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“𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗜 𝗱𝗼.”

Or maybe you’ve heard...

“𝗜 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝗵𝗲𝗿.”

“𝗛𝗲’𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀.”

“𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗲 𝗺𝗲 𝗱𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀.”

I’ve heard every one of those lines in my work as a family lawyer, divorce coach, and now as a therapist. Each one holds a story of love, fear, hope… and control. Because abuse doesn’t always start with violence. It often begins with charm - the love bombing, intensity, and promises and then slowly shifts.

𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺:
According to the latest ONS data (2024):
• Around 2.3 million adults in England & Wales experienced domestic abuse last year.
• 1.6 million were women, 712,000 were men — roughly a 2.2 : 1 ratio.
• About 1 in 5 adults has experienced domestic abuse since age 16.

Domestic abuse isn’t only a women’s issue. It happens to men too but they’re far less likely to reach out for help.

𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘺
Because leaving isn’t simple. Sometimes, it’s more dangerous to go than to stay. Sometimes, the abuse isn’t physical; it’s psychological, financial, coercive. People stay because of fear.Because of children, finances, or shame. Because they still see the version of the person they fell in love with.And even when they leave, staying away can be the hardest part.

𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘸𝘦’𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘳𝘢𝘸𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯
From a CBH and attachment perspective, attraction isn’t simply about chemistry; it’s about familiarity.
• Anxious attachment might drive us to “fix” or “earn” love.
• Avoidant attachment might normalise emotional distance.
• Disorganised attachment can create a cycle of craving closeness and fearing it.

So when someone comes along who triggers those patterns it can feel like love. Even when it’s harm.

𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨.
Healing means learning to recognise the pattern, not the person.
It means reframing:
“I can fix them” to “I can care for myself.”
“They’ll change” to “I deserve consistency.”

Through therapeutic work, coaching, and awareness, we can rewire those early attachment scripts and build secure, healthy connections again. You’re not broken for staying. You were surviving.

If this post resonates, share it; someone scrolling today might really need to read it.

And reach out if you need support.

Wishing you all the very best,

Celia Conrad

It’s 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙈𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝 𝘿𝙖𝙮 today, 𝙊𝘾𝘿 𝘼𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙒𝙚𝙚𝙠 next week. It’s also 𝘼𝘿𝙃𝘿 𝘼𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙈𝙤𝙣𝙩𝙝, and 𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥𝙩𝙤𝙗𝙚𝙧.

Each of these themes reminds us that mental health is not one-size-fits-all and that wellbeing isn’t simply about coping; it’s about 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚.

This month, I’ll be sharing a short series of posts: 𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙈𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙨 exploring how we can strengthen our mental health and navigate change with calm, clarity, and compassion.

As many of you know, I recently qualified in Hypno-CBT® an evidence-based approach which integrates cognitive behavioural psychology with hypnotherapy techniques to help people manage stress, anxiety, habits, and performance.

It complements my work in relationships, loss, and life transitions, bringing together all aspects of wellbeing: mind, body, and emotion.

I’ve always believed that well-being is holistic as our thoughts, emotions, and physical responses are deeply connected. And that’s how I approach my work.

For the rest of October, I’ll be sharing insights on:
• Managing anxiety and stress.
• Habit change and motivation.
• Boundaries, assertiveness, and communication.
• Understanding OCD and ADHD through a compassionate lens.
• And why 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 is the thread that connects it all.

Follow along and join the conversation. Let’s make mental health an everyday priority — at work and beyond.

Wishing you all the best,

Celia Conrad

𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆.

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝗴𝗮𝗿 𝗥𝘂𝗻𝘀 𝗢𝘂𝘁...

When the sugar runs out, the ants disappear. Such is the nature of many relationships: conditional, fleeting, and tied to what one can gain. People often aren't drawn to you, but rather to what you offer: your kindness, resources, time, or energy. When the benefits fade, their presence often fades too.

It’s a challenging truth: many relationships are built not from genuine connection but from convenience, rooted in what can be extracted rather than appreciation for who you truly are. You become a stepping stone, fulfilling others' expectations, dreams, or desires.

But don't let this realisation harden your heart; let it make you wiser. Learn to discern those who are drawn to your "sugar" from those who stay when it’s gone. Those who remain even when you have nothing to give are the ones who truly value and see you.

Protect your energy. Give generously, but don’t allow yourself to be drained. Love openly, but never allow yourself to be used. Always remember: your worth isn’t defined by what you provide, but by who you inherently are - even when the sugar runs out.

Wishing you all the very best,

Conrad

𝗡𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲: 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘆𝗲𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲'𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀

Life's inevitable changes—be it personal loss, career shifts, or other significant transitions—profoundly impact our well-being and performance at work.

Join us at the 𝗡𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗪𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟱 to delve into strategies that support employees during these pivotal moments.

As a sponsor, we're proud to contribute to conversations that prioritise mental health and resilience in the workplace. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from experts and connect with like-minded professionals dedicated to fostering supportive work environments.

𝗗𝗮𝘁𝗲: 𝟭𝟳 𝗝𝘂𝗻𝗲 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟱
𝗟𝗼𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: 𝟭𝟱 𝗛𝗮𝘁𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱𝘀, 𝗟𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗻
𝗧𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿: 𝗖𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗼𝘄.

Looking forward to meeting you there:

Wishing you all the very best,
Celia Conrad

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𝗟𝗼𝘀𝘀 doesn't clock out when we clock in.

It shows up in our working day and often when we least expect it…

I recently had the privilege of joining Debra Blackman on her podcast Sphere of Being to talk about the overlooked 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝘀—𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗳, 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲, 𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴—𝗼𝗻 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘆𝗲𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲.
Some of the topics we explored:

• The hidden cost of ignoring loss at work.
• How leaders can hold space for employees in transition.
• What’s really lost when experienced staff walk out the door.
• The role of training, policy, and human awareness.

Whether you're an HR professional, a CEO, or someone quietly struggling, this episode offers practical insight and real heart.

Listen in and do share if it resonates, You’ll find details in the comments below.

Wishing you the very best,
Celia Conrad

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