From Single to Couple

This seems to be the week for exciting collaborations! 🌟

📱 Doubtless, you have a significant online footprint: here on Facebook, other social media, WhatsApp etc.
If you’re single, that may also include a dating app or two.

The question is: does that story reflect the wonderful person you are and showcase your best qualities, or is it all a bit… meh? 🤔

❗ People form impressions quickly and those first impressions can be difficult to change. Yet so many people tell me that the quality of dating profiles and photographs they encounter is disappointing.

That’s why brilliant Gabriele Swift Photography and I have created:

🌟 Your Best Self: A Bespoke Dating Success Package 🌟

It’s more than a photoshoot and more than profile support.
It’s a complete visibility reset designed to help you present your best, most authentic self.

📷 Gabriele will create warm, natural images that capture you looking relaxed and confident. With professional guidance, outfit changes and a calm, supportive approach, she’ll make it an enjoyable experience, even if you usually hate being photographed.

💚 As a certified relationship and dating coach, I’ll use relationship science to help you clarify your goals, refine your dating strategy and elevate your profile and messaging. Together, we’ll create an authentic story that appeals to the kind of partner you’re hoping to meet.

We’ll align your images, words and intentions, so your profile genuinely reflects who you are and what you’re looking for.

📍 Available in person across Berkshire, Hampshire, Buckinghamshire and Surrey, with a virtual package available worldwide.

📩 If you’re ready to give yourself a better chance of finding the right relationship, message us for details, pricing and availability.

Most men over 50 didn’t expect to be dating again, yet here you are…

Divorce, the end of a long relationship or years spent single can make you rethink what you want from life and love.

That’s why Melanie Potro, a Professional Stylist & Image Consultant, and I, a Relationship & Dating Consultant, created The Next Chapter Transformation: a premium six-week programme combining relationship science, a personalised dating strategy and authentic personal style.

Your next chapter could be your best one yet ❤️

Find out more below or message me directly for programme details and a complimentary discovery call:

https://www.single-to-couple.com/dating-after-50-for-men

❤️ Would you trust AI with your love life?

AI is increasingly helping people write dating profiles and messages, interpret behaviour, make relationship decisions and even provide emotional support.

It can be incredibly useful, but...

..before you let AI influence some of the most important decisions of your life, it’s worth understanding its current limitations.

In my latest article, I explore 6 important questions about AI, dating and relationships applying the latest scientific research 🔎

🛑 Before You Use AI for Dating: 6 Risks You Need to Know

👉 Read the full article: link in comments

Do I need a dating coach? 🤔

Is something not quite right in your love life? Perhaps, you are wondering...

💔 Why can't I get over my ex?
🔍 Why can't I find the right partner, even when I'm dating plenty?
⏳ Why does my relationship feel like it's going nowhere?

..plus three more examples, all pulled from my real coaching sessions, not hypotheticals.

Love and relationships may seem emotional and unpredictable - not something one can actively manage - but you have more agency than you realise! 💚

📖 Full piece > single-to-couple.com/when-should-you-see-a-dating-coach

🔍 What is “cybervetting”... and is it a good thing?

The Times turns to dating once again, this time exploring the growing trend of researching a date online and trawling social media for clues.

Is it reasonable to pre-vet a potential partner online?

Hopeless romantics argue it’s intrusive and “takes away the magic”.
Others see it as sensible due diligence in an era where meeting strangers online is commonplace.

💻 Researching a partner online has become part of the zeitgeist.
👩‍❤️‍👨 Researching a partner in general, however, is a tradition older than the Colosseum.

As a renowned relationship researcher Helen Fisher explains:

“Our forebearers researched potential partners too. In former times, however, singles had relatives and friends who easily did this research for them. Communities were close-knit, word spread [...]. Today singles do this research by themselves...
We will see more of this Internet investigation in coming years, because we have only so much time and metabolic energy to mate and breed. False starts aren’t adaptive.”

💡 For me, that final sentence says it all.

It’s one of the reasons why more people come to me asking for an effective vetting process before investing their time, emotions and, sometimes, finances.

What about background checks?

✅ Looking up basic factual information, such as age and relationship status can be perfectly reasonable and saves frustration.

⚠️ Just don’t disappear down the rabbit hole of trying to interpret every photo, comment or “like” on social media. It’s remarkably easy to draw the wrong conclusions from someone’s online presence.

What do you think? Is cybervetting common sense or a step too far? 🤔

Always nice to see your comments featured in the media 📰

Delighted to have contributed to the latest VICE article on that old chestnut… commitment.

How many of us have been in a relationship that felt like pulling teeth?

They tell you they’re fully committed, yet their actions tell a very different story. Something just doesn’t feel right.

It’s one of the most soul-destroying experiences. If you know, you know 💔

Fortunately, research can help us recognise the warning signs and take action if necessary.

In the article, I share five clear signs your partner may not be ready for commitment, even if they say they are.

I’ll pop the link in the comments if you’d like to have a read.

Does any of this sound familiar?

💚 If we haven’t met before, I’m Mila Smith, a relationship & dating coach, educator and speaker. My mission is to help people approach love with greater clarity, intelligence and a science-backed strategy so they can build healthier, happier relationships.