Jay Parekh

To paraphrase .b.peterson, a good man is not a harmless man.

As men we must face the fear of our own darkness. Not only must we must face it, but we must embrace it, devour it and gain dominion over it.

Your darkness is a part of you.

Use it to drive you, to crush your competition, to smash your goals, to take what you want.

But don't let it use you.

"A good man is not a harmless man. A good man is a discerning man, capable of great harm."

Let the monster in you seep through, but with a tight leash attached to it's neck. This leash will be only be as strong as the extent of your knowledge and the confidence you have in your value system.

Your values will help you discern light from dark, good from bad, love from fear.

If you don't know your value system, you are fu**ed.

If you don't nourish and love the monster inside of you, you are fu**ed.

If you let the monster take over, you are completely fu**ed.

Your darkness is a part of you. Use it to fight the darkness of the world and let it light your path to virtue.

But under no circumstances should you let it use you!

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Happy New Year!

Challenge yourself!

In everything that you do, especially everything that you're uncomfortable doing.

And I'm not talking about hustle culture. I'm not talking about working hard for the sake of working hard, because I can tell you from experience that hard work alone does not work.

Ask yourself what scares you a little bit. What is that one thing that is slightly outside your comfort zone that's stopping you from growing today?

Once you find out what that is, DO IT!

You'll realise that once you do, you'll feel amazing! Win or lose, you'll be proud to have tried and raring to go again!

And then do it again. Do it over and over again till it doesn't challenge you anymore. Now you've grown into it. Its part of you.

You'll also notice that you won't get the dopamine bump from it anymore. It won't excite you like it once did because it no longer challenges you.

You're happiness is inexplicably bound to your growth and the sense of challenge you overcome in order to achieve that growth.

Make Challenge a core value of WHO YOU ARE as a person!

Don't know how? Want to know "who you are" in the first place?

If you do, COMMENT below with "WHO AM I?" and for a few Lucky people, I might have something special for you!

If you don't take control of your life, someone else will.

Taking decisions is a key quality of a leader. When you make a decision, you trust yourself, you trust the belief others have in you and you trust that you can bring a change.

The day you build a mindset that YOU can bring change, is the day you will realise what you are truly capable of. This is a pattern shift that brings out a totally different side of you.

I use a personality assessment tool to help hundreds of my clients uncover their default patterns and show them what they can do to change their patterns for better ones!

After all, at the very least, whether you are interested in being a leader in social situations or at work or not, each one of us is the leader of our own destinies and so each one of us must become an effective decision maker.

Are you living a life of your own design ?

How often do you compromise on your own needs and desires to do the "right" thing ?

Are you putting other people before yourself when you know deep down that you shouldn't?

Do you feel trapped in your life, not realising when you started chasing somebody else's definition of success ?

I've been there, and I've realised that even though you could have the dream career and be very wealthy on paper, have the picture perfect life on the outside, unless you feel fulfilled on the inside, you're always going to feel like something is missing in your life.

You have to let go of what isn't giving you happiness in order to discover your true needs. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to make drastic changes to your external life (although it could) but what it really means is that you have to discover who you truly are, on the inside.

What do you want? If all your needs were met, what would you do? How do you want to be remembered?

What is stopping you from having what you want?

What could you do differently to become successful in all areas of your life and to feel truly fulfilled?

What would make you feel fulfilled? infact, WHO ARE YOU in the first place?

I'm doing a 4 Day Challenge starting tomorrow (27th Sept) to help you discover the answer to this question.

Spots are already near full, but if you'd like to join, send me DM or just COMMENT BELOW!

The person who says they can do something and the person who says they can't something are usually both right. This is a quote from Tony Robbins!

This quote helped me understand the power of directing my focus. Not focusing on any particular task or person, but directing it only towards things that serve at building my character as a person.

I learnt:

Its not about becoming rich, its about becoming a person who is capable of becoming rich.

Its not about finding the right partner, its about becoming the person who is capable of attracting and keeping a high quality partner.

Its not about discipline or motivation, its about becoming the kind of person that doesn't need to cojole himself to do the right thing.

And it all starts in the mind, with one thought which starts off subtly, usually with only a faint whisper at the beginning. Do you hear it ? Listen...