Contrary to what most people might assume, I didn’t start my Self-Love Chapter single.
It wasn’t through heartbreak that I first decided to start choosing myself.
It was when I came home from work one day and said to my partner ‘I know I either come home from work absolutely buzzing or completely stressed - which one do you think it is more often?’
Before even a split pause ‘STRESSED’
In that moment, I knew.
Of course I knew - I was the one living it.
I was the one taking my work laptop home every night to either try to catch up or get ahead.
I was the one celebrating my team hitting all their KPI’s to realise I have to do it all again next week.
I was the one keeping up a performance of confidence so I’d be considered for promotion, whilst my swan legs were flailing from the immense pressure, beneath the surface.
And I couldn’t shake the realisation that if most of my work time was spent stressed, and most of my life was spent at work…
I was spending the majority of my life in Stress. And that just did not seem like the way life was meant to be.
So when we briefly joked about quitting our jobs to travel, it was all that kept entering my mind every time I swiped my lanyard and pulled up in my works car park.
So… we made it happen. And you won’t be surprised to know there’s not a single day I look back and think ‘I wish I’d stayed in the corporate career’
The good news? You don’t have to wait for the breakup to happen or the corporate stress to turn to illness to choose yourself
You get to proactively choose yourself NOW
If you’re ready to explore what the Liberated Life could look like for you - DM me LIBERATED and let’s chat
Abbie Fish - Love & Liberation Coach
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International Life Coach | Connection Events & Retreats Host | Speaker
17/06/2026
The Reality when I put myself first and said Yes to Travel…
My family relationships transformed from Quantity to Quality
I used to think ‘being there’ for someone meant regular visits and more time physically present, when in reality, less time spent intentionally means we’d talk about the important stuff over the neighbours updates!
I couldn’t control my Grandma’s passing, she always wanted the best for me and as it turned out she passed away a couple of months after I returned and I was right by her side until the end
Not being ‘allowed’ the safety net of returning to my career meant I was so much more open to finding a new path. I’d brain dump business ideas, flew to India for a laughter yoga leader course and stumbled upon my life coaching course in the most synchronistic of ways
Being in the Philippines whilst my sister was in labour meant that I was on the phone to her whilst she was on gas and air through the night other family members needed to rest. I also booked a mid trip flight home to meet my new baby nephew - because that’s allowed!
The point being?
Putting myself first worked out in all the ways I couldn’t have expected.
I can’t imagine the version of life where I’d stayed home safe and not experienced the world.
Feeling the pull towards adventure but worries about others holding you back?
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The Liberated Woman knows her worth and takes *that* confidence out into the world with her.
She’s speaking up for herself without her voice wobbling
Without frustratingly bursting into tears whilst she’s trying to her her point across
She’s confidently sharing her opinions now she’s realised she does in fact have them
Instead of saying ‘I’m easy’ and going with the flow of everyone else’s preferences
She’s putting herself forward for opportunities she knows she’d be amazing at
Rather than keep forwarding them to everyone else she thinks of
She knows her worth
And she’s not afraid to use it😉
Ready to unleash your Liberated Woman? DM Liberated and I’ll send you the link to start the journey
You might be becoming The Liberated Woman if…
You’ve stopped waiting for people to be available
You book the trip anyway
You say what restaurant you actually want to go to
Your phone stays on Do Not Disturb
You care more about feeling alive than looking successful
Which one feels most like you right now?
Do the Worth Work Ladies🔥
It will literally change your whole life
Send me a DM to Book a One-Off Session, 1 month Intensive or 3 month Journey💌
It’s not for someone else
It keeps coming up for a reason
It’s for YOU
You just might not quite be the version of you that’s ready to see it and claim it… YET
DM WORTHY and let’s talk about getting you to your dreams
‘Pick me’ energy is exactly what leads to people-pleasing relationships…
Because that’s exactly how they started
It’s time to bring your authenticity to the forefront
Face your fear of rejection head on
And be yourself!
From the start.
Trust me *that’s* magnetic🧲⚡️
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What is that thing you’re craving from someone else?
Love?
Safety?
Security?
Connection?
Get specific, find the feeling.
And start with YOU.
Because waiting for a hero to come along outsources our power.
And guess what, providing that thing for yourself…
Makes you much more magnetic to attracting the aligned relationship than the energy of needing someone else to fill/fix a part of you🧲⚡️
You’ve got this🔥
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Self first, relationship second, kids last.
I know, it sounds ‘harsh’ right?
But your children aren’t looking at your kind intentions, they’re looking at your actions.
And self-sacrificing isn’t something we need to pass down.
They’re learning love from you and they’re learning love from your relationship, so if you’re not dedicating any time nurturing the love in yourself and your life, even if you’re ‘giving them everything’, they’re missing out.
I love to see the mums who take themselves on retreat
I love to see the dads who are going to therapy
I love to see the couples who are doing the communication work together
Because always remember - your kids are looking up first.
How are you modelling love?
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