Cove Counselling & Psychotherapy

I don’t actually see many people who are “bad at boundaries.”

What I see are people who learned, somewhere along the way, that staying small kept them safe.

Boundaries are never black and white. They aren’t about pushing people away, and they aren’t about saying yes to everything either. They live on a spectrum — from porous to rigid — and most of us move along that spectrum depending on how safe we feel.

Too porous and resentment builds.
Too rigid and connection is hard.
The healthy middle takes awareness. And practice.

I wrote a new blog post about what boundaries actually look like in real life, not just in theory; and how to tell where yours might need adjusting.

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, overextended, or emotionally guarded lately… I hope this resonates. 🩵

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When I first became a therapist, the work of Dr. Kristen Neff really resonated with me.

It offered something different from the relentless pursuit of self-esteem — something I was all too familiar with. Instead, it offered a gentler way to meet ourselves with kindness, exactly where we are.

Over time, self-compassion has continued to shape how I work with clients, especially those who feel stuck in self-criticism or the sense that they should be “doing better” by now.

I’ve seen this again and again (particularly in women): we are so much harder on ourselves than we are with anyone else in our lives. Real change happens when we learn to offer ourselves the same kindness and support we so easily give to others.

If this resonates, you don’t have to explore it alone.
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