Relationship Coach Iuliia Stashevska

4 years of wearing these: grateful, happy and excited for many, many more years to come🤍

Conversations with the husband: love styles

Whatever I study in books goes through a few stages before I actually use it in my coaching practice. One of those stages involves discussing the knowledge with the one person who can help me understand concepts in practice the best: my own husband.

‘How do you know that I love you?’, I asked him yesterday, inspired by the topic of love styles.

‘You do use me as a guinea pig, don’t you?’, he answered with a smile.

‘I do’, I honestly confessed. ‘You don’t mind, do you?’

He doesn’t, as long as I do it openly, not ‘sneakingly’. Being straightforward with each other is one of our main values as a couple.

We go on remembering the moments we both felt most loved by each other.

Surprisingly for me, the first thing he remembered was something I came up with in the second year of our relationship, a ridiculously romantic act in which everything went wrong 🙈

For me it was the moment he stayed up all night to keep me warm at a summer festival a year earlier. The ‘summer’ was about 2 degrees Celsius warm, and neither my clothes nor my sleeping bag were ready for that.

For him love lies in brave authentic acts, for me it’s rooted in care.

And what is love for you? Share if you feel like it, I’d be really curious to know 🤍

Hello, I’m Iuliia and I’m a women’s relationship coach.

I’m also a wife, a visual journalist, sometimes a bleeding heart, but most of the times an empathetic person passionate about human relationships.

Relationship coaching is a valuable tool for anyone who wants to overcome relationship challenges. Whether you are in a relationship, getting over one or looking for one, there are things on the mental, behavioral, emotional and spiritual levels which you can learn to navigate these waters with ease.

We don’t learn how to be in a relationship in school. Yet it is a skill which we should learn.

Let me be by your side as you master that skill. With love, with compassion and with lots of care.

I’m starting enrollment for my 6-month 1:1 relationship coaching program today. And my call for you is to pause and listen to your intuition now: could this work be something your heart and mind need?

Message me to book a consult call and find out more if it is 🤍

Lots of love,
Iuliia

I didn’t always have the skills and tools to deal with difficulties in life.

Mine has been a bumpy road in terms of learning how to be with my emotions, how to speak my truth and how to be with others in moments of pain.

Being naturally a positive person I used to always try and bring that sunshine to everyone around me too, thinking it was the best I could do for them.

It’s only with time and lots of training that I learned how important it is to have respect for other person’s experience and developed tools and skills for doing it in the most loving and honoring way.

So I’m sharing these notes today in hope they will reach those seeking support and those trying to understand how to support these days.

The times may be dark, but we will get through them together 🖤

WHO IS RELATIONSHIP COACHING FOR?

They don’t really teach you in school how to do relationships, do they? And yet everyone is surprised why so many people struggle with getting this area of life right…

Relationship coaching is results-oriented professional support in improving the quality of someone’s relationships with themselves and other people.

It could be of a great value for you if you are:

▪️struggling with forming fulfilling relationships
▪️stuck in frustrating relationship patterns
▪️looking for professional dating advice and guidance
▪️wishing to nourish your relationship with yourself and boost your self-esteem
▪️wanting to improve any aspect of your existing relationship with others
▪️seeking clarity on what is standing between you and your dream relationship

I will also unpack the difference between relationship coaching and therapy in one of the next posts, so you could understand clearly which service you will benefit most from.

And for now how would you describe the quality of your relationships on a scale from 1 to 10? Type your number in the comments below 👇

Lots of love to you all and take good care of yourselves 🖤

DON’T LINK SELF-LOVE TO YOUR ABILITY TO LOVE OTHERS.

There are people who are masters of self-love but fail badly at giving love to others.

And those who are completely unfamiliar with the self-love concept and yet able to love others beautifully.

Self-love is no magic pill to becoming great at building happy relationships with others.

But it is important. And you should practice it regardless of your relationship status, age, s*x or priorities in life 🖤

DON’T LOVE YOURSELF FIRST OR SECOND. JUST DO. 🤍

IT HURTS TO HEAR PEOPLE SAY THEY’VE GIVEN UP ON LOVE 💔

Life has always been kind to me. At the age of 21 I caught myself thinking that I had everything I dreamed of: a cool job, money, amazing travels, friends. I was living so fully, and it was only the beginning.

So what more could I wish for? Love.
And it wasn’t until I found that love that I understood what being happy actually meant.

Love fills everything with meaning. It allows you to see and feel life like you’ve never done before, in colors you never knew existed.

No job, amount of cash, success or experience has ever made me happier than loving and being loved did. And with love any other success came easier and felt more valuable.

So it hurts me badly when people tell me they’ve given up on love. Love can be tricky, tough, painful sometimes. It can also keep you waiting for much longer than you wish. But is it worth it? 101%. I know because I’ve been on the other side.

If you are telling yourself that you don’t need love - ask yourself: you really don’t or you are just too scared to admit how much you do and prefer to keep your heart closed to avoid the hurt?

Because if you are afraid know that I’m here for you. In this blog, in my mind, in my heart. Regardless of whether you are my client, or friend, or a new follower.

Be brave and choose to want love today. You can talk to a friend, start working with a practitioner or at least do some honest journaling.

Know that wanting love is not neediness or weakness. It’s the ultimate strength and power.

I became a relationship coach because I’m a very happy person, And I want as many people as possible to have what I have.

My last words for you today are these:

Give up on anything you like, but never give up on love.

For love is truly all we need.