Oli Anderson Coaching

𝗣𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 & 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗟𝗡𝗘𝗦𝗦: 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗠𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗔𝗿𝗲

𝙋𝙚𝙖𝙠 𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙎𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨

Have you ever had one of those moments where you felt totally and utterly ALIVE?

Perhaps you were standing on top of a mountain and watching the sun disappear beneath the horizon; maybe you were completely immersed in creating something, playing music, falling in love, or simply walking through the countryside and everything seemed to click into place.

𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙨𝙡𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙙 𝙙𝙤𝙬𝙣, 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙫𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙙, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙚𝙡𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙣𝙙 – 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 – 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚. 𝙁𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝙗𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙛 𝙢𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩, 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙡𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙚𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇.

The psychologist Abraham Maslow called these moments Peak Experiences and though they’re often spoken about as being rare or extraordinary events, I believe they reveal something much deeper than a temporary emotional high:

𝙁𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇𝙉𝙀𝙎𝙎, 𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙠 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙨𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙮 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙪𝙨 𝙖 𝙥𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙮 – 𝙞𝙣𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙙, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙪𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙡𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙧𝙖𝙜𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙪𝙙𝙨 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣.

In other words, they don’t make us into somebody new – they remind us of who we’ve really been all along.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

Peak Experiences & REALNESS: How the Most Powerful Moments of Your Life Reveal Who You Really Are - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness The psychologist Abraham Maslow called these moments Peak Experiences and though they're often spoken about as being rare or extraordinary events, I believe

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐚𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐜 & 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬: 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐈𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞 (𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐃𝐨 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐈𝐭)

𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙠𝙖𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙊𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙐𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙎𝙪𝙗𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙪𝙩𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙎𝙚𝙚𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜

There’s a belief that’s deeply rooted in the modern human experience that rarely gets questioned and it goes like this:

“Work is the main source of meaning in our lives“.

You see this belief absolutely everywhere:

𝙋𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙙𝙪𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙗𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙟𝙤𝙗 𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙖𝙨 𝙞𝙛 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙘𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙧𝙗𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙙𝙪𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙩𝙮, 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙠𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙯𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙨 𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙣 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙞𝙩𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 – 𝙗𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙣𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙨 𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙚, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 ‘𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚’ 𝙬𝙖𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙤𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙨 𝙬𝙚’𝙧𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙥𝙞𝙘𝙠 𝙪𝙥 𝙖𝙜𝙖𝙞𝙣.

For some, this goes beyond ambition or diligence and becomes workaholism (an addiction to work and being a human doing instead of a human being).

If you’re reading this, then there’s a chance you’ve started to feel it yourself (which is why you landed on this page about being a workaholic) and so you have at least a subtle suspicion that work is taking up too much space in your life – not just in your schedule, but in your mind, your identity, your emotional world.

This isn’t an article about demonising work, though – work is a good thing and can be creative, purposeful, and deeply satisfying but when a good thing becomes an ultimate thing then we start to experience distortion that pulls us away from what’s REAL.

This article is about returning to your REALNESS so you can have a healthier relationship with whatever it is that you’re doing and live a life where you’re only ‘ultimate’ is your life itself.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

https://olianderson.co.uk/workaholic/

𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙏𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 '𝙂𝙤𝙙' 𝘿𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣'𝙩 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙁𝙤𝙧 𝙔𝙤𝙪

Oh, hi there.

This is a video about why TRUSTING God / Life / Truth / The Universe / Whatever is always the way forward but also about why it often doesn't work for people.

The main thing that we'll be talking about is the difference between PROJECTION and actual PRESENCE and the fact that a lot of people say they're trusting in something higher but, really, they've just created a projection of the ego that they unconsciously end up putting their trust in instead.

This is always doomed to failure and disappointment because the ego is the opposite of reality but REAL ALWAYS WORKS.

