Sarah Elle Oates

Happy 1 year Anniversary ♥️

I don’t know how it’s already been a year, and yet somehow we’ve managed to live 5 lives in that time. In our first year of marriage we’ve moved to a new country with 2 little ones, I went back to work full time, you’ve been away more than you’ve been home, and all of the ups and downs of life in-between… and yet there is no one else I would rather do any of it with

Life might be hard, but loving you has always been easy

Saying yes was the easiest decision I’ve ever made in my life and I will say yes every day forever

I love you .oates

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Silence is deadly, it hides in plain sight
Then it creeps up and chokes you with all of its might

In the whirlwind of motherhood, especially with 2 under 2, it’s easy to let self-care slip away. I’ve been there—struggling to find even a moment for myself, while postpartum depression weighed heavily on my heart. But I learned that the small habits we nurture each day can make all the difference. 🌿

Our habits shape how we see the world, and in the postpartum period, they are more important than ever. When we care for ourselves, even in the smallest ways, we set the tone for our entire day. But I know firsthand how tough it can be to stay consistent when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and just trying to make it through. 💪🏾

But here’s the truth: *The way we do one thing is the way we do everything.* If we let self-care slide, our mood suffers, and when our mood suffers, so does our entire experience of motherhood. That’s why I created my **Daily Postpartum Self-Care Checklist**—a simple, easy-to-follow guide to help you build those life-changing habits, one step at a time. For only 7€, you can start to see real shifts in how you feel each day. 🌸

This isn’t just about checking off boxes; it’s about reclaiming your peace, your joy, and your sense of self in the midst of motherhood. I’ve been where you are, and I know how small, intentional habits can pull you out of the darkest days. This checklist is more than just a tool—it’s a lifeline, and it’s helped me transform my own postpartum journey.

You deserve to feel good, mama. Let me help you! Comment “checklist” and I’ll send the link straight to your inbox. 💖

When I look back at those days, with a toddler on one hip and a newborn in my arms, it feels like a whirlwind. Those were some of the most beautiful yet challenging moments of my life. There were days when I felt like I was barely holding on. The demands of caring for two little ones so close in age left me stretched thin, and with it came a deep, suffocating darkness—postpartum depression. 😔 Perfectionism played a huge role in my struggles. I wanted to be the perfect mom, to do it all without missing a beat. But the truth is, striving for perfection only pulled me further away from the joy of motherhood. I was too focused on doing everything “right” that I forgot to simply *be*—to be present, to be kind to myself, to embrace the chaos and the beauty in the imperfection. 🌿 Seeing my toddlers now, growing into their own little people, fills me with so much pride and love. But I can’t help but think back to those early days with a bittersweet heart. I wish I could go back and tell that exhausted, anxious version of myself that it’s okay to not have it all together. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to feel everything, even the hard stuff. Because you’ll survive it. You’ll grow from it. 🌟 If you’re in the thick of it right now, know that you’re not alone. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to keep showing up, one moment at a time. And if you ever feel like the weight is too heavy, reach out. There’s strength in community, in asking for support, and in knowing that this too shall pass. Based on a reel from the incredible @khloekuriatnyk 💖 #2Under2 #PostpartumJourney #MotherhoodUnfiltered #PostpartumDepression #MomLifeStruggles #PerfectlyImperfect #MentalHealthMatters #HealingAfterBirth #MindfulMotherhood #GrowthInMotherhood #YouAreNotAlone #MotherhoodJourney #EmpoweredMotherhood #ParentingWithLove #ToddlersOfInstagram