17/10/2026
🌿 Mentors, Teachers & Care
Since the Compassionate Living Amongst University Undergraduate Students talk, by Davey Erekson & Derek Griner at the Compassionate Mind Conference I’ve been reflecting on how we all have mentors & teachers, and how we are these for others too.
We were invited to think about an uninspiring teacher or mentor, notice how this felt in the body, then do the same for someone inspiring.
Two psychology teachers I had during my A levels came to mind - I was considering studying psychology at university until they told me I wasn't good enough.
What I know now, which I didn't believe then, is that they were very wrong! Who knows what might have happened if I'd completed a psychology degree.
It reminded me how easily our words & the way we relate to others can unintentionally cause harm.
When I thought of an inspiring teacher, my GCSE English teacher came to mind. He nurtured my story & poetry writing, and his genuine care and joy in reading my work came through in his tone of voice, facial expressions & body language. He would often write a comment like “another Parkinson Special”.
I thought of him when I published my poetry book, Living Wholeness, this year.
Some other people also came to mind who’ve inspired me, taught me & believed in me. They shared qualities including genuine care, listening with fascination (Professor Michael West's term), and compassionate presence. Nature inspires and teaches me too. I've also learnt so much from the people I've worked with over the years.
This links to something my niece's teacher said to her recently: “I would love to curl up by the fire with one of your stories.” What a beautiful thing to say, I know this was meaningful to my niece, and being the thoughtful person she is she has since bought a notebook and is writing her teacher a story.
It also got me thinking about the ripple effect of care. When someone notices something in us, encourages us or shows genuine appreciation, it can nurture something that continues to grow. And it influences how we relate to & encourage others.
The way we communicate can amplify feelings of threat or help us feel safe. Constructive feedback can support learning & change; how we offer it matters. Genuine care, compassionate presence & our own regulation can help us to communicate in ways that show care & support growth rather than unintentionally cause harm.
We may never fully know the impact our presence, words or actions have on someone, or how far that impact will travel.
✨ I'm holding gratitude for all the wonderful people in my life, past & present, who have inspired me, encouraged me, taught me & believed in me.
💭 Who are the teachers or mentors who've made a difference in your life? What was it about them, or the way they related to you, that helped you grow?