Jeremiah Oriola - Life coach

Stop Judging Your Current Partner Through the Lens of Your Past

It’s unfair to judge your current relationship harshly just because someone from your past did you wrong. Yes, people get hurt, and yes, those experiences shape us, but letting the past dictate your present can do more harm than good.

The truth is, humans will always compare, it’s part of how we learn. But comparison shouldn’t turn into misplaced judgment.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t learn from your past. You absolutely should. Your past should teach you what to accept and what to walk away from. It should help you spot red flags, especially the same ones your ex carried and waved proudly.

But here’s the key: learn to see people for who they truly are. Just because your ex cheated doesn’t mean your current partner will. Suspicions should be based on evidence, not assumptions fueled by old wounds.

If you misjudge someone without cause, if you project your past onto someone trying to love you in the present, you’ll struggle to keep any relationship healthy. Worse, you might just push away someone truly amazing.

Heal. Reflect. Grow. But don’t punish someone new for the mistakes of someone old.

In this world we live in, people will shatter your heart as if it’s a coconut. They don’t care about how you feel about their negative actions, so far it takes them close to what they want, whatever happens in the process is none of their business. Be wise ❤️❤️⭐️

This is my grandma and she’s over 110.

She makes her own soup and she doesn’t eat maggi. She uses locust bean instead of maggi.

She recognizes all her kids even when she’s talking over the phone.

Most importantly, you can’t take Africa magic Yoruba from her.

I don't understand why some men become upset when their partner earns more than they do. Men who react negatively to this often believe that being a husband means controlling their partner and dictating their actions.

I think men should be concerned if they are not earning enough, failing to improve, and not seeking career development. This sends the wrong signal to the other party

When one partner is advancing and feels that the other isn't striving to match their energy and ambition, a conflict is likely imminent.

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A 70 years old man celebrated his birthday and claimed to have slept with over 300 women.

To buttress his claim, he released a list of all the names of these women.

After releasing the names, he noticed that people weren’t satisfied, he then decided to release pictures of himself and these women.

The interesting thing is, a lot of these ladies are actually young. Some of them in their 20s, some in their 30s.

The question is…..

You know what? There’s no question…

Thing is, I didn’t even think it was possible. I doubted myself for so long, at some point I didn’t even think I was good enough. Until one day, I went to my cousin’s house, and I began to see those who had achieved greatness through education.

That day, I promised myself to do everything necessary to achieve it all academically.

Well, here you are, Jeremiah Oriola, you have arrived!

MSc - Project Management - University of Westminster, London.



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Most of the problems we pray to God to help us solve are what other nationals are enjoying without prayers.

People without jobs get money from the government, they really don’t pray for God to give them money. Some of them even get food vouchers. Some of them get housing benefits from the government, they don’t pray to God to put a roof over their head.

Terrible leadership and Sapa! Nice one

Even pastors don turn millionaires on top Naija problem

Your pastors are collecting your tithes and offering, praying to God on your behalf to give you things other people in foreign countries are getting for free.

Do you now think devil is the cause of our problems?

This year, I made a firm commitment to regularly check in on two individuals every week. This decision extended beyond just close family and friends; I made a point to reach out to a diverse range of people, from social media friends to friends of friends. This single choice has brought brightness to many lives, bringing smiles to their faces.

Numerous individuals are grappling with various challenges, and sometimes, all they need is a caring gesture from you to rekindle their hope in brighter days ahead. Whether they are dealing with heartbreak, setbacks, or mental health issues, your kindness can be a transformative force in their lives.

You don't have to make grand gestures; a simple act like buying someone dinner or offering a modest sum, such as 500 Naira or £1, can have a profound impact on their circumstances.

Let's spread love!

Extend a hand to someone today, and become the source of someone's happiness.

The universe will never forget you ❤️

From my parents, I’ve learned an invaluable lesson: no matter how financially challenging life may be, I'm determined never to send my children to live with extended family for extended periods. The idea of entrusting my kids to relatives is a firm "no" for me.

During my own upbringing, we faced severe poverty, yet my parents never once considered sending us off to distant relatives. They provided for us, ensured our education, and guided us until we were old enough to make our own choices. It wasn't solely due to mistrust of relatives but also because they believed in the irreplaceable bond of raising one's own children.

It's disheartening to see that many parents today readily send their kids to stay with relatives, whether in town or in a bustling city like Lagos or Abuja. I'm not suggesting that all relatives are unsuitable caregivers, nor that children should never spend time with extended family. However, it's crucial to ask ourselves how often we visit our children while they are away. Do we check on their well-being and encourage them to confide in us about their experiences?

As parents, we must strive to do better.

I recently watched a video in which a husband and wife brought their housemaid, whom they referred to as their uncle's daughter, to a restaurant. They handed their baby to the young girl and proceeded to enjoy a meal of fried rice and chicken, while she watched without any food of her own.

At another table, two gentlemen noticed this situation and decided to purchase a plate of fried rice for the girl. However, this act of kindness led to a heated argument between the couple and the two men who were trying to help the young girl. The couple claimed that the girl had already eaten at home and wasn't hungry. It was only when the young girl herself confessed to the gentlemen that she was facing mistreatment at home.

It's disheartening to see how unkind some people can be. Taking a young girl to a restaurant and allowing her to hold your baby without providing her with food, all while you eat in front of her, raises questions about our treatment of fellow human beings.

Nigerians! Why are we like this?

What’s stopping us from being better as human beings?

I have always told you guys that social media is not reality. In fact, it’s nothing close to reality.

Have you guys seen how this couple move on social media? They parade themselves as the most loving and amazing couple on earth. They follow each other’s posts and even express love for each other most of the time. People pray to be like them, to love and move like them.

The man married a beautiful, stunning and a physically well rounded woman.

The man married a successful, handsome and physically fit man. Well, all of that was not enough to hold their marriage together.

Today, their marriage has ended

Love is never enough