Hot, Foggy & Fabulous

For the past few weeks, we've talked about brain fog, 3am wake-ups, confidence wobbles, bodies doing things nobody warned us about, and the very important question:

"Is it me, or is it perimenopause?"

But the thing I've loved most hasn't actually been talking about symptoms.

It's been the conversations afterwards.

The “ME TOO.”

The “I thought I was the only one.”

The women sharing things they'd quietly been carrying around for months, sometimes years.

And that has reminded me why Hot, Foggy & Fabulous exists in the first place.

Not to tell women how menopause should look.

Not to hand you another impossible list of things you're supposed to be doing.

But to create a place where we can talk honestly about what this part of life actually feels like.

The foggy bits. The funny bits. The furious bits. And, increasingly, the rather fabulous bits too.

So now I want to hear from you.

**What do you wish women talked about more openly in midlife?**

Nothing is too awkward. We've already discussed hot flushes. The bar is low. 😂

Can I float an idea past you?

I've been thinking about what Hot, Foggy & Fabulous could become beyond posts, quizzes and masterclasses. And I keep coming back to this:

A retreat. A few days away for women in this strange, funny, sometimes exhausting middle chapter.

Not a bootcamp. Not three days of being told to optimise yourself. And definitely no compulsory sunrise chanting unless someone else is organising it. 😂

I'm imagining space to breathe.
Good food.
Beautiful surroundings.
Honest conversations about midlife, identity, confidence and what's changing.
Time to reflect.
Time to laugh.
Maybe learn a few things.
Maybe remember parts of yourself that got buried somewhere between work, family, hormones and looking after everybody else.
And most importantly, being around women who get it.

It's still an idea.

Before I disappear down the rabbit hole of venues, dates and colour-coded spreadsheets, I want to know:

Would you actually want to come?

If a Hot, Foggy & Fabulous retreat sounds like something you'd genuinely consider, register your interest here: https://hotfoggyfabulous.com/reset-retreat.

There's no commitment and nothing to buy.

I simply want to see whether enough of us are saying: Yes. I need this.

And if you like the idea, I'll keep you in the loop as the idea takes shape.

And then the masterclass ended.

Everyone closed their laptops, wandered back into their kitchens, probably discovered a cup of tea they'd made two hours earlier and completely forgotten about…

…and life carried on. 😂

But I hope something stayed with you.

Maybe it was finally having a name for something you've been experiencing. Maybe it was realising you weren't the only woman quietly wondering, what on earth is happening to me? Maybe it was simply hearing other women laugh about things you'd been secretly worrying about.

That's really what Hot, Foggy & Fabulous was built for.

Not to give you another hundred things to fix. Just to help you understand yourself a little better, feel a little less alone, and find your way through this stage without disappearing inside it.

So whether you came to the masterclass or you've only just found me:

Welcome.

We're not done talking. 💛

Tell me below: what's one thing you wish someone had told you about perimenopause or menopause sooner?

Thankyou to all the ladies that came along to our Hot, Foggy & Fabulous coffee catch-up this morning! I’m sorry I didn’t get to speak to all of you for long!

I’m thinking about running a Saturday morning coffee catch-up or a Friday evening after-work Cocktail catchup.

Please comment Cocktail or Saturday for which one is your preference. I would love to see some more midlife ladies transitioning through Perimenopause and Menopause at our catchups to help us all feel connected.

I’m f you’re coming to our HFF Coffee Catch-up this morning at Roto House - I am sitting on the verandah around the side. Walk past the counter and around the verandah to the right! I’m sitting opposite the trees. See you soon!