Wasfeeya Altalib Counselling & Coaching

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“𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩, 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯 (𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘯); 𝘪𝘵 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘴. 𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘮 𝘏𝘦 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘴. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘪𝘴 𝘈𝘭𝘭-𝘚𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘏𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘴’ 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴, 𝘈𝘭𝘭-𝘒𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳.” (𝘘𝘶𝘳’𝘢𝘯, 𝟸:𝟸𝟼𝟷)⁣⁣
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One of the easiest way to gain ongoing rewards even after you die, known as sadaqah jāriyah, is to donate to institutions of Islamic learning. There are many students who can’t afford classes and institutes often run into losses because they won’t turn away a single student. YOU can help turn that around with the click of a button. ⁣⁣
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If you’re looking for a good cause to donate to especially in these blessed days, consider donating to these institutions that I’ve personally attended and/or benefited from over a number of years: ⁣⁣
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🌸Muslims Connected ⁣⁣
🌸Al-Tanzil Institute of Qur’anic Sciences .tanzil ⁣⁣
🌸Zahraa Institute ⁣⁣
🌸Darun-Naim .za⁣⁣
🌸Light Upon Light Women’s Foundation ⁣⁣
🌸Dār Ahlil Qur’an .ahlil.quran ⁣⁣
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Have you benefited from any of these institutes? Which other institutes have you benefited from? ⁣⁣
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You will only go on hajj when Allah ﷻ calls you. Although my husband and I were accredited to go on hajj this year, our invitation hadn’t come yet. My heart is content knowing that I’m not ready just yet. Allah ﷻ is still preparing my soul. ⁣
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And just because we can’t physically be there doesn’t mean that we can’t gain tremendous rewards in these blessed days of Dhul Hijjah. ⁣
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-Formulate a plan for yourself. Have high aspirations and make many intentions. Even if you don’t end up fulfilling them, Allah ﷻ will still reward you. How merciful is Allah ﷻ?! How can you not love Allah ﷻ?!⁣
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-ASK ALLAH ﷻ to grant you the ability to do the acts of worship you intend. You cannot fast nor wake up for tahajjud unless He gives you the ability to, so ASK Him to assist you. Beg Him in your sujūd to help you. ⁣
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-Lastly, push yourself; no one is going to do it for you. Make the effort. Strive hard. Fight your nafs. And you will undoubtedly reap the rewards from Allah ﷻ 🤲. ⁣
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Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:⁣
“There are no days during which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allah than these days,” meaning the (first) ten days of Dhul- Hijjah. (Ibn Mājah)⁣
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A little advice - to myself first before anyone else. ⁣
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Be a nice person. ⁣
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Be genuinely happy for others. ⁣
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Check in on friends. ⁣
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Comment on a beautiful post. ⁣
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Congratulate someone on their good news. ⁣
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Offer words of condolence on bad news. ⁣
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Share someone’s small business without them having to ask you. ⁣
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Make du’a for others in their absence. ⁣
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It literally doesn’t cost you anything. But it will mean the world to the other person. ⁣
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Yumna Saban is one of these people. She not only shares my events without me having to ask but signs up for them too. She’s been such a cheerleader to me. I love her energy. She’s been sharing her gruelling cancer journey on Facebook and deserves every bit of support. May Allah (SWT) grant her a complete recovery that leaves no trace behind🤲 Āmīn. ⁣
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Dearest Yumna, congratulations on your big day today😍. I am excited for you and your journey ahead. May Allah (SWT) place barakah in your union, ever increase your bond in love and understanding, and grant you to walk to Jannah hand-in-hand with your companion🤲💞 Āmīn. ⁣
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𝟐𝟒 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐈 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐦𝐲 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐚 𝐁𝐞𝐚𝐫 (𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐃𝐚𝐲 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟒⁣⁣⁣)⁣⁣
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1. Don’t marry the first guy who comes along. ⁣⁣⁣💯.⁣⁣
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2. Take care of your teeth😁. 𝘠𝘦𝘱, 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺 𝘨𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝟼 -𝟾 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘩𝘴.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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3. Don’t give a beggar cold food. Do 𝘺𝘰𝘶 like cold food?⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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4. Do good to others and good will come to you, but not from the same people. 𝘚𝘰 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘱𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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5. Forgive and forget. Truly. 𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮❤️⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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6. Don’t ever think that you won’t find someone better than the last. 𝘐 𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘴𝘣𝘢𝘦, 𝘈𝘭𝘩𝘢𝘮𝘥𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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7. You’re so eager to give but learn to ASK for favours from others.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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8. Look at the good in every situation. 𝘐 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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9. We don’t have it that bad. We always say this to each other when we hear about other people’s situations.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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10. Say Alhamdulillah. Allah says that if you are grateful, I will increase you.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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11. Buy a chocolate and write a card for someone who helped you out or gave you good service.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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12. Care for your pets. Take the cat to the vet. Buy it toys and treats. 𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘦.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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13. Genuinely be a nice person. Regardless. Especially when you could be nasty.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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14. Drink room temperature or hot water, even at restaurants. ⁣⁣⁣It does wonders for your health. ⁣⁣
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15. Take care of your skin. 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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16. The tidiness of your room affects your mental state i.e. Keep it tidy.⁣⁣⁣⁣
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𝘊𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴.

