The Real Relationship Guy

The truth is...

You don’t want to improve your life and relationships

You kinda want it

but you don’t want to sacrifice what it takes to get the results you want.

The moment it’s get real, you run away.

You’re shopping around, seeing which next course offers a discount or which coaches are offering the lowest prices

You have tried everything, from therapy to gong baths, to crystal healing.

The void inside is still there

The reason why it’s still there is because you don’t value your transformation to the extent you value
- Valentino 👠
- LV 💼
- lunch at Michelin restaurants
- Trips to Monaco
- Botox
- getting an MBA
-...

You have everything you want around you but, you lack fulfilment.

At times you feel guilty,

“I should be happy, I have everything I can wish for.”

But you’re not.

The one thing you want that money can’t buy is profound self love and acceptance.

It’s EXACTLY the one thing worth investing in

It is the key to your fulfilment with your kids, and husband.

It is the key to your entrepreneurial drive and spark.

It is the key to experiencing joy and gratitude every time you wake up.

You try hard to be liked by everyone

You hold your views and opinions for yourself in fear of stepping on other people’s toes.

You keep the truth of what you value, flexible, bending it to every situation and person you meet.

Your friends and significant other only like you when you (..fill the blank..)

The truth is, why would anyone really be your friend, if you can’t even friend yourself.

You have trained yourself to not trust your own opinions and values.

You have trained yourself to keep what you believe in, secondary to what others believe.

You have trained yourself to follow the crowd.

You have lied to yourself and all the fake friends you’ve made can’t take away the sadness in your heart.

This used to be me...

Maybe it could be you, reading this post right now.

There is a way out.

It’s simple.

Value YOURSELF

Don’t jeopardise what you value and believe in for anyone.

Speak up for your truth.

Value what matters to you.

Protect it.

Honour it

Live it

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The most precious gift you can give, is your undivided presence, and attention.

Listen more than you speak

See the world through someone else’s eyes

Create a platform for the other to share his/her fullest potential

Genius hides in the most simple moments

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Stop looking OUTWARDS and start looking INWARDS

Drop a 🔥 if this resonates

For all her life, she used her DEPRESSION to feel loved…

Here she was, now a single mother of 3, in a country where she didn't speak the language.

In her determination, to move forward and show her strength, she showed little vulnerability.

She even cut her hair, short- she called it “coupe garcon”- to mark this transition in her life.

My mother rarely showed much affection. We never kissed or hugged or said “I love you”. Later on in my adolescence, I realized how she showed it through her actions.

The only way she allowed herself to be vulnerable was through her daily states of sadness, depression, and headaches. Every day she would wrap a bandana around her head, to alleviate the pounding headache, she suffered from daily.

I felt bad for her, as she lied down on the couch. However, it was that through her suffering, that a small window of vulnerability opened where we connected.

It is only now, as I share this story with you, that I realize how she didn’t allow herself to be vulnerable. She transformed herself, into a cold, single mother, who didn’t need a man. She tried so hard to be strong, that she “OVERCORRECTED”.

The only opportunities she allowed herself, to FEEL, was through her sickness and feelings of depression. It was in these moments, where she softened towards us, and we softened towards her.

As I reflect upon these moments, I understand that some people struggle to get out of feelings of depression. If you, like my mother, have used this state as a way, to feel love and connection towards yourself.

As a way to get the attention of others, as a way to feel like you matter, as an opportunity to feel like you can relax into being vulnerable. Then I can understand how hard it is for you, to get out of this cycle.

If your STATE of sadness is meeting all your needs, of love, attention, comfort, importance, WHY CHANGE?

More Below👇🏽🤎

▪️DO YOU PUT OTHERS NEEDS AT THE COST OF YOUR OWN?�
▪️DO ALWAYS GIVE YOURSELF TO OTHERS BUT STRUGGLE TO ASK FOR HELP?
�▪️DO YOU OFTEN SAY ‘YES’ WHEN YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO SAY ‘NO’?
�▪️ARE YOU STUCK IN UNHEALTHY PATTERNS? �
▪️DO YOU BEAT YOURSELF UP DAILY FOR NOT BEING WHERE YOU REALLY WANT TO BE?

I struggled with all of the above👆🏽

About 5 years ago, One evening, I came back home from a long day at work, and I felt so drained.

I felt like I gave everything I had, but it wasn’t appreciated.

I poured my heart and soul into every hour, trying to do the best job I could.

That I forgot to pour some of that heart and soul in my own cup.

I was drained and lost my drive and motivation, and the people noticed.

« Saed, you changed? Why don’t you smile anymore? »

I realised that the identity I built and wanted to world to see, had come back to bite me in my ass.

I strived so hard to be the happy positive guy, that worked hard and never had a bad day, that the moment I had a low, I felt like people perceived me differently.

My lack of honouring my self, guarding my energy and connecting my self worth to the perception of others, brought me down to my knees�
I tried so hard to be appreciated and loved, that I did it at the cost of the love and appreciation for myself.

This moment proved to be a blessing in disguise. From that moment onwards, I decided that ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH.

Every breaking point in your life can become an opportunity to GO DOWN a negative spiral, or OUTGROW and ELEVATE your life.

If my story resonated with you, I send you strength and courage to finally step up for YOURSELF🔥

If you’re ready to make CHANGE happen, DM me the word “READY” 🔥

In love

Saed

A Letter to my fellow men and women with SELF WORTH ISSUES👇🏽

I remember a time
where I tried so hard to move ahead in life, but whatever money I made,
whatever recognition I got,
whatever creation I was part of,
I still felt empty inside.

I felt this constant need to prove myself
To my peers
To my friends
To my significant other
To show that I was WORTHY.

What I realised
after deep introspection
is that I started of with the wrong equation
One that was so familiar.
That in other for me to feel like I mattered
In order for me to feel like I was worthy
I had to DO STUFF

The moment I realised and embraced that I was a HUMAN BEING,
not a HUMAN DOING
The moment I realised that I was worthy
By the very nature of my being
The moment I embodied
Believed in myself that I MATTER.
Everything changed🤎

I now float through life
Not carrying the heavy burden
Of having to perform, do, work hard,
To matter.
Because I believe that I matter first,
That I am worthy first
And the rest comes secondary

I wish for you reading this that same feeling
a feeling of lightness of being
a feeling of finally being who you are
Without the fear to do or change yourself
Just so you can be liked or loved.
And when that SHIFT happens.
You will be the most productive and fulfilled
Human
Out there 🤎

In Love
Saed

▪️DO YOU PUT OTHERS NEEDS AT THE COST OF YOUR OWN?

▪️DO ALWAYS GIVE YOURSELF FOR OTHERS BUT STRUGGLE TO ASK FOR HELP?

▪️DO YOU OFTEN SAY ‘YES’ WHEN YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO SAY ‘NO’?
▪️ARE YOU STUCK IN UNHEALTHY PATTERNS? 

▪️DO YOU BEAT YOURSELF UP DAILY FOR NOT BEING WHERE YOU REALLY WANT TO BE? 

If at least one of the above resonated and you’re ready to make CHANGE happen, DM me the word “READY” 🔥

CHANGE is INEVITABLE
GROWTH is OPTIONAL

You DECIDE

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