅ Stop negotiating outside the agreement.
✅ Protect your energy—your kid needs a stable, strong father.

Not all co-parenting is like this. But for those who face it—it’s exhausting.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. Hold the vision and hold your ground.