24/04/2023
For a few weeks now, I have wanted to talk about discipline on the pitch on Saturdays. We don’t have a ref and we don’t plan to use one as we want to play like ‘brothers’ not as opponents. There are a few principles we should all be bearing in mind, and 99% of the time, we play a fair and generous game – these should be our by-words: FAIR/GENEROUS
If you can’t be fair, be generous…
When I say, we play like brothers, I don’t mean siblings because the phrase ‘sibling rivalry’ didn’t come about for no reason… I mean like spiritual brothers and sisters who have chosen to play together for the fun of it.
FUN should also be a keyword, one that includes a level of competitiveness, but the FUN, FAIRNESS and GENEROSITY is not outweighed by the competitiveness.
What does this mean in practical terms?
1) We never argue over throw-ins, you shout up if you know you touched it last, FAIR and GENEROUS working together to make a FUN atmosphere
2) We don’t put our friends in danger through our overwhelming competitiveness – if we think a challenge could end up in someone being hurt, we don’t go in.
3) When we do hurt someone, we acknowledge it immediately, we help them up we apologise
4) When we are hurt, we graciously accept the apology and the help to get back to our feet – why do we do this? Because we KNOW that our brother or sister did not intend to hurt anyone.
5) We play on after an accidental handball, if we know we handled the ball, we step away and stop competing for the ball.
6) We don’t shout for a handball, especially when we are blind-sided…why? Because we don’t lie about handling and we all play by the rules and if a player has handled the ball, they will let us know. If the player gives up possession of the ball, no free kick is needed (we don’t have the time for it).
What is interesting about this set of guidelines is that every weekend we watch our professional ‘heroes’ do the EXACT OPPOSITE, and whilst we envy their skill and athleticism, we abhor their dishonesty, lack of fairness and generosity...
This is how we play, week in, week out – and that is why, for me, organising the game is a pure joy, definitely not a burden.
This is not a new set of rules, this is the spirit in which we play the game. I am overwhelming glad to welcome you all to a new game every week because I know that whether I am on the winning side or not, I will have had FUN. If I haven’t been fair and generous, then I am painfully aware of it and will seek to play a better game next week.
John B