On The Hotline Relationship Coach

It’s the “text me when you get home” for me. It’s prob the “you hungry?” for most of you 😂 Which one is it for you? 👇🏽
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Same ol same ol 🙄 except for the sunnies- those are new 🫦
Scroll for the funnies that y’all be sending me 👉🏽

“Can u pls take a pic of me so I can post it with all my memes? Thank uuuu 🙏🏽”

Having a difficult conversation is better than not. There’s no “perfect” way to communicate something that might hurt the other person.
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I think about this a lot in breakups. No matter how empathetic, gentle, and kind you can be while breaking up with someone, you cannot control how they are going to react. They might get mad, start crying, get defensive, or try to change your mind, etc… and no matter how they react, it’s not an indication of how well the conversation went.
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When it comes to difficult conversations, do your part and communicate with your best. The rest is up to them- emotions, reactions, and all.

I learned this one the hard way. Being selfish is totally ok when you’re in an emotionally unavailable time in your life. There are times when focusing on you IS the best thing you can do for yourself, but when you’re ready to make that transition from single life to relationship life, you can’t keep all your single ways. Thinking about another person takes compromise and not doing the things YOU THINK might hurt your partner, even if they don’t say something right away.

If you want a relationship, you have to be ok to accept the person as they are NOW not who you HOPE they will be in a couple years. If what they say is that they don’t want a relationship right now, believe them. They know what’s best for them, and you have to be willing to walk away to do what’s best for you.
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Resist the urge to keep asking yourself “why” they don’t show up for you in the way you wish they would. Come to terms with the reality of who they are.
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Just like you wouldn’t want someone else waiting around to try and change you, you’re wasting your time trying to wait and change them for you.
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If answers are what you want, find the answer to why you stay in an unavailable relationship, instead of walk away.

Breakups always suck, but they can suck a little less when you do your best to take care of yourself. The most important one- cease all communication and stalking of your ex.

It’s easier said than done to leave a bad relationship. No matter how many friends tell them to leave them, they’re gonna have trouble doing it.
•If you have a friend in a toxic relationship, understand why they are struggling to leave and do your best to support them during the relationship. If you do, they’ll know they can trust you to support them when they do choose to leave the relationship.

I’ve rarely ever seen a situationship turn into a full blown committed relationship.
Actually, I’ve never seen it.
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Tell me if you’ve had a situationship turn into a relationship, and if not you’re best getting out of it so you can be with someone who will give you the same kind of respect you’d give them.

On some desert fun and going back for more this weekend 🌵☀️🏜

🍋Birthday brunch 4 _ & 🥂