Consiglia Sorge - Life Coaching & Training

I’m really happy to share that Derek Corr and I are hosting a half‑day immersive workshop, followed by a six‑week online course, designed to help you reconnect with your most authentic self.

We’re weaving together Buddhist contemplative practice, coaching, and positive psychology to explore the inner strengths, qualities, and resources that help you meet each day with more clarity, grounding, and ease.

Derek brings nearly three decades of Buddhist practice and is a familiar presence at Dzogchen Beara, where he regularly teaches meditation retreats. His work creates a gentle, grounded space for people to feel heard and reconnect with themselves.

I’ll be co‑leading as a leadership and identity coach (EMCC accredited), drawing on mental fitness, positive psychology, and inner‑work approaches to support reflection, clarity, and personal growth.

We’ll gather seated on yoga mats — you’re welcome to bring your own or use one provided.

Because this is our first time offering this workshop together, we’re opening it at a special introductory rate — a way of making the space accessible and inviting as we begin this new collaboration.

If you’re feeling the pull toward something quieter, deeper, and more authentic, we’d love to have you with us.

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My coworker knows how important it is to take resting breaks

"when your amnesia over your identity begins to be cured you will realize finally that it was the root cause of all of your suffering. You will understand at last how much harm it has done both to yourself and to others. This will bring healing to your heart, healing to your mind, and healing to your spirit".

When we are not true to ourselves, when we don't even know what is our real identity, our real essence, something will always feel wrong.

Getting to know who we really are is the very essential step toward happiness

If you were left alone in a room for 15 minutes — no phone, no music, no distractions — would you sit quietly… or would you shock yourself?

Blaise Pascal once wrote that “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”

Centuries later, a 2014 study led by psychologist Timothy Wilson put this idea to the test.

Participants were placed in a bare room for 6–15 minutes with nothing to do but think. Beforehand, they were given a device that could deliver a mild electric shock — a shock they had rated as unpleasant enough that they would pay money to avoid it.

And yet:

67% of men and 25% of women chose to shock themselves at least once.

One man shocked himself 190 times in 15 minutes.

Not because they enjoyed pain.

But because being alone with their own thoughts felt harder.

Wilson suggested that without training in meditation or mental fitness, the mind struggles to generate positive or even neutral thoughts without external stimulation. Boredom becomes so uncomfortable that pain feels preferable to stillness.

And this shows up everywhere in modern life.

We fill every gap — every pause, every moment of quiet — with noise, tasks, scrolling, productivity.

We become so unaccustomed to being unoccupied that our nervous system interprets stillness as a threat.

But here’s the part that matters for your wellbeing, your leadership, and your identity:

Intentional quiet time is not a luxury. It’s a mental fitness practice.

When you allow yourself even a few minutes without distraction:

The amygdala (your threat‑response centre) calms.

The prefrontal cortex (your clarity, creativity, and decision‑making) switches back on.

You access the Sage — the wiser, grounded part of your mind that sees possibilities instead of problems.

This is where insight emerges.

This is where self‑trust grows.

This is where your real identity — not the reactive one — becomes available again.

So let me ask you:

How comfortable are you in your own company?

And what might become possible if you were willing to build that muscle?

There are days that feel heavier even if the sun is out.
We all go through so much in our life, it is important to not always just push through too much.
Recognise what is really important and urgent and reduce to that your day. Make sure you take the time to let your nervous system relax and it will pay you back by making everything more efficient once it's recovered.
The more you deprive yourself from the recovery time, the more you will pay in the future.

Wish you all a gentle start of the day.

The Quiet Gap That Leads to Burnout

When we drift too far from our values…
When we accept definitions of success or happiness that were handed to us by society or even well‑intentioned people…
We create a quiet but powerful misalignment between who we truly are and how we live every day.
If that gap grows too wide, it doesn’t stay silent.
Psychology shows that prolonged misalignment affects our reward system.
Motivation drops.
Frustration rises.
Burnout or even depression can follow.
If you notice too many days without a single moment of joy, it’s time to check in with yourself.
Not with judgement.
Not with criticism.
But with empathy and curiosity.
What brings lightness to your day?
What gives you a sense of purpose?
What needs to shift — gently, honestly — so your life reflects more of who you really are?
Realignment doesn’t happen in one leap.
It happens in small, truthful choices that bring you back to yourself.

My Monday evenings are dedicated to mental fitness.
Eight weeks to uncover the patterns that quietly sabotage our confidence, relationships, performance, and overall wellbeing.
We all develop coping mechanisms to stay safe — but many of them now hold us back.
If you’re curious to understand your own saboteur patterns and where they come from, I’m opening a limited number of places for this virtual programme for both group or one to one.
The initial assessment is free, but spaces are limited due to time constraints.
If this resonates, reach out and we can explore it together.

Tomorrow is Mother's day. A very special wish for a beautiful mother day to all mothers out there.
Remember that you are special to your kids no matter what. They don't need perfection, they need love.

Have you ever wished for something… only to realise later it was the worst possible thing for you?
I have — and it nearly broke me.
Years ago, after a painful chapter in my life, I wished for a job that would keep me so busy I wouldn’t have to feel the pain I was carrying.
Life gave me exactly that — 80‑hour weeks, constant pressure, and eventually a complete physical collapse. Burnout wasn’t a word people used then, but that’s exactly what it was.
Later, a chronic illness stripped away the identity I had built. I had to grieve the version of myself I could no longer be and slowly rediscover the part of me that remained — my essence, my truth, the constant inside the chaos.
That journey is what led me to identity coaching.
Because so many of us lose ourselves quietly — in roles, expectations, transitions, and the pressure to keep going. And when identity becomes blurred, everything else becomes harder: confidence, clarity, boundaries, relationships, wellbeing.
If you’re entering this year feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or unsure of who you are becoming… you’re not alone.
And you don’t have to navigate it by yourself.
I now support women who want to reconnect with their true self, rebuild grounded confidence, and feel at home in their own skin again.
If something in this story resonates with you, send me a message.
I’d love to explore how identity coaching can support you in this season of your life.