Sarah Woodward Breakup and Divorce Coach

Who do you need to let go of in your life?

No matter how much we love someone, sometimes we just need to walk away for the sake of our own happiness.

I know it takes so much strength to do this.

Our brain's designed to keep us safe and that means staying with what we know, even if it's making us deeply unhappy.

But ultimately it's about knowing you deserve so much more.

You deserve to be happy.

You deserve to be loved.

And you deserve to be treated like a queen.

So don't settle for anything less.

Better things are out there for you.

You just need to let go to make space for them.

If you're thinking of leaving your relationship, as you know you dserve so much more, then I can support you in making the right decision for you.

Send me a DM and let's chat.

My clients regularly say that they feel so much better from just talking to me.

And for me that makes it all worthwhile.

To know that I've made a difference in someone's day, week or life.

And helped them to heal after their breakup so that they're excited to start the next chapter of their life.

So what are some of the benefits from breakup and divorce coaching:

✅ A safe and non-judgemental space - one where you can be totally honest and vulnerable with no fear of being judged. This is so important when you're going through a breakup. I'm able to build up trust with my clients really quickly and they often tell me things that they've not told anyone else before. Although your friends and family may have the best intentions, they can find it difficult to be objective as they're too clode to the situation.

✅ You learn how to cope with your emotions - coaching empowers you with the tools, techniques, and strategies that you need to get through your breakup. It helps you to dial down the intensity of all the negative emotions and to take back your control. You then have these skills for life to support you in other challenging situations you may face in future. Being able to cope with your emotions whilst you’re on this emotional rollercoaster determines how you show up in the process and the results you achieve.

✅ It enables you to keep showing up - as you need to in your career, life, and other relationships. Let’s face it, it can be as much as you can manage to just get through the day, let alone perform in your business or career and be there for the other relationships in your life. A coach will give you the support you need so you can continue to show up in these other areas of your life whilst looking after yourself and making sure your needs are also met.

✅ It gives you the freedom to move on - by helping you to find closure on what’s happened, work through the guilt, and let go of the past so that you can live a life that’s better than before and where you feel happier and stronger.

If this feels like exactly what you need to help you fast track out of your breakup then send me a DM and let's chat

When I was going through my divorce I was really anxious about the mounting legal costs - and it wasn't even a contentious or acrimonious divorce.

It felt like I was burning through money quicker than I was earning it.

And I was conscious that every email or phone call was costing me money.

So I get that you might feel like investing in a divorce coach is just another expense on top of legal fees and other expenses.

But here's the thing...

Investing in a divorce coach can actually save you time and money.

Solicitors are highly trained professionals and experts at dealing with all the legal aspects of your divorce.

But even though they're very understanding and empathetic, they're not specialists in supporting you with the emotional and practical challenges of your divorce.

And let's face it, they're more expensive than a divorce coach.

Although you might feel better in the moment, using your solicitor to ‘download’ to is not the best use of your time and money.

A divorce coach is an expert in helping you to manage your emotions so that you can cope better.

They also help you to take your control back.

This means your meetings with your solicitor are then more objective, focused, and productive.

And you avoid letting your emotions hijack the situation.

You're just talking about the legal and financial aspects of your situation, not the latest thing your ex has done to p**s you off.

Which means you save time and money in legal fees.

Whilst you focus on your healing and your future with your coach.

Read my latest blog - Why you can't afford to not hire a divorce coach - for all the other benefits of a coach

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Today is International Day of Happiness.

I'm celebrating here with a photo of one of my cat's Lexie who's keeping me company (and causing chaos) whilst I work.

My cats bring me happiness every single day and I'm so grateful to have them.

It can be really tough after a breakup to think that you have no happiness in your life.

But the reality is, we're all in control of our own happiness.

Studies in Positive Psychology have shown that a huge 40% of our happiness is within our own control.

And only 10% is due to our circumstances.

I think that if I'd known those statistics when I was going through my own divorce, I would have been so much more empowered to know that I could change how I felt.

So if you're not feeling the happiness in your life today, whether that's because of a breakup or for any other reason,

Take 10 minutes out of your day to write a list of everything that makes you happy.

Think back across your whole life

From what you loved doing as a child, to what brings you joy and happiness now, and what you've always wanted to do.

And then consciously start planning those things in your diary

So that you have moments of happiness every day.

And notice how quickly your life starts to change.

So tell me in the comments, what's one thing you can do today to make yourself happy? 👇

I love nothing more than being out in nature photographing wildlife.

It's my passion.

One that I didn't discover until after my divorce.

But whilst I will happily sit for hours on end watching wildlife, trying to get the prefect shot.

When it comes to organsing and editing my photos - well let's just say "I could do better"

I can never really show anyone my photos because they're all over the place on different hard drives and I haven't edited them.

But 6 months ago I decided to change that.

I'd had enough being stuck with my photos, not knowing where to start.

I've hired an expert to teach me how to edit my photos as I have no idea where to begin with that.

And I've spent hours going through all the various hard drives and getting the thousands of photos in one place.

I've catalogued them all by trip so I can easily find what I'm looking for.

And that feels great!

I've put the foundations in place now so I can start progressing.

So that eventually I can build a website to showcase my photos on.

But without getting the foundations in place, this would never be possible.

And this is exactly what I do with my clients when they first come to me.

We put the foundations in place for your healing, so you can then start moving on with your life.

