Eloise Tomkins - Money Coach & Psychologist

If someone has told you that making money is *supposed* to feel stressful, overwhelming, or constantly uncomfortable because it’s “outside your comfort zone”…

You need a new coach.

Yes, building wealth requires learning new skills - leadership, decision making, etc,

But there’s a difference between expanding into a new level… and living in constant stress.

Your body was never designed to operate in survival mode for money,

And the more normal money feels in your nervous system, the easier it becomes to make more of it.

Don’t let anyone convince you that pressure is the price of success.

If you’re ready for money to feel easier, safer, and far less emotionally charged…

Hit follow -

and let me know what you’re ready to let go of 👇

So many women have been taught - directly or indirectly - that wanting money makes you greedy, selfish, intimidating, less feminine, or “too much”

That being a “good woman” means being agreeable, self-sacrificing, and grateful for whatever she receives.

Those beliefs don’t just affect your income.
They shape your entire life.

I’ve seen women stay financially dependent because they believed they’d always be looked after… only to have to rebuild from scratch later in life.

I’ve seen women become the breadwinner while still feeling uncomfortable having to manage that much money.

I’ve seen women walk away from what they deserve financially because they’re terrified of conflict or being perceived as difficult.

And these patterns absolutely follow women into business.

Because you can be scaling rapidly, leading teams, negotiating big deals… while your nervous system is still carrying old conditioning around visibility, wealth, power, and receiving.

And here’s the truth:

Money isn’t the problem.

Money simply amplifies the conditioning women have been taught to survive inside of.

Which means the real work isn’t just making more money.

It’s becoming the kind of woman who can hold wealth, leadership, visibility, and success without toning herself down to do it.

Because when women finally feel safe with money… it doesn’t just change how much you make… it changes how you lead, the standards you set, the opportunities you say yes to.

And perhaps most importantly… The future their daughters believe is possible.

Because for most of history, women were never meant to have financial power.

So every woman who learns to make serious money without guilt… and want even more without apologising…

is changing history.

And THAT is why I do this work.

If you’re ready to become the woman who can actually hold the life she wants, send me a DM. I have a few 1:1 spaces open.

xx
Eloise

Would you rather earn millions or win it?

LMK below!

They don’t let other people’s discomfort regulate their income.

When a client hesitates after she names her price she feels the silence.. and doesn’t fill it with a discount.

When family asks how business is going, she notices the urge to minimise… and shares her wins.

She sees immediately when her income is being capped by someone else’s discomfort.

And she acts anyway.

Not because she doesn’t care what people think, but because she can survive being misunderstood.

That’s the difference.

You might think you could never do that.

I get it.

Money can shift the energy of a room and your nervous system doesn’t like that tension. It wants you to be liked because it thinks that’ll keep you safe.

So it slams the brakes.

The Money Brake.

The split second moment where your nervous system looks for the fastest way to keep you likable… instead of wealthy.

And until you learn to catch that moment in real time - your income will keep getting regulated back to what feels safe, not what you’re capable of.

That’s why I created The Money Brake.

Inside, we slow down that exact split second moment:
– The trigger
– The body response
– The belief that activates when money puts you in the spotlight

So you can hold eye contact, share the win out loud, and let the room adjust to your success.

If you’re ready to find your five-second pattern, comment BRAKE and I’ll send you the details.

It’s $37.

Because the woman who can tolerate being seen with money?? She’s the one who keeps it.

Let’s be real.

All that basic money advice got you here…
but it’s not going to get you where you actually want to go.

You’ve already worked harder than most people you know.

You’ve stayed up late thinking about your future, your freedom, the life you want to build.

And it’s not some faraway fantasy anymore.
It’s close enough to feel real and in reach.

BUT

Right now, you might be in that space where you want more... more money, more ease, more impact…
and the moment you go to reach for it, your body says no.

Not loudly, but just enough to make you hesitate.

And this is where your edge lives.. because it’s not about the money anymore. You’ve already proven you can make it.

What you’re actually navigating now is what happens when money asks you to be seen by your family, friends, strangers online.

Because after insight…
after strategy…
after “doing the work”…
The next level isn’t about effort.

It’s about whether your nervous system can stay present in that 5 second moment where wanting more meets being visible.

That’s what comes next.

Drop a YES if this resonates with you
& remember to follow

xx
Eloise

Money isn’t a magic wand… But this is. 👇

If it were as simple as just make more money, then you’d already be feeling safe and secure.

Thing is, money isn’t just money.

Money means that we have to push ourselves outside of our comfort zone and nervous system doesn’t really like that

more money means more visibility.
More visibility means more exposure.
With exposure… There’s the dreaded judgement,

and I’m not just talking about strangers on the Internet. I’m talking about your loved ones, family and friends.

All of a sudden your goals don’t seem so much like fun in games, they feel like a threat to your nervous system..

…and so you find yourself being brought back down to the level that feels oddly familiar…

Even though you logically know better

If you want to learn how to train your nervous system for more, then you are going to want to hit follow on my account -

Money won’t magically appear just cos we want it.

Crazy, know.

And I know you already know this.

So many brilliant women are sitting on ambitious income goals waiting to feel ready.

Waiting for the perfect moment, for some invisible permission slip to arrive that says:
✔ You’ve done enough
✔ You’re good enough
✔ It’s safe now

But… Your nervous system won’t magically update just because your goals got bigger.

If you don’t feel safe to have more, you’ll subconsciously find ways to delay, downplay, or disappear from the work that creates it (I know because this was me 🙋‍♀️)

It’s not for a lack of wanting or motivation — but our nervous system is still wired to seek just enough

If you’re done settling for enough and are ready to give yourself FULL permission for more thats exactly what we do inside The Wealth Upgrade.

Cos you don’t need to wait until youre ready.
But — you neee to understand what’s been holding you back so you can and learn how to work with your nervous system, not against it.

Doors are open now.

Link in bio to join the workshop.

Eloise xx

Here’s how ⬇️

She stopped discounting her services “just this once” because a client’s dog needed surgery.

She stopped replying to every 11pm email with free advice no one ever paid her for.

She stopped letting her ex “forget” child support while she was swiping her credit card for groceries (again).

And the wildest part is…

The second she stopped trying to be liked - and started saying NO - her income tripled

Now instead of scrolling real estate late at night, sighing over homes she might afford one day… she’s booking viewings and putting down deposits on her dream home.

👉 She’s not working harder than you.
👉 She’s not better with money than you.
👉 She’s not more qualified than you.

She simply let her nervous system learn this:
✔️ It’s safe to say no without guilt.
✔️ It’s safe to hold boundaries and still be loved.
✔️ It’s safe to make more money than feels comfortable.

Agreeableness doesn’t build empires. Boundaries do.

And when her nervous system finally felt safe to say no, she unlocked the clarity to build a business that pays her worth, clients who respect her time, and a life driven by desire - not fear.

That’s why she’s sipping champagne in the kitchen of her new home while you’re still scrolling through dream homes at midnight, wondering if you’ll ever get there

So the real question is…
Are you going to keep being agreeable? 
Or are you ready to be rich AF, regulated AF, and actually move into that dream house instead of just sticking it on your vision board?

If you’re done being agreeable and finally ready to be rich AF…

Join Regulated + Rich AF, my free 90-minute masterclass - where you’ll uncover the hidden nervous system patterns keeping your income capped and rewire your body to actually hold the wealth you’ve been chasing.

Link in bio

Or head here: https://www.eloisetomkins.com/unlock-next-level-wealth

Can’t wait to see you in the room!

xx
Elly