Check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvjRzBQG6yg

Stay real out there and hope this helps,

Oli

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Why Trusting 'God' Doesn't Work For You Oh, hi there.This is a video about why TRUSTING God / Life / Truth / The Universe / Whatever is always the way forward but also about why it often doesn't wo...

𝗟𝗶𝗺𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 & 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀: 𝗘𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗩𝗼𝗶𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗕𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲

𝙂𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙊𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙇𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙗𝙮 𝙍𝙚𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇𝙉𝙀𝙎𝙎

Have you ever felt so absolutely “in love” with somebody that it reached the point of almost feeling like madness or insanity?

It might’ve felt a little like this:

𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢, 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙛𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙚𝙨, 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙮 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙜𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙, 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙮𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙤 𝙖 𝙨𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙨𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙖 𝙨𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙮, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙞𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙩𝙚𝙭𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙞𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙞𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙧𝙪𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙠 (𝙤𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙙)…

Experiences of ‘love’ like this can feel completely intense, intoxicating, and strangely meaningful – as though fate itself has intervened in your love life – but, beneath the excitement, something else often lurks: anxiety, obsession, and a growing sense that your life has somehow become smaller and more dramatic than it needs to be.

This kind of experience has a name:

𝙇𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚.

Understanding it – and how to move beyond it – can help you return to something far more powerful and stable than the maddening kind of obsession that we call “love”: your REALNESS.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

Limerence & Realness: Escaping the Void and Coming Back to Life - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness This article will show you how to get out of limerence so that you can live your real life.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗔𝗴𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴: 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗚𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗿 & 𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝘼𝙜𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 & 𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇 𝘼𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙠𝙨

One of the most common anxieties people carry in the modern world is the fear of ageing:

It lurks in the background of our lives and culture, influencing the way we look at ourselves, the choices we make, and even how we value other people…at some point or another, almost everybody feels it.

Some worry about losing their looks.

Some worry about becoming less valuable.

Some worry about running out of time.

Some worry about not having made the most of their lives.

These worries can show up in subtle ways or extreme ones but they all revolve around the same basic reality which is that every living thing ages and that the ageing process is one of the most fundamental and natural processes in all of life.

The thing that causes the most problems for people, however, isn’t ageing itself but their RESISTANCE to ageing (which is really just the resistance to reality itself):

𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙢𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙪𝙣𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙙 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙜𝙤’𝙨 𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙢𝙥𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙣 𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙣𝙤 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 – 𝙞𝙣 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩, 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚’𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙚𝙜𝙤 𝙬𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙬𝙖𝙨.

The purpose of this article isn’t to try and eliminate ageing or to pretend that getting older is always easy but to hopefully help you to see that real always works because – when we face the reality of ageing directly instead of resisting it – we can build a foundation of acceptance, fulfilment, and even joy.

In other words, the goal is not to defeat ageing – the goal is to learn how to stay REAL whilst it happens.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

The Fear of Ageing: Facing the Reality of Getting Older & Why Real Always Works - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness One of the most common anxieties people carry in the modern world is the fear of ageing:

𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗠𝗔𝗡 𝗶𝘀 𝗔𝗹𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲 (𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗡𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗛𝗶𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳)

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙖𝙣 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙆𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝘽𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝘼𝙡𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮 𝙒𝙖𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙁𝙤𝙧 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙇𝙚𝙩 𝙃𝙞𝙢 𝙎𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙐𝙥

There’s a strangely common problem that many men deal with but rarely talk about openly and it looks a bit like this:

𝙊𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙚, 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙨 ‘𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙡’ – 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙙𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨, 𝙜𝙤 𝙩𝙤 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠, 𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙨 ‘𝙤𝙛𝙛’ 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 – 𝙞𝙣𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙢𝙗𝙤𝙙𝙞𝙚𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙢𝙖𝙨𝙘𝙪𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮 – 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙤𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙖 𝙗𝙤𝙮 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙖 𝙢𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝙗𝙤𝙙𝙮.

