From Lonely to Loved Up

Just because it hasn’t happened before for you, doesn’t mean it won’t in the future!

Love can happen at any stage in your life!

Just because you haven’t had a healthy relationship in the past, doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t in the future.

Dating is a skill which can be mastered like another other. Let’s reframe these negative thoughts!

You’re friends are essential for you. We’re all social beings and evolved in communities. Why is it in this digital age that it can feel lonelier than ever? When it’s never been so easy to connect.

Let’s chat about this together, join me live for a cuppa on Thursday next, 12th, 11am GMT+1

What you see v what you don’t see

You don’t always see behind the happy smiles or cute children the pain of loss or the hardship of motherhood.

Or the anxiety and despair of fertility issues. Why is it just sooo easy for some people? It does t seem fair.

Whatever your stage in life, comparing will lead to despairing (I tell myself too). So take the time to be grateful and joyous of even the little things. Whether you’ve suffered a loss of break ups, relationships or miscarriages, there’s always hope and there’s always tomorrow. Just keep going x

Dr. John Van App created the Relationship Attachment Model. According to the doc, he says there are 5 Pillars of the Relationship model. You must move through each Pillar BEFORE you arrive to the Touch (physical) one.

Most relationships ships today move from Pillar 1.Knowledge to Pillar5. Touch without passing throu Trust and Commitment.

You simply must slow him down Ladies. It’s up to you. If he’s a gentleman he’ll allow the physical side to develop at your pace.

Knowledge + Touch = Friends with Benefits.

Save this for later when you need to refer to the Model.


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Have you completed your checklist on your quest to meet your Significant Other?

You need to show your vulnerability (sometimes!), dare slow and frequently, update your Vision board and have all the correct mindsets. Are you doing it?

LMK in the comments below 👇🏻

Don’t keep honouring them, supporting them, listening to them, organising dates or giving them a loan of your bike.

There’s really no point. What you should do is try to remove yourself from the situation by:
▫️Acknowledging it
▫️Accepting what you can’t change
▫️Not lying to yourself

It takes time but what’s worse? Wasting more time?

Share this with a friend who needs to see it.

Like always attracts like. If you keep attracting unavailable men it’s because part of you resonates with them ie you are probably anxiously attracted attracting an avoidant partner.

These two types of attachment styles are highly attracted to each other.

It’s the reason why you crave the thrill of the chase or you can’t seem to leave a dead end relationship.

You simply must outgrow it rather heal that part of you that’s no longer attracted to them. Our brains are not designed to heal on their own.

Ready to meet Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now? Dm me ‘Love’ for further deets x

All your friends getting married and having babies? I hear ya!

There are 5 main reasons your single or stuck in a sh*tty relationship.

Tackling your fear of abandonment and transforming your attachment style is essential to creating a secure connection with someone.

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