Stacey Zenzmaier Health Coaching

The honour and privilege of being a mother is in no way lost on me.

I take the role so seriously - probably too seriously in that literally every waking hour is spent thinking of them, their needs, how I can be better, do better. Or is that every mother?

I am far from perfect in this role - it’s a wild and beautiful mess.

Some days I just want to leap out of the closest window feeling like I am failing miserably, and other days I want time to freeze. I want to bottle it all up as my heart is just bursting with love and awe.

It’s bigger than me and really it should be right? It’s stretching me in ways I never knew possible. I live and I learn and I learn a little more. And for that, despite its hardness and harshness, I am so so grateful.

I hope that all Mums had a moment today to reflect on how incredible they are, wearing the many hats that motherhood brings.

I still believe society has a long way to go truly valuing and appreciating how crucial the role of a mother is. And I believe change will come faster when we truly value it from within first.

Happy Mother’s Day 💕

For something that one would assume should be so natural.. birth these days has additional threats and sometimes those threats are only realised in hindsight.

The amount of birth trauma that exists is mind blowing. Almost every mother you ask could tell you a story of their trauma.

Trauma is not what happens to us, but rather how we experience and perceive what happens to us.

Therefore, it mattered greatly to me who I would have supporting me during my pregnancy, labour and postpartum - fully supporting me in my decisions, without judgement.

Someone who truly heard my desires, believed in me and met my passion for

the experience of natural childbirth. No intervention.

It matters not where, how or with whom your story unfolds. Every story has its magic and it’s a beautiful thing that we have access to intervention if the need arises.

Empowerment is not about controlling the situations you find yourself in, but rather being the one in control of the choices you make when faced with those situations.

And having the right person standing beside you to remind you of your desires and potential, helping you remain in control of your decisions - with no hidden agenda but to keep you aligned with you - I believe is of the utmost importance.

may.doula was that person for me. But not just for me, for my husband also. She guided him too in playing a role he felt empowered and connected to. And he is just as grateful as me.

may.doula is the sweetest soul. Having birthed 4 babies of her own, all with unique stories, she has the experience. Add to that her passion for knowledge around all things pregnancy and birth, and you have what you need to help you achieve the birth your heart desires.

I am so grateful for Lauren and her incredible support during pregnancy, labour and postpartum.

I couldn’t have done it without you 🥹💕

Labour 📷 by

I love all things birth.

I believe it’s one of the greatest things I can achieve as a woman.

Ultimate empowerment and strength.

Throughout pregnancy I watched countless videos on women water birthing seemingly painfree. Where the baby seemed to just pop out.

I was amazed and wanted to challenge myself to do the same.

But I couldn’t. It wasn’t painfree or or****ic. And I wasn’t silent.. I was roaring.

It felt insanely painful and the only way I could move through the pain was to let it out vocally.

I don’t know if it’s that I have a lower pain threshold or that others have smaller than 4kg babies..? I’m still amazed that they can do it!

Regardless it was still the most incredible experience, reaching into the depths of strength that I hold inside.
That all women hold inside.

Forever grateful to for being there to support me and for capturing this moment perfectly - in all its fierce and roaring glory 🙌🏼

Full birth story to come - because I love reading them and want to help normalise all births. Not just the ones the media portrays 😊

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TRUST

Do you believe in something greater than you?

Or do you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders believing that life is all on you?

These are two very different ways to experience life. One comes with a whole lot more to deal with and at some point unravel, than the other.

Are you living all in your head? Or are you present enough to notice life’s synchronicities?

Synchronicity happens to us all the time. It’s in these moments that we are gently reminded that there is more at play than just little old us.

You know those moments where you are wanting something and it appears on the side of the road, or a friend turns up with it without you orchestrating it..?

How does this happen?

This book is a perfect example of that.

Me, edging closer to my next birth and as I walk past a communal library at the shops this book stands out to me - it’s perfectly aligned with my belief systems and I am loving reading it.

Perfect synchronicity that I didn’t have to “make happen”.

How often are you noticing this? How often are you allowing it? Or do you live in your head thinking you need to have it all worked out for anything right to happen?

Our spiritual belief system plays a big role in the complexity of our health and wellness. This is something I coach people on.

Some say that this statement is true of every given moment. And whilst I am aware of it I feel that my humanness does stumble at always seeing it, but rather I have moments of sheer presence where I really do connect this belief.

This morning I woke early, enjoyed the sunrise (it really was glorious) and sat in my thoughts. Connecting to what is coming up and how I can help myself feel better.

As the sun peaked over the horizon there was the glorious golden glow, the pink and orange hues, meeting a grey and blue sky. Rain could be seen scattered along the horizon with a background of sunshine. And on our roof fell raindrops.

All this I felt as an absolute reflection of my inner world. A cleansing taking place, with sun on the horizon. What a beautiful moment of reflection.