Firstly I help you to take your control back and EMPOWER you with tools from Positive Psychology so that you have your own toolkit which will help you to quickly shift your mood and avoid the dark moments.

Next I help you to build up your RESILIENCE AND RELEASE all the negative thoughts that keep you trapped in the past so that you can build the new life you deserve.

This is a deep clean for your mind and it's crucial to be able to move on and find happiness again.

And then once you have these foundations in place,

I help you to REDISCOVER THE REAL YOU – This is you mark II.

And this is when you're ready to leave the past behind and start focusing on your future.

So that you're ready to claim your big new life!

If you're ready to get the foundations in place for your healing after your breakup, then DM me the word FOUNDATIONS and let's chat.

I love nothing more than being out in nature photographing wildlife.

It's my passion.

One that I didn't discover until after my divorce.

But whilst I will happily sit for hours on end watching wildlife, trying to get the perfect shot.

When it comes to organising and editing my photos - well let's just say I "could do better"

I can never really show anyone my photos because they're all over the place on different hard drives and I haven't edited them.

But 6 months I decided to change that.

I'd had enough being stuck with my photos, not knowing where to start.

I've hired an expert to teach me how to edit the photos as I have no idea where to begin with that.

And I've spent hours going through all the various hard disk drives and getting the thousands of photos in one place.

I've catalogued them all by trip so I can easily find what I'm looking for.

And that feels great!

I've put the foundations in place now so I can start progressing.

So that eventually I can build a website to showcase my photos on.

But without getting the foundations in place, this would never be possible.

And this is exactly what I do with my clients when they first come to me.

We put the foundations in place for your healing so you can then start moving on with your life.

Firstly I help you to take your control back and EMPOWER you with tools from Positive Psychology so that you have your own toolkit which will help you to quickly shift your mood and avoid the dark moments.

Next I help you to build up your RESILIENCE AND RELEASE all the negative thoughts that keep you trapped in the past so that you can build the new life you deserve.

This is a deep clean for your mind and it's crucial to be able to move on and find happiness again.

And then once you have these foundations in place, I help you to REDISCOVER THE REAL YOU – This is you mark II.

And this is when you're ready to leave the past behind and start focusing on your future.

So that you're ready to claim your big new life!

If you're ready to get the foundations in place for your healing after your breakup, then DM me the word FOUNDATIONs and lets chat.

The 'firsts' after your breakup are always difficult and that includes the first Mother's Day you don't have your kids.

But you can still have the special day that you deserve.

You get to choose how you feel at any point in time.

Try and switch the situation round from feeling sad that you don’t have your kids, to finding the positives in the situation.

Yes it's not ideal and not what you want, but there will always be something positive

Even if it’s just that you can have a nice long lie in and some time to yourself.

Focus on what you love doing for you, but rarely have the time to do anymore.

Today is the day to spoil yourself - however you choose.

And your kids will be home later when you can have a celebration with them.

I couldn't imagine how I could possibly be happy again after my divorce.

I didn't know how to happy on my own.

I just wanted to be happy with my ex.

We'd been together all our adult life since we met at university.

And it felt like all my happiness was tied up with him.

In my head if I wasn't with him, I wouldn't be happy.

But eventually I realised I was giving my power away to someone else.

No one else is responsible for your happiness.

Yes you can be happy when you're with your partner.

But you have to find happiness within yourself first.

And when you're truly happy yourself, a relationship is just the icing on the cake.

And your relationships will be healthier and more fulfilled as a result.

You'll be in a relationship for the right reasons.

Not because you can't bear to be on your own and need someone else to make you happy.

Many of my clients have lost sight of what makes them happy.

They've spent years putting the kids, their partner's and other's needs before themselves.

So they're often stumped when I ask what makes them happy.

It's why in my program 'Better than Before' we go deep on this and find what truly makes you happy in life.

And how you can create a future full of happiness.

We REDISCOVER THE REAL YOU!

This is you mark II.

It’s time to burst out of the box and claim your big new life.

You have no idea how amazing your future could be!

If you're ready to find true happiness again after your breakup then DM me and let's chat.

Delighted to have contributed to this article in Fabulous in The Sun today.

The 10 things your partner does that show he could be cheating on you.

As I've said in the article, none of these in isolation mean your partner's having an affair.

It's about the changes in behaviour that you might be experiencing that COULD be an indication.

You can have a read from the link here

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/21696066/divorce-coach-10-things-partner-does-show-could-cheating/

So many of my clients have never felt a priority in their partner's life.

Even at the beginning of their relationship.

Their partner put everything else before them - their career, their mates, their hobbies...

And they just accepted that was how it was.

Not expecting or feeling as if they deserved anything more.

This usually comes from feelings of low self-esteem.

Feeling like you can't ask for what you really want or need in the relationship.

For fear of being rejected and being left on your own.

Prepared to settle for the scraps of attention, affection and conversation that you get when they feel like it.

But we need positive relationships in our life for us to flourish and thrive and for our overall wellbeing.

That's why in my 1:1 coaching program, Better than Before, we work on REDISCOVERING THE REAL YOU.

And this involves building up your self-esteem and confidence so that you attract the relationships you deserve, rather than settling.

You feel confident about asking for what you want and need in a relationship.

You're able to set your boundaries about the behaviours you won't accept.

And you're clear on exactly what you want and need in a future partner so that you don't repeat the same patterns and attract the wrong relationships.

You know that you're worth so much more!

If you'd love to know more, DM me and let's chat.