NICO Coach & Music Man

Here's my latest recording written about a woman I loved… inspired by Esther Perel and her research on relationships where she shared that in almost every relationship, one person is afraid to lose themselves and the other is afraid to lose the other person.

The opening line “if stress is a killer” was inspired by Gabor Maté where he explains that stress literally causes damage to your cells and is directly linked to many different kinds of chronic illness including cancer.

This song flowed out of me as I wrestled to know if my current relationship was healthy... whether it would work for us both to be free to be ourselves while we fought to love each other... ideally with our whole hearts.

There was a time in our relationship where I was told that she felt "watered down"... this burned me. I don't believe it was meant to be hurtful but the fact that me being me wasn't allowing her to be her was confusing, frustrating, and disheartening. We both fought to try and allow each other to be free and the reality is that there were many times when I truly did feel very supported.

Aggghhhhh... relationships can be tricky eh? And I have heard many couples share a similar story. I think that one of the most important keys is to constantly be open, honest & vulnerable... with yourself and each other. And although this particular relationship didn't end up in a happily ever after fairy tale, I thought it may be important for people to hear (and my current partner actually really encouraged me to record it).

FUN FACT: "RIVER" was written on a picnic table at Schoolhouse Beach on the California coastline during my road trip in 2024 as I took a Leadership course down there.

Massive thanks to Shona Lynne & David W. Swanson for their contributions on this along with Daniel Nevins for the artwork

LISTEN HERE:

New tune release "RIVER" | Nico Boesten, CPCC | Coach Life Coach Kelowna

This is part 6/6 of a series I produced called "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" where I interviewed my buddy and multi-platinum singer-songwriter Andrew Allen. He is an artist and keynote speaker (among many other things) and he shares about how he has found hope through loss and what he would say or sing to someone who was struggling.

https://youtu.be/Q5wc4mH39v8

Watch the full interview here:
https://nicocoaching.com/unstuck-finding-hope-in-loss-with-andrew-allen-pt-6-6/

A clip from my interview with Andrew Allen on how to work through hard situations This is part 6/6 of a series I produced called "UNstuck | finding hope in loss". I interviewed my buddy and multi-platinum singer-songwriter Andrew Allen, an...

This is a little clip from my 6 part series "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" where Tess McMechan (a Somatic Trauma Practitioner) shares about how she helps people suffering from cancer and chronic disease.

https://youtu.be/mZbWMMFwpTk

Thanks to TELUS STORYHIVE for supporting this project.

UNstuck - how to heal from chronic disease from a trauma practitioner This is a little clip from my 6 part series "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" where Tess McMechan (a Somatic Trauma Practitioner) shares abo...

This little clip from my TELUS series UNstuck | finding hope in loss with my buddy Mike Shaw is an inspiring story of how this legend went from olympic ski coach to being paralyzed. He talks about his "healing hacks" and what allowed him to defy science and doctors telling him he would never walk again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVIdAZQ4f6Q

Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/zwUaOffsXNc

UNstuck from olympic coach to paralyzed with Mike Shaw This little clip from my TELUS series UNstuck | finding hope in loss with my buddy Mike Shaw is an inspiring story of how this legend went from olympic ski c...

I wanted to share a little lyric video of my latest single "WORTHY" with you. May you know your worthiness a little more today my friends...

NICO - "Worthy" "WORTHY" by NICOInspired by a conversation with my partner, I wrote this for her and from her perspective as a bit of a prayer. This theme of “knowing your w...

Ahem, I bequeath you with my new single "WORTHY" today for your audible enjoyment. Inspired by a conversation with my partner, I wrote this for her and from her perspective as a bit of a prayer. This theme of "knowing your worth" seems to be a common human battle... may you know you are worthy.

And Happy Valentines Day ya beauties.

Worthy, by NICO track by NICO

I have soooo much respect for these ladies and the work they do at the Karis Support Society... helping women struggling with addiction and mental health challenges. I have worked with them over the past few years doing some coaching and leading workshops and they are the real deal.

Soooo, for part 3 of my TELUS STORYHIVE series "UNstuck - finding hope in loss" I interviewed a couple of the directors and got some sweet chunks of wisdom.

They share about how Karis has helped thousands of women find hope over the past 2 decades... check out their secrets...

UNstuck | finding hope in loss w/ Karis PT 3/6 | Nico Boesten, CPCC | Coach Life Coach Kelowna

Here's episode 2/6 of my series "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" with my good buddy Brad Pedersen. He's not only an author but a wildly successful entrepreneur but he's got an inspiring story of going from multiple bankruptcies to a 9 figure exit. He shares how he found hope in some of his darkest times and offers some sage advice on how to get through the storms. This man is a humble, inspiring man of integrity and ALSO an insane mountain biker... he is a pillar and connector in our community and I want the world to hear his story.

UNstuck | finding hope in loss w/ Brad Pedersen & Nico Boesten EPIDOSE 2/6 Brad Pedersen is a successful entrepreneur who lives in Kelowna, BC who has experienced his fair share of epic wins (including a $100m exit) and colossal fai...

Grief comes in waves. A conversation about losing a loved one. In this conversation, coach and musician Nico talks about losing his wife, Ingrid, to cancer and what grief has looked like in the years since her passing in...

Super fired up to start sharing this 6 series podcast called "UNstuck | finding hope in loss". Here's a clip from the first episode where I interview Kim Unrau... an emotional health coach who talks about the most impactful and most important thing he needed when he was in the emotional fetal position.

Kim Unrau shares about how to get out of the emotional fetal position With almost 30 years under his belt of helping people get “unstuck”, Kim Unrau is an “emotional tow truck driver” based out of Kelowna, BC. His professional ...

“IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN ME” – a 9 year old grieving his mom

In April 2024, I picked up my phone and started to record myself as I began to feel a wave of grief pass over me after visiting a buddy of mine in the hospital. In the bed next to my buddy was a father with serious head injuries and broken legs after finding out he lost his wife & unborn child in the same accident. The quote of their 9 year old who just lost his mom pleading to take her place got me right in the feelers.

What a heart.

And I’ve felt that same ache of wanting to take the place of my dad losing his life… and my late wife, Ingrid.

Here’s me processing this live and you’ll see where I end up.

https://nicocoaching.com/it-should-have-been-me-grieving-the-loss-of-a-loved-one/