You were put on this earth for a reason. Allah wants you to do something for Him. It’s your job to find out what that is. Think about what skills, talents, and abilities Allah Almighty blessed you with. Gratitude to Him is not just lip service but using them for His work. ⁣
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Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. They shape who you are. ⁣
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If you can’t physically be in the company of amazing people, then read about them, listen to their wisdom, and follow their work. ⁣
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We’re super excited to launch the Podcast, which showcases inspirational South African Muslims🤩. ⁣
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It was so much fun meeting these changemakers in society, doing their life’s work and adding value to our world🌍. ⁣
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Subscribe to the Muslims Connected YouTube channel to stay updated. ⁣
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Please spread the word and be a part of this goodness🙏. ⁣
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𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐡 𝐌𝐞𝐞𝐭-𝐮𝐩⁣⁣
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After the success of our last Muslimah Meet-up, our ladies wanted more... So don’t miss out on this month’s one! ⁣⁣
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📆 Date: Saturday 18 May⁣⁣
⏰ Time: 10am to 12:30pm ⁣⁣
🏡 Venue: Rylands⁣⁣
🕋 Topic: Preparing our Hearts for Dhul Hijjah ⁣⁣
📲 Register: Wasfeeya Altalib: ‪+27 60 250 9488⁣⁣
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𝘈𝘥𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯⁣⁣
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🍱Bring along a plate to share ⁣⁣
💞 Spread the word to anyone who may be interested.⁣⁣
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‼️Limited spaces available. ⁣⁣
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Tune in to hear about how to maintain your connection to the Qur’an beyond Ramadan; using technology to enhance worship; Islamic psychology, and much more!

𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐡 𝐌𝐞𝐞𝐭-𝐮𝐩⁣
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Bismillah⁣
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I will be hosting a Muslimah Meet-up for Muslims ladies on a journey of seeking knowledge, wellness, & healing. ⁣
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📆 Date: Saturday 20 April ⁣
⏰ Time: 10am to 12pm ⁣
🏡 Venue: Rylands⁣
📲 RSVP: Wasfeeya Altalib: ‪+27 60 250 9488‬⁣
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𝘈𝘥𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘙𝘚𝘝𝘗⁣
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Bring along a plate to share and food for thought too! It could be your go-to motivational quote, favourite hadith, or inspirational Quranic āyah. ⁣
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“𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘧 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩.” – 𝘓𝘶𝘤𝘪𝘶𝘴 𝘈𝘯𝘯𝘢𝘦𝘶𝘴 𝘚𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘢

“Nine months spent in the womb of your mother have transformed a drop of water into ‘you’ – hearing, seeing and thinking. Can you imagine what a lifetime spent with the Qur’ān – seeking, hearing, seeing, thinking, striving – can do for you?”⁣
-Khurram Murad⁣
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Learn how you can connect -or reconnect- to the Qur’an at this FREE workshop. ⁣
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[Registration details are on the poster]. ⁣
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Please share and earn rewards upon rewards.

It’s easy to do acts of worship when you feel the spiritual high that comes along with them. But you don’t always get that feeling. The nature of worship is that you don’t get to taste its sweetness immediately. It comes after a period of time. Sometimes Allah ﷻ gifts us the feeling immediately and at other times He doesn’t. But we shouldn’t be doing acts of worship just to feel good. We should worship to please Allah ﷻ alone. ⁣⁣
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Al-Imām Sufyān ath-Thawri said,⁣⁣
“For twenty years I waged war against myself.  I struggled, all throughout to remain standing in prayer at night.  For those twenty years I never tasted the sweetness of the night prayer. It was only after that that I found comfort and sweetness.”⁣⁣
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‘Utbah al-Ghulām said, ‘I struggled with the night prayer for twenty years, then I enjoyed it for twenty years.’”⁣⁣
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Push yourself, no one’s going to do it for you💪. ⁣⁣
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May Allah ﷻ gift us with tasting the sweetness of worship this Ramadan and beyond🤲🌙 Aameen.

𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝟔𝐭𝐡 𝐀𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐬!! ⁣
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I’ll leave saying all the nice things to him in private and I’ll tell y’all some of the annoying things about my beloved husbae:⁣
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-He doesn’t like cats😿⁣
-He’s not super into health & fitness⁣
-He’s not very adventurous⁣
-He can’t cook nor bake⁣
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The reason I’m sharing this is to let you know that there is absolutely no perfect partner in this world. Our partners will only be perfect in Jannah one day, inShaAllah. ⁣
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If anyone claims they have everything they have ever wanted in their husband/wife, I wouldn’t believe them. Because this world is not Jannah. And it’s not meant to be. ⁣
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When I was seeking a spouse I made a list of my non-negotiable characteristics. These traits were negotiable, so I can live with them. I believe that it’s very important to know what you’re looking for so that you can recognise him when you find him, and to have some criteria (i.e. non-negotiables)so that you can discern whether he meets them or not. This is something I help women find clarity about through my 1:1 online coaching. ⁣
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May Allah ﷻ bless & protect the marriages of our ummah, and soon grant righteous, compatible spouses to all those seeking🤲 Āmīn. ⁣
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“𝘐𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘥, 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘋𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘺 𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘰𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘪𝘯 [𝘤𝘰𝘰𝘭] 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘥𝘦, 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 [𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘥] 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘳𝘦.”(𝘘𝘶𝘳’𝘢𝘯, 𝟹𝟼:𝟻𝟻 -𝟻𝟽)⁣
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Oh Allah, make us amongst them. ⁣
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