HealthUp with Lindsay

A lot of people struggle with boundaries

But what’s often missed
is what happens before the boundary

The moment you notice something feels off
and choose not to say it

At work
you stay agreeable

In relationships
you keep the peace

As a parent
you stay patient

Not because you don’t have a boundary
But because you don’t express it yet

So it builds

And when it finally comes out
it carries more force than you intended

That’s when it gets labeled as
defensive
or overreacting

The work isn’t just setting boundaries

It’s catching the earlier moment
when something small could have been said

That’s what changes how it lands

You don’t go from “nice” to harsh by accident

You go there because your system doesn’t trust the boundary yet

So it adds force

Not because you’re aggressive
But because you don’t want to slip back

This shows up everywhere

At work:
You go from always available
to short, abrupt, harder to approach

In relationships:
You stop over-giving
but your tone becomes guarded or sharp

As a parent:
You try to hold limits
but it comes out as tension instead of clarity

The work isn’t just setting boundaries
It’s removing the charge behind them

The core shift

You can:
• set boundaries without pushing people away
• say no without over-explaining
• stay clear without hardening

You don’t need stronger boundaries

You need to feel safe holding them

Your mind isn’t busy by accident.

You have a mind that doesn’t trust things will be okay unless it stays involved.

So it keeps going.
Thinking ahead.
Preparing.
Staying on top of what could go wrong.

Not because something is wrong
but because that’s what it learned works.

That’s also why switching off doesn’t come naturally
even when everything is fine.

The goal isn’t to think less.

It’s to no longer feel like you have to stay involved in everything.

If this resonates, you can book a discovery session through the link in my bio

Most people who hold back don’t realize they’re doing it
because it feels like they’re just being good with people

Not difficult
Not reactive
Not dramatic

Just… controlled

You notice how everything is landing while it’s happening
You adjust mid-sentence
You soften before you finish the thought
You anticipate reactions before they come

Not because you’re fake

Because you’re used to making things go well

And that gets rewarded

But over time, something shifts

You’re not just communicating
You’re managing how you’re perceived

That’s where the pressure comes from

Not from others
From constantly editing yourself in real time

The shift isn’t to say more
or stop being thoughtful

It’s to notice

Am I expressing
or adjusting?

You can read the room without disappearing in it
You can be thoughtful without over-editing yourself
You can stay calm without suppressing what’s true

You don’t need to speak more
You need to feel safe saying what’s real even if it doesn’t land perfectly

11,000 miles from Mauritius… and here I was, on the big screen in Portland, Oregon.

Leading my Rewiring Workshop for a group of powerhouse women in commercial real estate.

These were successful, accomplished leaders, but what struck me most was this:
Even at the highest levels, many were still running on autopilot.

When we paused to do the rewiring work, I watched them soften. Release. Realize.
And then step into new clarity.

That’s the beauty of this work; it transcends geography, industry, or titles. Whether it’s corporate leaders in Mauritius, executives in Europe, or women in real estate in the US… the patterns are the same. And so is the transformation.

If you’re ready to explore what rewiring can do for your energy, peace, and leadership, I’d love to connect with you.

💬 DM me “Discovery” and I’ll share how to book a free discovery consultation.

Early bird ends today!

That was me with my Grandpa n sis.

My Grandpa had an accent like Al Pacino, a sharp mind, and a presence that filled the room.

He delivered milk at 10 years old at 3 AM daily on a horse and buggy.

Navy during WWII.

A taxi driver, boxer, shoe salesman, operations analyst, and a lawyer.

He was never afraid to shift paths.
He leaned into opportunity, chased challenge, and adapted when life asked him to grow.

But one thing never changed, his love for my Grandma.

They were together 72 years.
A month before he passed, he told me how beautiful she still was.

I grew up playing cards with him. He taught me the rules… and how to stay present.

He didn’t rush. He showed up fully.

He lived 96 years. Not just long, but rich.

Legacy isn’t just what someone leaves behind. It’s how you feel when you think of them

When I think of him, I feel safe, steady, and inspired.

So I’ll ask you, like I ask myself:

Are you becoming the version of yourself you’re proud to leave behind?

If you want to truly awaken, get out of overthinking, overcompensating, and not living each day running and rushing, book a discovery session with me to see if I’m your coach

5 minutes of deep breathing a day has been demonstrated to reduce stress in studies. The labs also reported that just 1-3 sighs brings stress down significantly!! 1-3 only!

The Physiological Sigh was discovered in the 1930’s, restudied in several labs, and popularized by Dr. Andrew Huberman.

How to do the Physiological Sigh (aka cyclic sighing): double inhale followed by extended exhale.

Think of someone sobbing; it’s the body’s way to get back into the parasympathetic state. The last top-up inhale, followed by a long exhale allows the maximum release of carbon dioxide.

For those that want the science, see below:

A randomized, controlled study at Stanford (NCT05304000) compared 3 different daily 5-min breathing to 5 mins of mindfulness meditation, over 1 month.

The breathing conditions were
1. Cyclic sighing, which emphasizes prolonged exhalations (aka the physiological sigh)
2. Box breathing, which is equal duration of inhale, hold, exhale, and hold.
3. Cyclic hyperventilation with retention, with longer inhalations and shorter exhalations (think Wim Hof).

Mood and anxiety improved as well as reduced physiological arousal (respiratory rate, heart rate, and heart rate variability).

Summary: Breathing exercises, especially the physiological sigh, produces greater improvement in mood (p < 0.05) and reduction in respiratory rate (p < 0.05) compared with mindfulness meditation. Daily 5-min cyclic sighing has promise as an effective stress management exercise.

However, even if you can’t do it for 5 minutes, the labs show every bit counts!

It’s not just about tips and tricks, but if you want to reduce stress & get healthier on a deeper level, DM me for a discovery session to see if I’m the right coach for you.

Huberman’s face is on this post because he popularized this. ❤️ however, I explain this in my reel. Just click on my Instagram profile.

You have a relentless pursuit of achieving. You likely received attention by performing & achieving in a certain way. It has been your oxygen to breathe. Your self worth depends on it.

It often happens at the expense of your health, balance, peace of mind and bliss. Deep down, something is missing.

You’re looking for something out there to fulfill you. What is needed to see all of the exciting things inside. It’s hard to see that when you’ve always chased solutions

Deep inner transformative work can alleviate this so you can feel more meaning and vibrant health in your life. And it doesn’t have to be a painful process either.

If you’re ready to create major breakthroughs in your life, while still succeeding in real life, and without needing to live like a monk on a mountain, book a free discovery call as I have a program that may support you through an efficient yet transformative journey