Stop Over-drinking with Angela

Have you ever said "I just want to be take it or leave it about alcohol"?

I hear this all the time. And every time I do, something in me cringes.

In this episode I'm going to tell you exactly why this phrase bothers me — and why making it your goal might actually be keeping you stuck.

"Take it or leave it" sounds like freedom. But when I hear it, what I picture is someone standing in the moment — at a party, at the end of a hard day, deciding, on the spot, whether they want a drink or not.

And for women who over-drink, in-the-moment deciding is exactly where everything falls apart. This is not a good strategy.

The other thing that bothers me about it? It lets you skip the real work. If the goal is just to feel casual about alcohol, you never have to ask the harder question — why are you drinking in the first place?

In this episode you'll learn:
• Why "take it or leave it" is naive for women who over-drink
• How in-the-moment deciding around alcohol keeps you stuck
• Why alcohol always has a charge when it's still doing a job for you
• What's really underneath most women's drinking: suppressed emotions, exhaustion, old pain, resentment
• What the actual path to ease looks like, and how you get there.

The feeling you're reaching for is real. Women get there. But you don't aim at it directly. You earn it by understanding yourself first.

I was watching a show called Legends the other night and one of the characters said something that stopped me cold.

"Hindsight is helpful but it shows up too late."

I had to pause it. Because that is one of the most accurate things I've ever heard.

You already know what's coming. You've known for years. You can tell yourself the whole story the next morning, exactly what led up to it, where the warning signs were, the moment you knew.

The problem is that clarity always shows up after.

In this episode I'm breaking down why hindsight keeps failing you and how to take what you already know about your patterns and turn it into foresight you can use before the moment, not after.

Because you are not starting from zero. You have years of data. You know your triggers. You know your high-risk times. You know how Thursday nights feel. This episode is about putting that knowledge to work earlier.

This episode is for you if:

You keep breaking promises to yourself around alcohol and can't figure out why
You know your patterns but still can't stop them in the moment
You've been trying to drink less for years and feel like you're missing something
You want something practical you can use this week.

Purple trees, massages, printmaking, forest yoga in the trees in Sintra, a 6 mile hike, Franciscan monks and a 500 year old convent, yummy food and more.. Activate Your Senses Retreat in Lisbon, Portugal has been a transformative experience for all! And we aren't done yet! The Magic House Retreat Center is indeed magical!

Omg- it’s arrival day for my retreaters and LOOOOOOK AT MY SHIRT. Could it be any cuter??? This wasn’t planned… it just magically happened of course LOL. I love these little magical moments so much I could just explode. