12/10/2026
In the summer of 2026, I became aware of the White Ribbon Campaign and I’ll be honest I was shocked that it even exists. The purpose of the White Ribbon Campaign is ‘to prevent violence against women and girls by engaging men and boys.’ In other words, to teach men and boys that violence against women and girls is a bad thing. Why does that need to be taught?
It has existed since 1991 and I wasn’t aware of it until this year. So, what have I done about it? In July I joined thirteen other crazy people and took part in the Fan Dance. A part of the SAS selection process hiking 15 miles in the Brecon Beacons and taking on Pen-y-fan (886m) twice while carrying a 35lb weighted rucksack. Together we raised £1645 for the White Ribbon Campaign.
I have also become an Ambassador for White Ribbon and that’s part of what this post is about. The campaign is so close to my heart because of what happened to my wife and others I know. Kirsty and I were together less than two years and in that time, we were married and living our life when she passed away suddenly. It seemed particularly cruel when she had endured years of mental torture and violence in a number of abusive relationships. Just when she had found happiness, it was all over.
As a martial arts instructor I have met many women who have been r***d, abused and had their confidence shattered in every area. In each case it was one relationship, or like Kirsty, a series of relationships, that took their lives from them. In many cases, the women and girls escaped or found a way to survive, but it also took years for some to find their way back.
It was always men and boys who did this. And they believed that it is acceptable.
This is me taking a stand against this. With the philosophy of the White Ribbon Campaign, I am saying that I am against every form of coercive behaviour, every act of violence and every word uttered that does not bring a happier time to the people in your life.
It truly does amaze me that this needs to be said, but in the 21st Century it appears that many males need this education. Through my classes, through my videos and in the written word I will pushing this agenda. Love and not hate, joy and not misery and safety, not fear is the way to build a better world. One person at a time.
The White Ribbon Day is on Wednesday 25th November and the theme is ‘It takes all of us.’ I’ll be talking about it more in the next few weeks.
Our mission is to end men's violence against women, once and for all. We work with men and boys to challenge cultures that lead to harassment, abuse and violence.