Lou Lachman, Energy Counselling

I've been running this group for seven years. And right now, it feels more important than ever.

Black and brown people are being disappeared in the US. Similar things are happening here in the UK. This isn't abstract to me.

I've lived with someone who was traumatised by racism for decades, so I've seen up close what it does — to the mind, to the body, to a whole life. Racism isn't just an event. It's a system, like patriarchy. It oppresses. It doesn't let people rise to who they actually are.

And that's the part that gets me: so many people benefiting from that system still don't see it. So many white people freeze. They look away. Not because they don't care, but because looking at it is uncomfortable, and discomfort makes us shut down. When we’re shut down, we can’t lean in and find ways to change it.

That's exactly why this group exists the way it does. It's not just about understanding racism intellectually. It's about learning to stay in your body, stay present, stay in relationship, even when shame or fear show up. Because insight without regulation doesn't change anything. It just becomes more silence.

Six months. Once a month as a full group, with peer meetings in between. Twelve people, going deep together.

This work is uncomfortable. It's also, I promise you, transformational.

If this speaks to you, join the waitlist — link in bio.

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Do you trust that your body can settle? I didn't, for a long time.

I was emotional and numb, and I didn't even know I had a problem. I thought that was just who I was.

These 5 signs are trauma responses. There’s nothing wrong with you. Your nervous system learned that survival mode was the safest place to be. And it did its job. It kept you here. I was just like that, and it was helping me survive.

But the body that learned to survive can also learn to calm. I know this because I've lived it, and I've taught it for 30 years now.

Save this and notice which ones show up for you this week.

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Healing shouldn't only be available for an hour a week. Right?

I keep thinking about this after this weekend. I watched people hold space for each other. Not just an hour on the clock, but instead people showing up for each other's struggle, for each other's stories.

And it worked. It was real. It was healing.

One-on-one therapy is valuable; I'm not knocking it. I do that work too. But it's not the only way, and it's definitely not the only way that’s effective. For most, circle is better and has more completion. People get done with their healing.

What circles have you experienced that have healed you? Share your thoughts and comments.

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