The Clarity Hub

I’m loving the 7 Universal Cycles of Change model by Tim and Kris Hallbom. It takes the patterns of nature and relates them to human life and behaviour. Some of my recent coaching clients have been exploring areas of their life against these cycles of change. When in turbulence they are exploring what they can drop off and release to bring their lives back into balance. In today’s world ‘dropping stuff’ can sometimes be perceived as failure – what I love about this model is the reframe that dropping something (like a tree drops its leaves in Autumn) actually allows healing and time to renew and rejuvenate. So, if you have a phase of dormancy look to nature, just as a tree sheds it’s leaves and a snake sheds its skin, rather than resist the cycle of change, embrace it to allow for a whole new cycle of creativity and growth that follows.

What things or situations are no longer serving you?

What could you let go to create something wonderfully new?

Autumn is often a time when the seasonal changes cause our bodies to slow down and we can feel less energised. Be kind to yourself and listen to your body's needs. It can be a good time to inwardly reflect on your achievements and start to gently explore your vision for the following year?

What makes your heart sing, that you might want to do more of?

What can you shift or change to bring greater balance?

How can you rest your body and energise for next stages?

Now is a great time to start gently making plans - coaching can be a great tool to facilitate this. Indulge yourself in a complimentary discovery session to focus on you - contact us to book a session.

So, this month I worked with a client who had a fear of driving on the motorway, she had a long drive coming up which was causing her anxiety as it would involve a stint on the motorway. We worked together to build a toolkit of techniques that she could draw on to manage her anxiety levels and reframe thinking.
A significant shift in mindset was achieved so that she drove with confidence and even enjoyed the journey!

What fears are you ready to leave behind? Contact me for a complementary discovery call to explore the fear/anxiety you are ready to let go and how we would work together.

So I'm curious, as one acadaemic year comes to an end....and rules are changing again.....what are your worries and fears for the next couple of months....the upcoming year?

How do these worries hinder you? How much 'headspace' and time do they take up? What is the positive intention behind these worries?

A thought.......is just a thought......although we often treat them as facts.........how might you benefit from a 1:1 coaching session to explore and release worries so you can focus on the things that make you happy?

The worry space is now open for booking of coaching sessions via Zoom or my coaching room in Cheltenham. A safe space to explore worries and put them into context and take a away a range of tools to shift mindset and achieve what is important to you with compassion, creativity and courage! Pop me a message for an initial 30 minute chat around what you want to achieve, how I work, packages and costs.
We have been working with clients on:
- Releasing fear of driving on the motorway
- Confidence and self belief in the workplace
- Overwhelm and anxiety
- Managing change and uncertainty
- Overcoming internal barriers to success

A quailified NLP Practitioner, mBIT Coach (transformational, yet such a gentle approach to support alignment of you as a whole - ever felt 'parts of you' aren't quite working together?), alongside more traditional coaching tools.

So what are you waiting for....take action to shift mindset and take a step forwards...☎️

Mindful Monday
Naming your inner critic -
We all have our own inner critic, that special little voice that tries to keep us tucked well within our comfort zone and can be brutally harsh if we venture into new fields - even just in our thoughts.
1. Listen to your inner critic - acknowledge what they are saying - this helps you to take control
2. Name your inner critic, this helps you to have choice in whether to accept the messages
3. Understand the critics' motives - to keep you safe!
4. Accept your critic exists and choose how much to let them take centre stage - challenge their message and look for evidence to the contrary - this puts your thoughts back into the positive zone.

Thankful Friday
This week I have been working with clients around self-talk. We used a simple little exercise - firstly identify where your negatve self talk is - to the front, back or side of your head; tune in to how it sounds and what it says. Then play with the voice - make it squeaky like a mouse, or croaky like a frog. Using your imaginary dial turn the voice down or push it away to the other side of the room. What difference does this make? How do you feel? Write a new version - how you would like to speak to yourself and practice it daily.

Wednesday Wisdom - Be kind to yourself

We can be our worst critic, we would never speak to others the way that we speak to ourselves. To build self esteem practice saying positive things to yourself. Make a list of positives, pop them on post its in a box and take one out each day and read it to yourself. I am......(kind, caring, organised, good at.....etc). For some fun decorate your box so it makes you smile as you reach for a positive message.

Thankful Friday
Think of anxiety as a wave, which you ride to its peak and then subsides and gets smaller. This can help us to understand that it will pass and can shift our focus from anxiety to the expectation of calm once it has peaked. And for some of us the shift in analogy to riding a wave may re-frame anxiety to a more positive emotion.

Wednesday Wisdom
We all have worries - how we manage them is the important factor. If your child worries a lot - perhaps their worries stop them drifting off to sleep, this tool might help and is fun to make. Create a worry box (from a shoebox or tissues box). Decorate the box and pop a hole on the top, Pop your worries on a piece of paper and let the worry box look after them. You can revist them if you want to - but set rules - just for 10 minutes a day. You are then in control of your worries.