Six things that were supposed to work. Because they worked for someone else. Or because they used to work for you.
That’s the trap.
You do what you think you should be doing, what worked for your friend, what’s works for whatshername on Instagram, what worked five years ago, what the plan says, and when it doesn’t land the same way, you assume it’s you.
It’s not you.
Your life isn’t the same as hers. And your body isn’t the same as it was five years ago either, perimenopause changes the rules without ever sending a note!
What are you still doing because it once worked, even though part of you knows it’s doesn’t anymore?
Gemma Kelly Wellness
Wellness Coaching for Women https://linktr.ee/gemmakellyfitness
⚙️The gear shift catches me every time.⚙️
Kids dropped off, a load of washing in, breakfast cleared away, tea and coffee and water lined up on the desk, and then I’m supposed to sit down and think clearly?? My body is still going at morning chaos speed while my head is trying to start work.
We did alternate nostril breathing in Breathe for Balance last night, and this is exactly when I use it. Fingers resting between the eyebrows on the yintang point, thumb closing one nostril, breathe in. Close it off at the top of the inhale, breathe out down the other side. Four or five rounds and the chatter drops.
What I’m really after in that moment is the gap. The bit of space between reacting and responding. So much of how a day goes gets decided right there.
That gap is what the I’m working on with my clients, and what I’m going to share some of with you lovely followers.
And Breathe for Balance is free, Wednesdays at 8pm, recording sent after if you can’t make it live. Just ask and I’ll send you the link.
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I’m Gemma. I work with women in midlife who are holding everything together and running on empty underneath it.
September always feels like a line in the sand. Everything starts up again, and for the first time in a while there’s a bit of space to think about yourself.
I’ve got a few things to say over the next couple of weeks. Stick around. 🤍
30/08/2026
I’ve seen this little “hills I will absolutely die on” trend doing the rounds on Instagram…
And whilst I’m not usually one to jump on a trend, I’m not going to avoid one just for the sake of it either 😂
I’ve had quite a few new followers recently, so it feels like a good time to introduce you to the current or ever-evolving version of me.
Because I am constantly exploring, learning and doing the work on myself.
And honestly? That process can be absolutely exhausting.
It’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. It’s real.
Sometimes it looks glossy and happy on Instagram. Sometimes it looks like the massive, complicated reality of trying to understand yourself while still getting on with your life.
I’m not here to create glossy s**t or pretend I’ve got it all figured out.
I’m not interested in speaking to the masses either.
I’m here for the people who recognise themselves in my words and in my emotional over shares. The people who have spent years coping, carrying, pleasing and pushing through. The ones who have listened to everybody else for so long that they’ve forgotten how to hear themselves.
If my content doesn’t land for you, that’s absolutely fine.
But if it does, welcome, I’m gonna keep showing up here, waving my little lantern in the sea of iPhone torches so you know I’m here.
Here to support you. To walk beside you. Hug you if you need that too and to remind you that you’re not broken, your body isn’t the enemy, and you already carry so much of what you need within you.
Sometimes you just need the space, and the community along side you.
There’s a particular feeling to this week.
The tan is still there. You’ve slept. You’ve read a book that wasn’t about anything (maybe it was about dragons and faeries 😂 IYKYK).
And you can suddenly see your life from slightly above it, all laid out, and it looks so doable.
Back to routine feels genuinely exciting from here. Fresh diary, fresh start, and you know exactly what you’ve changed.
But here’s the question I’d gently ask. Are you making plans with today’s energy? Because today’s energy is rested.
Today’s energy has capacity. And the woman who has to carry those plants out is the one in late October, on a third cold of the term, in the dark, at 6pm, with a work deadline. She’s the one who needs the plan to work.
And she’s usually not the one it was designed for. That gap is what I’ve been working on for the past year. Not fitness. Something else. More very soon.
Hit the 🩷 if this feels familiar btw…. You won’t be alone x
25/08/2026
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Mondays 7pm
Thursdays 7.15pm
Spaces are already very limited because so many of my lovely regulars are returning (thank you, I love you guys too! 🥹).
Right now, I have:
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Term spaces are available to book now, with pay-as-you-go spaces opening next week if there are any spots left.
My classes are welcoming, friendly and suitable for all levels, come to move, strengthen, breathe and give yourself an hour that's just for you.
Comment PILATES below and I’ll send you the booking link, or you can book via the link in my bio or my website.
Can’t wait to get back on the mat with you! 🤍
22/08/2026
Quarter to five this morning. Wide awake, everything aching (thanks to a good PT sessions yesterday) researching perimenopause and inflammation like Claude was going to hand me an answer.
You’ll have seen the other photos. The runs, the good lighting, the split times. What you don’t see is this bit, and this bit is most of it…. For me anyway.
Yesterday I trained legs with my PT after 2 weeks holiday, then ran my fastest home loop in years. Today I feel like I was hit by a train, everything hurts.
But that’s not what had me on my phone in the early hours. It was the voice that says it shouldn’t be this hard. That wishes my body felt like it did ten years ago. And underneath it, the quieter one asking, is this just how it is now?
I don’t have a tidy answer for that. I’m not going to pretend I’ve made peace with it either. That is my endless work.
What I do know is what I was really looking for at 4.45am. Not information. A time machine. That I know doesn’t exist.
If this is you too…. Here is what actually helps, and it isn’t glamorous.
The Epsom salt bath, the camomile tea over a glass of wine, the early night, the protein within half an hour of training, the red light, the ice bath, the going to bed instead of squeezing another hour out of the day. That’s not the soft bit that happens after the training. That is THE training, and I couldn’t have done it at 32, because at 32 I didn’t think I was worth the time. I thought the aim was to run on empty. The goal was to look and be busy. I grew up believing that unless I was running, I didn’t matter.
So the photos are real, the bit after is real and the worry is real too.
The hardest part is feeling that you are alone in this, worrying alone, chatting to Ai about your issues alone…. I’m working on something about that. Keep watching. More soon.
I don’t post skincare on here… maybe I should do more but I’m so wary of recommending things to women who are already being sold enough. However, when I find a brand I love, particularly smaller brands I think it’s important to share.
I found two years ago when my skin had completely had enough (see reel for photos of how bad it got), I stripped my routine back to almost nothing. I wanted fewer things, and I wanted to know what was actually going on my face (which goes into your body too btw).
Two years on, Glow Serum still comes everywhere with me. It’s the one thing I’ve kept using through a holiday flare-up, sun, and daily SPF, because it doesn’t add to the noise and actively soothes my skin as well as keeping my holiday glow.
They also gifted a discovery kit to every woman at our recent Wild Women retreat, which tells you something about them. Small brands don’t have to do that ✨
If you want to try it for yourself. Comment STARSEED and I’ll send you my link, which gets you 15% off.
17/08/2026
I wrote this on holiday after weeks of watching the skinny conversation creep back in, and after noticing the pressure land on my own body too. I’m tired of it!
The full journal / article piece is on my Substack, link in bio or comment READ and I’ll share the link.
If this lands for you, I would love to hear your take in the comments.
And if you know a woman who needs to hear that her body was never the problem, send it her way.
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