05/05/2025
People often ask me why I do what I do.”Don’t you find it depressing listening to people’s sad stories? Why would you want to spend your time doing that? Doesn’t it make you feel depressed?”
At age 13 I lost my mum. She went on holiday, sadly got typhoid and died. I had been told nothing about how to deal with losing a loved one suddenly.
Lack of good information meant I believed all kinds of mistaken ideas that people shared trying to be helpful. “You mustn’t cry, you’ve got to be strong for your brothers and sisters”, they said.
I spent years trying to follow their advice and in the meantime and in the mean ignored my grief emotions and pushed them down whenever they tried to get my attention.
When my brother died suddenly from a massive heart attack, when I was 30, all the unresolved grief from my mum’s death came up and I realised that time isn’t the healer😢
I then went on to lose my youngest sister because she had a delayed grief reaction, had a breakdown and sadly died through su***de. A year later, I lost my father and then went on to experience 3 miscarriages.
I became fearful of death and dying and wondered what the point of life was if you or your loved ones could suddenly just die. I felt lost and stuck in a maze without instructions on how to get out.
After years of struggle I finally found my way out and became committed to helping others so they wouldn’t have to suffer or be stuck like I was for years.
During the pandemic I decided to train as a Grief Specialist so I could teach people the knowledge tools and processes that I didn’t have when I needed them. Grief and loss is a natural part of life and we need to better trained in handling it.
I love what I do because it is so life transforming. I love how people are able to move forward and thrive again personally and professionally.
I do it in memory of the beautiful young sister I lost to su***de because she wasn’t equipped in how to recognise and handle unresolved grief.
I do it because I want good to come out of what have been very tragic experiences.
I do it because I want to be a beacon of hope to those who are struggling to believe that they will ever be able to get their life or laughter back. I do it to increase love and decrease fear.
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P.S. Do I look depressed?