Michaela - Life Coach

The secret of being able to show up for yourself lies in understanding your needs

Not just momentarily
Not just today
But holistically and especially of your future self

It would be so much easier if there was just ONE WAY, maybe the right way of knowing what and when to prioritise

The following can help you start getting better at it regardless of of the area :

1. CHECK-IN - where are you at? How do you feel? What’s been going on?
2. WHAT WILL ACTUALLY SERVE YOU IN THIS MOMENT BUT FOR YOUR FUTURE SELF? this is different from your usual tendencies, or default choices, what do you actually need ?
3. GIVE YOURSELF A PERMISSION to change your mind - this is crucial because you cannot live your life by a template and the key is learning to know how to adapt on the go

Any questions ? Pop them in the comments 👇🏼

One thing that will help you on your journey - regardless of your goals - is understanding yourself, your needs and capacities.

You want to get to a place where you can take ownership of your decisions but in order to do that you must have a strong why and trust that your why is your why in that moment for a valid reason.

Start noticing what drives your decisions around and related to your goals

Start noting down occasions where you language shifts from ‘I choose’ to ‘I should’

Start noticing when choosing something feels right and when it doesn’t and what other choice there may be available for you

Building inner trust and confidence around the little habits leading you towards your goals will guarantee you much longer and sustainable journey and will help you to continue connect to yourself 💛

How would it feel to feel more protected, provided for and encouraged? Not only when you have hard time face the world but at all times…

This may be the difference between responding to yourself with tough love and fierce compassion, whilst both of them might bring you the same result - you being able to stay accountable to yourself, they reinforce 2 different messages

Whilst one is pressuring and suppressive of any negative emotions (tough love)
The other offer more room for emotional presence AND encouragement for your future self (fierce compassion)

Embodying fierce compassion is about becoming that person for yourself that has your back and wants the best for you whilst truly caring for how you feel - the key word is CARE

The prompt I have for you is : How can you care for yourself and for your future self in the place you are in right now?

Here’s how to do it:

1. Acknowledge where you’re at in that moment ((.e.: I really can’t be bothered to do anything today, I wish I could just stay in bed, I’m really not ok…)
2. Offer and tap into tender compassion first - this may sound like : ‘That’s really not fun, I can see this does not feel good for you’ (yes you are going to be talking to yourself and whilst this may feel uncomfortable at first, I need you to keep thinking about that part of you that’s struggling in the meanwhile)
3. Immediately follow with fierce compassion - WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR YOURSELF IN THAT MOMENT THAT YOUR FUTURE SELF WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR?
- Is it little bit of grace?
- Is it less pressure?
- Is it saying yes to what feels difficult to do - moving your body, cleaning your house, feeding yourself, doing one task at a time…?
- Is it saying no to things that will just make it worse - seeing people, scrolling on social media, eating junk…?

REMEMBER this is a skill, so try to practise whenever you can

Let me know how it goes and if you need more help, click the link in bio 💛

One of the few certain things in life is change

yet, it is also the one thing that constantly causes us anxiety

* What will be
* What won’t be
* What’s the right thing
* What happens if we do life wrong
* What now?

No matter how big or small change is, our natural response is often resistance or the urge to stop change, the opposite of embracing it which causes to feel stuck, scared and doubtful of our adaption abilities

If change is viewed as a transitional part of journey rather than a stage, if can overflow us with liberating feeling of choices, opportunities and empowerment that not only this feeling of uncertainty won’t last forever but also that it can provide us with gains and growth

If we view change as a flowing transition, perhaps we can surrender to the flow, let go of the attachment to the old and become curious of what the new may bring

If we often fight change, how can change become more neutral?
What does the opportunity of change offer to us that being stagnate wouldn’t?

When one of my clients asked me why do our bodies choose coping mechanisms that later become unhelpful,

not only was this a great question to expand on but it is something that can be an obstacle when healing self-abandonment wounds and learning more loving kindness and self-compassions.

Knowing that it was never our fault and that we have the power to rewrite our story can be truly powerful when we desire a better relationship with ourselves and other 💛

If this is something that resonates with you and you’d like to chat more about, book a discovery call through the link in bio

Being in control can feel so powerful and reassuring, until it doesn’t because often life makes sure to go everything but according to YOUR plan.

When you experience a stressful event in childhood (this may not be perceived as stressful in the first place) your system may learn that in order to prevent those events happening again in the future,

As long as you stay in control, everything will be ok. It can be truly hard to understand how letting go of control can be beneficial but through therapy and inner work it is possible to learn to trust your abilities to overcome anything again.

Have you ever felt confused why you feel stuck, unfulfilled, unhappy in yourself and your body? You often don’t realise that this is all down to all the ways that you abandon yourself … that you probably are not even aware of the HOW you abandon yourself yet, because they have become such a normal part of life: - Self-sabotaging - Constantly dieting - With Low Self-Esteem - Losing weight and then putting it back on - Criticising yourself - Hating your body - Binge eating - Not taking care of yourself - Feel lost in yourself The Return to One’s Self Podcast is here to help you discover the HOW & the WHY The why behind you abandoning yourself The why behind you disconnecting from yourself The why behind you disconnecting to your body We help you to reconnect & return to yourself so that you can reach a place where you are at peace, fulfilled & content with your self & your body. We can’t wait! Follow us to receive the release date & link to the first podcast episode! Mish & Emma x

𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙄𝙉𝙏𝙀𝙉𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉𝙎 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝘼𝙇𝙄𝙂𝙉𝙈𝙀𝙉𝙏 𝙒𝙄𝙏𝙃 𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙑𝘼𝙇𝙐𝙀𝙎 𝙒𝙄𝙇𝙇 𝘼𝘾𝙏 𝘼𝙎 𝘼 𝙎𝙏𝙍𝙊𝙉𝙂 𝙁𝙊𝙐𝙉𝘿𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉 𝙁𝙊𝙍 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙇𝙀𝙑𝙀𝙇 𝙊𝙁 𝙎𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙎𝙁𝘼𝘾𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉 𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝙒𝙄𝙇𝙇 𝙁𝙀𝙀𝙇 𝙒𝙃𝙀𝙉 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝘾𝙃𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙂𝙊𝘼𝙇

In simple words

If you are choosing to set your goals based on what you think you SHOULD be achieving, you will have very hard time feeling content and satisfied with the outcome

Whether that’s

Dieting
Career or financial goals
Relationship or friendship goal
Body image and health goal

If your specific goals DO NOT align with what’s truly important for you, these outcomes won’t meet your expectations and won’t be even achievable

- Not because they are unrealistic but because you simply won’t care enough

Self-reflective questions provided in the slides above will help you to gain clarity and insight into what you truly want rather than what you think you should want

Because that is where the disconnection or connection lies and that is also where the place of self-empowerment lies

If this is still unclear to you and you’d like to step into the most free and authentic version of yourself

CLICK THE LINK IN BIO FOR 121 SUPPORT 💛

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