To give some context..
I was chatting to some beautiful friends last night where we acknowledged a theme of “Rejection” that we feel runs through our lives.

This morning I woke really feeling that and wanting to help myself feel better I did some healing processes I have learnt.. Identifying where it sits in my body, the shape it holds, and removing it. Replacing it with loving light. Engaging with my inner child, holding her in a warm embrace and sharing loving words.

Also identifying where this first appeared in my life and how it is triggered in the now.

Becoming a mother has really shifted me in lifetime changing ways. It has challenged me to face many shadows. It certainly hasn’t been easy or comfortable. And there is no doubt a lifetime of work still to come.

When I think back to who I identified as before motherhood, to whom I have unraveled now, the change is hard to put into words.

I guess the biggest part is how relationships have shifted and changed, and this is where the rejection trigger comes in.

Where as I shift, I struggle to allow relationships to move on without the entanglement of emotions being felt deeply. I struggle to let go without taking it personally.

But with processes and perspective I am able to help shift this and then embrace beautiful moments of my outer and inner world colliding.

What themes run in your life?

Speaking to one of my nearest and dearest today who is a new mother and feeling all the feels through her words as she rides the waves of entering motherhood.

There really is nothing like this role. Nothing else like this journey.

Mothers sacrifice their mind and body to another human being.. at times it feels you are giving every inch of yourself and there is nothing left for you.

Never will your life be the same, with the comforts that once sustained you.

I truly believe that with birth the mother also births herself into a new cycle of life. It’s almost as if you wake up and you’re in a different world.

Your body has been stretched, in ways you could never imagine. Clothes you once wore, that were staples in your wardrobe, an element of your identity, you can’t even imagine wearing again.

It’s not just the physical but the emotional aspects of being a mother with a different standard to uphold.

Your mind doesn’t rest with now another human being where you must attend to all their physical and emotional needs. More often than not putting theirs first and foremost, well before your own.

It’s a fine balance of sacrifice vs self care that is individual to each of us in where it needs to fall. A whole new space of selfless v’s selfish that needs to be explored, and in fact will be an ongoing exploration as our child and our own needs shift and change.

It can be hard and harrowing one day, and the next nothing but giggles and sunshine. The polarity of emotions is such a wild ride.

And although you feel pushed beyond your limits, as you find your feet and take a breathe when you can, you feel into the knowing that you wouldn’t want it any other way.

A knowing that you were born for this.

It’s just so fascinating that we live in a time where there is so much distraction and disconnection, so when we embark on this miraculous and deeply connected journey - a time where we need to go within more than ever - it is no surprise that it feels like our world is turned upside down.

How has this journey been for you? What have you learnt? How have you grown?

On this day 6 years ago our lives were in complete turmoil.

Our 3 week old son was on a life support machine called ECMO having been born with Congenital Heart Disease and struggling to sustain himself post his first open heart surgery.

On the morning of this day we were signing the forms to allow the procedure to take place for the medical team to take him off the life support. It is not advisable for someone to be on the ECMO machine for more than a handful of days or else complications can arise.

Not only were we giving consent for them to try, we also had to make a decision on what to do should he not cope without the machine..

Would we prefer that they let him pass on the table in theatre? Or that he is sustained enough to pass in our arms?

Not exactly the start to parenthood that we imagined. Nor any of the kind of decisions as new parents that we would have ever expected to make.

The first photo is of him being taken to surgery at 13.38pm (used as the cover as it is the least confronting), the next 3 during the morning waiting for him to be taken away, and the last photo is at 22.02pm when we next got to see him. The relief evident on our faces that our decision over the table or in our arms did not matter.

What we endured together during this time completely changed me. My perspective on life and what truly matters. My understanding of what it is that we are here on this earth for. It made me question everything.

It made me realise that without our health we have nothing! And so the importance of acknowledging, understanding and nurturing our health deserves to be our highest priority.

That’s why I became a Health Coach. Turning my passion into a service role that I can carry out in this lifetime. To help others navigate prioritising their health and defining what that looks like for them too.

If you are struggling with your health - mind, body or spirit - I am here to help. Just reach out xx

What are you common beliefs or statements you find yourself saying about money?

Are these your beliefs or are they the beliefs of others that you have taken on over you lifetime?

If you think in scarcity - that you never have enough money. You will never have enough money.

If you think you have to work really hard for money - you will always work really hard.

If you aren’t grateful for what you already have - you will not get more of it.

If you always think people are out to rip you off - you will forever be looking over your shoulder looking for people ripping you off.

Money is an energy. You are energy. Everything is energy.

Using money is simply an exchange of energy. The more positive you feel, think and believe in money - the greater the level of abundance you will attract into your life.

It begins with small steps.. Just start to acknowledge how you talk about money.

Your mindset matters. Are you in control of it? Or is it in control of you?

Cannot express this enough. YOU control your reality. Nobody else controls it. You control it with your frequency and your mindset. ❤️