This experience can create a strange sense of disconnection where a man may hesitate to take ownership of his life, struggle to trust himself, or feel unsure about his direction – he might begin to sense that he’s capable of much more than he is currently expressing but he can’t quite access that ‘part’ of himself and so he starts to wonder if there’s something ‘wrong’ with him.

The truth is that there is absolutely NOTHING WRONG you if you feel this way.

You haven’t ‘lost’ your masculinity nor have you missed out some secret rite of passage that other men somehow received.

𝙄𝙣 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙘𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙨𝙘𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙘𝙝 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙃𝙀’𝙎 𝘼𝙇𝙍𝙀𝘼𝘿𝙔 𝙃𝙀𝙍𝙀.

The only reason that you don’t feel connected to him is because he’s currently hidden behind a series of distortions that developed earlier in your life:

When those distortions begin to dissolve, what is real naturally returns to the surface because the essence of realness is that anything that is truly real can’t be destroyed or lost – it can only be obscured.

𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙤𝙗𝙨𝙘𝙪𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙫𝙞𝙚𝙬 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙖𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇 𝙇𝙄𝙁𝙀.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

THE MAN is Already Here (You Just Need to Stop Hiding From Yourself) - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness Many men feel disconnected from THE MAN that's already inside them and waiting to emerge.

𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗣𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀: 𝗔 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗪𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲

𝙏𝙝𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙋𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙖𝙧𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙇𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙏𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: 𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙, 𝘽𝙤𝙙𝙮, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙑𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣

Every so often in life a moment arrives where it suddenly ‘clicks’ that something has to change:

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠 ‘𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙚’ 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙚; 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙗𝙖𝙘𝙠 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚; 𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙖 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙥𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙘𝙖𝙣’𝙩 𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙩𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙮𝙚𝙩.

When this feeling appears, many people assume something is ‘wrong’ with them but – in reality – it usually means the opposite:

𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙩 𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙫𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙘𝙘𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙣 𝙪𝙣𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙫𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙢𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙛𝙖𝙧 𝙞𝙩 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚.

In other words, the mask you forgot you were wearing has stopped working and it’s time to take it off and replace it with something more REAL because the strategies that once helped you survive are now beginning to limit you, the beliefs that once protected you are beginning to trap you, and the life that you could once tolerate is beginning to feel unreal.

When this happens, you’re being invited into something deeper:

𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇𝙉𝙀𝙎𝙎.

In order to reconnect to this realness, then you have to let go of the unreal self-image you’ve been living through so that you can undo the consequences of old conditioning and programming.

This article will show you Three Pillars of Realness that you can start working on immediately in order to do this and that will help you see results surprisingly quickly (if you stick to them)

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

Three Pillars of Realness: A Practical Way to Start Changing Your Life - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness The Three Pillars for Realness will help you to improve your life holistically by working at the levels of the mind, the body, and your vision.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙄𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 & 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙖𝙣: 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙈𝙚𝙣 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙇𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙁𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙇𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡

𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙈𝙚𝙣 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙄𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙄𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 & 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇

A surprising number of men walk around in adult bodies whilst still feeling like children on the inside – maybe you’re one of them?

It looks a little like this:

𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥𝙨, 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙖𝙮𝙗𝙚 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙛𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙖 𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 ‘𝙤𝙛𝙛’ – 𝙖 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙞𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙩𝙚 𝙛𝙡𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙩 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙥𝙚𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙨𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣, 𝙤𝙧 𝙚𝙢𝙥𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙜𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙮.

A lot of the time, what’s going on here is that the man is dealing with a “wounded inner child”:

This phrase might sounds a bit fluffy but the reality behind it is extremely valid because when we talk about the inner child, we’re not literally talking about a child living inside you (of course) but a metaphor for unresolved emotional experiences and ‘stuff’ from the past – in other words, all of the things that happened when you were young that never got processed, integrated, or accepted.

𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙪𝙣𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙙, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧 – 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙚𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 – 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙙𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨𝙡𝙮 – 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙧𝙪𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨𝙡𝙮.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

The Wounded Inner Child & The Man: How Men Can Stop Living From the Past and Start Living for Real - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness How the wounded inner child holds you back as a man and how to integrate and grow real.

𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗕𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀: 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 & 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗗𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗦𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂

𝘼𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚-𝘽𝙖𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙍𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇 & 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙁𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙

One of the most common problems people face on a transformational journey is that even when they want to change, old thoughts and emotions keep showing up and holding them back:

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙤𝙡𝙙 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙨; 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙤𝙡𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨; 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙤𝙡𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨.

Maybe we want something more REAL like more freedom, more clarity, or more connection but the habitual ways we’ve learned to identify with our thoughts and feelings continues to weigh us down and keep us locked into the same old inner loops that have always shaped our experience of life.

This happens because what once helped us to survive can become how we define ourselves and our self-image:

𝙊𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚, 𝙛𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙖𝙧 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙣𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙨 𝙬𝙚 𝙃𝘼𝙑𝙀 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙬𝙚 𝘼𝙍𝙀.

Real transformation requires letting go and learning to RELEASE all of this ‘stuff’ so that we can finally ACCEPT reality and find ourselves building on a solid foundation:

This article explores some simple but powerful techniques for releasing difficult thoughts and emotions so that you can move forward in a way that supports growth, clarity, and realness.

The central idea is straightforward:

𝘼𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙠𝙚𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

Acceptance-Based Release Practices: How to Accept Reality & Release What Doesn't Serve You - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness Two powerful acceptance-based release practices so you can let go of unreal thoughts and emotions and align with your realness.

𝗦𝘆𝗺𝗯𝗼𝗹𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀: 𝗨𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝘆𝗺𝗯𝗼𝗹𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗠𝗲𝘁𝗮𝗽𝗵𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗕𝗲𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗱 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗪𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀

𝙍𝙚𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙊𝙪𝙩𝙙𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙄𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝘼 𝙎𝙮𝙢𝙗𝙤𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙁𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙅𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙒𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨

There often comes a moment in life when something inside us starts to ni**le away and insist that things quite simply can’t go on as they’ve been going on:

𝙒𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨, ‘𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙘𝙠’, 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙡𝙤𝙬, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙪𝙩-𝙤𝙛-𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖 𝙫𝙖𝙜𝙪𝙚 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚’𝙧𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙬𝙝𝙤𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙞𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙇𝙉𝙀𝙎𝙎.

When you find yourself on the verge of a transformational journey like this – knowing that you want and need to change your life in some way – then it’s almost always because you’ve reached the end of the line of an outdated version of yourself:

This “outdated” version is simply the ego which we can define as the collection of survival mechanisms, emotional defences, and behavioural patterns that once helped you cope with shame, guilt, and/or trauma.

These patterns were never ‘wrong’ (in a moral sense or in a way that reflected your ‘worth’) – in fact, they served the important purpose of helping you to survive whatever it was that you went through…

Unfortunately, survival software like this eventually becomes outdated because reality changes, circumstances shift, and what once protected can start to limit you and hold you back from yourself and life.

What this all boils down to is the fact that what once kept you safe may now prevent you from living fully and when this happens, you begin to feel the symptoms of the Void (a disconnection from the truth) in the form of restlessness, doubt, fear, lack of results, scarcity thinking, resistance, disconnection, and a sense of not flowing with life.

These symptoms are not signs of failure but invitations to evolve and evolution requires a new image of the self.

One of the most powerful ways to begin this process – one that I’ve used with coaching clients and seen them get amazing results with – is to find a symbol that represents the energy, drive, and presence you want to embody as you step into your realness.

This article will show you how to do this.

Let’s dig a little deeper (full article):

Symbols of Realness: Using Symbols and Metaphors to Grow Beyond Conditioning and Into Wholeness - Oli Anderson | Coaching for Realness How you can use the power of symbols to grow real and transform your life.