Eve Stoyan Coaching

What’s one thing you wanted to do so much that you went ahead and did it, even though you were afraid of how it might turn out?

(A thread…)

Everyone wants to be more confident - but sometimes I ask myself if everyone is ready to take the leap of faith it takes.

This is how I did it. →

In 2021 just after the pandemic i just couldn’t ignore anymore the call to leave everything — and share with other women the transformative process I went through myself.

And I was terrified of selling my business (boutique integrative wellbeing studios at the time).

Because who was I if not the entrepreneur girl who built something by herself in a foreign country?

I was stalling.

My friends saw it.
My body knew it.

I no longer felt happy or fulfilled. But I was terrified.

So one day I stood in front of my book shelf and took down a book I bought years before — but never actually read.

It was called Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway.

And that’s all I needed.

The next day I put my business up for sale and set a deadline by which I would close down one way or the other.

Two months later I sold.
In a year I was coaching full time. Having rebuilt the foundations of my business and life to reflect a 100% who I was - and how I can best serve others.

What would you do if you could feel the fear and do it anyway? 🤍

If you are here at least one of these is true for you.
Which one is it?

Being two different people — one at work, one at home — isn’t who you really are.

It’s a mask you built to stay safe.
And it’s been a coping mechanism all along.

I wore mine for years:

keeping up appearances, keeping the peace, pushing on when my body was quietly screaming stop.

Until I couldn’t any longer. Because a near burnout forced me to my knees in my early 30’s.

You’re not meant to play small in this life.

And you don’t need a new identity.
Because this isn’t an identity problem.

If you recognise yourself in these — save this. 🤍

If you feel comfortable sharing… when did it first begin for you? What was it protecting you from?

Dm me, I read every message.

Number 4 hurts especially, doesn’t it… ❤️‍🩹

These are the thoughts that you might not even say out loud to yourself … that show up on the commute home. At 3am, turning the day over for the 100th time. In the shower.

The ones too vague to verbalize even to yourself — or too ungrateful, too shameful, too… something.

I’ve had every single one of them along my path.

And what I know now: they weren’t complaints, or ingratitude, or laziness.

They were the beginning of a conversation I needed to have with myself.

A conversation that allowed me to go from feeling off, not trusting myself and over analyzing everything to literally creating the life I’ve always wanted.

If any of these are yours — save this. You’ll know when you need it. 🤍

Which number do you think is the most heartbreaking?
I’m reading you.

True story. 🤍

I often get asked in coaching conversations what the turning point was for me.

And the seed of it really is buried in how often we just take hard situations as they come. Because that’s what we’ve always done. Without stopping to think about it.

Growing up with emotionally distant parents, in a parentified child situation or with narcissistic role models can make you really good at figuring things out. Really good at performing. Just making it work.

But that is still just a coping mechanism. 🤍

And sometimes to recognize that, you literally have to hit rock bottom: with only one way… up.

Our life is guided by the patterns we developed in early childhood and as adolescents. Patterns that kept us safe… or close to someone we loved. Even if that came at a tall price.

Getting unstuck and finding meaning in life again are not about finding a new identity. Not about starting over.

But rather about finding your way back to yourself.

To who you really are underneath the roles you play, free of the emotional dependence on those closest to you.

It is about leaning to hear your voice again.
Use your voice again, telling a strong story.
Your story 🤍