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29/04/2023
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25/04/2023
Marriage is biggest dream of my life what I learnt from my one year of married life is formalities can carry charmness & value in marriage.
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16/01/2023
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03/01/2023
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31/12/2022
My top 5 learnings of 2022👆👆👆
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If you want to deal with these 5 issues please read till the end & drop ❤ if you like the ways of managing these big 5 fighting issues:
1) COMMUNICATION ISSUES: I told about 4 types of communication issues
a)Criticism:(attacking communication) to manage it try to start the conversation softly like you could use"I" sentences focused on your needs instead of attacking
b)Contempt:(self-abuse) to manage it built a culture of appreciation for each other
c)defensiveness:(emotional rigid boundary for self) to manage it understand & allow partner's perspective
d)stonewalling:(withdrawing to avoid conflict) to manage this you need to spend some time to self-soothe.
2)MONEY ISSUES: it's very difficult to discuss money issues in marriage so it's easy to catch up and fight for it:
To manage the money you need to follow the system: first, you need to share clear income on a total basis & then divide how you gonna spend & save your monthly income.& don't forget to make sudden expenditure money bank too..( to know more about money management keep following upcoming videos)
3) DIFFERENT VALUE SYSTEMS: yes it's a big issue for couples, I am not going to say that you leave your value system to flourish your partner's values...
Use this formula to manage your value system for example if you are more into love, care, romance & your partner is more into work, duty, or responsibility zone no zone is a bad zone to anyone but understanding the time ratio is important for me I read this beautiful formula somewhere is that you spend 5/6 time of your day or week or month into your zone & make sure 1/6th time of your day/week/month into your partner's zone!
4)BOREDOM: To rebuild the spark in your marriage consider and make these 3 things are in place and balanced:
a) fun activities: like doing home chores, watching movie, planning day etc out together only two of you...
b)fantasy: it's related to physical bonding like planning different 2 physical bonding like sensuality, wildness, romance into your marriage life.
c)Reflection time: make sure you are spending few minutes of your day with your partner mindfully listening and responding to their...read more in comments👇
COMMUNICATION SKILLS:
skills which are necessary to build connections in marriage these are of 2 types:
Non-Verbal Communication: facial expression, eye contact, soft touches, intimacy, face-to-face conversations, etc all come into nonverbal communication which plays a 70% role in relationship connection.
Verbal Communication: it's starting from positive self-talk to using proper conversation tools ( for example using "I" statements, vulnerability, non-blaming/nondefensive conversation) to giving space to the partner's perspective while responding & practice responding with more appreciation & reassurance (lots more)
INNER CHILD WOUNDS:
These are 4 types of wounds:
1) Abandonment wounds:
feels left out, fears being left, hates being alone, co-dependent, threaten to leave, normally attracts an emotionally unavailable partner
2)Guilt wound:
Feels sorry or bad, doesn't like to ask for things, uses guilt to manipulate, is afraid to set boundaries, and normally attracts people who make them feel guilty.
3)Trust wound:
Is afraid to hurt, doesn't trust themselves, finds ways to not trust people, feels insecure & needs a lot of reassurance, doesn't feel safe, and ally attracts people who don't feel safe.
4) Neglect wound:
Struggles to let go of things have low self-worth, gets angry easily, struggles to say no, represses emotions, fears being vulnerable,and normally attracts people who don't appreciate them.
I shared the complete source of fighting in marriage, please let me know with which you think you & your partner need to work upon!👇👇👇
I also shared FREE guide on "why fear of rejection ruining your marriage life" in my bio ( to get your free guide click on the link in bio )
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19/06/2022
Do you know childhood trauma or adaptation plays a major role in our romantic life?
Insecure attachment comes in two forms, anxious and avoidant. Persons with an anxious attachment style fear their partner will not be there for them when they need them most, so they tend to be clingy and demanding. Because they can be so overbearing, they often drive away from the ones they want to be closest to.
Persons with avoidant attachment styles also believe that their partner won’t be there for them, but that’s not what bothers them. They value their independence and know-how to take care of their own needs. Instead, what they fear most is a partner who tries to get too close to them.
Which type do you feel your partner behaves? Anxious or avoidant?
04/06/2022
List of 10 Emotional Needs In a Relationship
1. Affection
One of the basic emotional needs is affection. Affection comes in different ways, some of them may include:
Physical intimacy
Loving gestures
Affectionate words
Acts of kindness
Showing gratitude
Affection is needed to strengthen the bond.
2. Acceptance
We all need a partner who accepts us as we are. This need for acceptance can create a sense of belonging that we all need to thrive. Acceptance not only means accepting only you, it means accepting every aspect of yourself along with family and friends and vice-versa.
3. Security
There are many ways security can look like in a relationship:
Respecting each other’s boundaries
Feeling safe to share emotions
Feeling physically secure with your partner
Knowing that your partner supports you
4. Autonomy
Spending time with your partner is important to get to know them but so is maintaining your sense of self. If you have a different interest than your partner, follow them. Don’t lose yourself or rather your identity in the name of your relationship.
5. Validation
We all need to be heard and while it’s not possible to avoid conflicts, it’s important to know that your concerns are heard and validated.
6. Trust
Trust doesn’t come automatically. It develops with time, patience, and lots of effort but it can be broken in a heartbeat. Once you lose trust in someone, it’s hard to rebuild it. Meeting this emotional need is important
7. Emotional Connection
Emotional connection is as important as a physical and social connection when it comes to sustainable relationships. Feeling lonely in a relationship is possible even if you’re together all the time – more when one or both partners are emotionally unavailable
8. Social Connection
Humans are social creatures and we have an innate desire to feel a connection to something bigger than ourselves. Social wellness is one of the most overlooked aspects of overall health and wellness.
9.Space Or Privacy
For mental and emotional wellness, all of us need space to regroup from time to time. Enough privacy to be left alone with our thoughts so we can self-reflect and learn.
Empathy
Empathy means understanding
11/05/2022
We hear the phrase "emotionally unavailable" thrown around quite a bit, but what does that even mean, really? Maybe someone has told you that you always end up with emotionally unavailable people, and you're trying to break the habit. Maybe you simply suspect your new partner or fresh Tinder honey might be emotionally unavailable. Here's what you need to know about how to spot an emotionally unavailable person.
21/09/2021
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