Diana the Zurafa

Narcissistic abuse was one of the biggest chapters of my life. It shaped me, broke me, and eventually built me back up stronger.
Now I’m a mom. And that part of me is louder than ever.
But I’m still a woman navigating a world that wasn’t built for us — trying to raise a daughter who won’t fall into the same traps I did. Who knows her worth before someone tries to take it from her.
This post is for her. And for every woman who needed to hear this too. 🤍

Hey you!! It’s been a while — and there’s a reason for that. 💛

You know how much I love helping others through my content and coaching.
Sharing what I’ve learned, what I’ve lived through, and using it to help you build healthier, kinder relationships with yourself and others — that’s always been my thing.

But what you may not know is that another part of me comes alive when I’m helping content creators and businesswomen grow.
With over 15 years in sales and marketing, I’ve learned how to help others sell themselves with confidence, go from hustling to living, and build businesses that feel aligned, not draining.

So if you’ve been wondering where I’ve been… the truth is, I’ve been backstage.
That’s where takes most of my time — helping my business clients shine from behind the scenes.

It’s still me — same heart, same purpose — just with a wider lens.
Because, like you, I wear many hats: woman, wife, mother, entrepreneur, friend, sales specialist.
And all those versions of me are connected through the same values — kindness, balance, and growth.

So here’s where I am most of the time, not really hiding, just — backstage 😶‍🌫️
But if you ever need me, whether for something personal or business, my DMs are always open.

And if you’re a content creator or businesswoman who wants to grow with more ease — come join me over at

It would be funny if it wasn’t true. 🫠 the last one is my personal favorite 😅

Happy April Fools Day.



Things narcissists do.

30.11 , Inês Alma came into the world and changed mine forever. ❤️

You don’t need him to get closure. I know it’s hard, I know you want to move on but feel like there are things left unsaid, things you’re still not at peace with, things you think he should know and you need to know. And you let time pass and leave your life on hold hoping for that closure that it may never happen the way you think it needs to happen. Sometimes closure is just this, you know you did your best to save that relationship, to make it work, you tried so hard you ended up feeling empty, no more strength to fight. If you’re still holding on to wanting that closure from him, know that you can free yourself from it, your path to inner peace and happiness depends on no one else but you. And if you need help; you know where to find me.



Let me know, have you got closure?

Remember what does being a Narcissist mean? EVERYTHING is from a perspective where they’re at the center. If your partner accuses you of cheating, lying, hiding things from them, 10/10 times this is something they’re doing themselves and therefore believe you’re doing it too. Look back at the relationship and pay close attention to things they’ve accused of being and doing and then look close at them and their actions. Has this happened to you? Let me know in the comments what things did they accuse you of?

I had someone ask me this question recently and that was my answer. I know it sounds cliche or just like a beautiful Instagram quote, but honestly… simply put… that’s it. It’s all you have to do! Think of all the times he gaslighted you, lied to you, made you feel less about yourself, question yourself. Think of the endless times he made you feel like you’d never be good enough. Remember how that felt? You told yourself the next day, “Maybe I’m overreacting, it wasn’t so bad,” and kept trying to please him in every possible way.

Now, really think about this: if you truly loved yourself, would you allow that behavior to continue? Would you keep lying to yourself to protect his image? Or would you say, “You know what? I am worthy of better and more, and I know I can find it.” So yeah, it is that simple, really. But simple doesn’t mean easy! It also doesn’t mean it will happen overnight. Trust me, the more you get to know yourself, reconnect with yourself, and work on your healing, the less you’ll care about the other person and the more you’ll focus on you.

That’s why I created the Inner Journey, a healing journal with science-based exercises to help you rediscover the girl you were before you met him, but now stronger, wiser, and in love with yourself.

But you have to be ready, you have to really want it. Are you ready? Comment “heal” and I’ll send you all the information about it.

“If the relationship was so bad why are you so sad it’s over?” “Girl he was a A**hole what are you so upset about?” Ever had these things said to you? Do you say them to yourself? Then stop, and stop whoever Tamara you feel bad for grieving. You’re allowed to grieve actually, you SHOULD grieve, it’s all part of the journey. And it doesn’t matter how much of a narcissist he was or how bad he treated you. This week in my Newsletter Letters of Hope we’ll dive deeper into this topic and help you navigate all these conflicting emotions. Coming out this Friday. Are you a subscriber yet? If not go do it now so you don’t miss it.

You’re feeling like you don’t know who you are anymore? Are you telling yourself and others that you’re on your healing / Self-love Era but actually just surviving and waiting for the bad days to pass? You want to do the work to heal but not sure what else to do but journaling and taking long walks? Do you want to become the strongest version of yourself?

Imagine having the path to your stronger wiser self already designed for you, with step-by-step guidance and emotional support. You can feel like yourself again with ease and no fear. That’s the My Inner Journey Coaching Package. It’s like you’re going on a dream vacation with the itinerary already defined, you just need to show up and enjoy. And if there are bumps on the road? And unpredictable obstacles? You’ll have me as your guide to help you through it.
No more excuses, you deserve this journey, you deserve to invest on yourself, you are worthy of happiness! Comment I’m ready and I’ll send you the link to sign up for this journey. I’ll be waiting for you. 🤗

If you feel trapped in a relationship because you are afraid of being alone first know that it’s normal. Don’t make yourself feel wrong or less about it. Specially if the relationship you’re in is with a narcissist. Now, being normal, doesn’t mean there’s anything you can do about it. You’re holding on to the illusion of control by staying in a place you know is not good you have to work on re-learning that the control is in you and not on the sinking ship. Let’s talk about it more on this weeks letters of hope. You know what to do.