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Ravi Vasdev | Performance Coach for Dads

Helping dads reprioritise health
100s dropped 10kg in 90 days, without missing family time
Dad of 2, ex-corporate, lived the burnout
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08/10/2026

Daniel.

You met him in August last year. Five sessions a week and somehow still going backwards. We stripped everything right back, then rebuilt it properly.

By September he’d stopped counting sessions. It had just started happening.

A few weeks ago, his week fell apart properly. Work went mad, one of the kids was ill, four nights of barely any sleep.

The old version of Daniel would’ve dropped all of it. Training, food, the lot.

This time, one thing held. The Tuesday morning session. Everything else flexed around it instead of collapsing with it.

He messaged me on the Thursday. “Barely functioning, but I made the Tuesday one. Small win.”

That’s genuinely the whole point of this work. Not that hard weeks stop happening to you.

They won’t.

It’s whether something in your week holds anyway when they do.

That’s usually the bit I’m actually watching for with a client, not whether this week goes well, whether the thing we built together survives the week that doesn’t.

If you want to know what would actually hold in your worst week, comment CAPACITY.

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07/10/2026

The all or nothing approach to training looks impressive.

It’s also exhausting, unsustainable and not actually how progress works.

At 43 the goal isn’t to train more.

It’s to still be training in ten years.

That means three or four sessions a week and being genuinely okay with that.

It means walking on the days you don’t get there.

It means not letting one bad week become a month of nothing.

The version of me that trained six days a week in his twenties felt worse about himself more often than the version that trains four days a week now.

Sustainable beats impressive every time.

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06/10/2026

I ask a version of this in almost every first call, though it never comes out sounding like a diagnostic test, it comes out as “tell me about last Wednesday.”

Not Monday. People always want to tell me about Monday, Monday’s the day everyone’s got a story for, fresh start, good intentions, whatever.

Wednesday’s the day that’s already forgotten the plan existed.
The three checks on the slides are the version I’d give you to run on yourself.

What I can’t put on a slide as neatly is what to actually do if you run them and don’t like the answer.

Here’s the bit that helps most people: you don’t fix this by trying harder on the bad days.

You fix it by looking at what’s happening the night before them.

Almost every client I’ve had who couldn’t survive one bad night had the same thing going on underneath, sleep that was already fragile, propped up by a good week rather than actually solid.

Fix the sleep, and the bad nights stop being catastrophic. They just become bad nights.

If it’s useful, save it for the next rough week.

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05/10/2026

I posted this photo in 2017 as a joke. It took me years to see what it actually showed me.

In football there’s no hiding a mistake. Get skinned by your man, miss an open goal, the whole ground sees it in real time. No explaining it away afterward.

Parenting rarely works like that. Except once, it did, I just didn’t know what I was looking at.

2:30am, a Tuesday morning, during half term, years ago.

My wife was away that week, and I was meant to be fully on dad duty.

Most of the week so far had gone to my laptop, working instead, and that night my daughter woke up and found me still on it.

What I didn’t clock, not for years, was what the photo underneath it was actually showing.

I wasn’t unhappy in that job, I was building something, hiring people for a project we’d just won.

But “hunting” for a team at 2:30am, on a weekend I was meant to be fully present for, is still 2:30am.

My wife had already told me the truth long before that weekend.

“You’re either away for work, or you’re home and on your phone working.”

I’d heard it, half agreed, and kept doing exactly the same thing anyway.

A few hours later, breakfast, and my daughter’s asleep at the table, head down next to the coffee cup, worn out from a night that never got the sleep it needed.

I called it “our current mood” back then. Genuinely thought it was funny.

It took me years, and a completely different career, to look at that photo again and see what it actually was.

That’s the part nobody tells you about honest feedback.

Sometimes the evidence is right there, you’ve even shared it publicly yourself, and you still don’t see it until you’re ready to.

My wife had already said it in words. I didn’t need someone to tell me again.

I needed enough distance from that photo to actually look at it properly.

That’s part of why I do this work the way I do now.

Most of it isn’t telling someone they’re doing something wrong.

It’s helping them see what’s already sitting in plain sight, before it takes years to make sense of it.

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03/10/2026

Someone asked me this week what’s actually changed for me most this year.

Not the training. Not the business.

I stopped treating rest like something I had to earn.

For years it was the last thing on the list. After the kids, after work, after everything else got ticked off.

Which meant, in practice, it never actually got ticked off at all.

Last night, kids down, inbox still open, I shut the laptop anyway and went to bed. A year ago I’d have answered three more messages first and called that “nearly done.”

Rest goes first now. Not because I’ve got more time, I haven’t.

Because I finally believed it mattered as much as everything else on that list.

That’s the honest version of what this month’s actually been about.

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01/10/2026

THE STANDARD FILES - Case 05

Six months ago Ryan said he felt like he was running a reduced version of himself.

Six months ago Chris told me he’d worked with two other coaches before me, made real progress with both, and watched it unwind back to where he started every time.

Both came to me for different reasons.

Both went through the same sequence, energy first, structure second, identity third.

I caught up with both of them last week.

Ryan: “My kids come to me with things now. The other night my youngest came to talk through something that happened at school and I realised halfway through I was actually listening. Not half-listening while thinking about something else. Actually there. Can’t remember the last time that felt easy.”

I asked Chris what was actually different this time. He didn’t say the training, or a cleverer plan.

“The other two gave me a programme and checked in once a month. You told me in week three that the plan I was following was wrong for my actual week, not that I wasn’t trying hard enough. Nobody had said that to me before. I stopped thinking of it as a system a while back. It’s just how my week runs now. Someone asked me last month what my secret was. I didn’t know how to explain there isn’t one, I just had someone who kept adjusting it until it actually fit.”

Neither of them used the word transformation. Both used the word consistent.

This is what working with me produces. If you want to understand what it looks like for you specifically, comment CAPACITY.

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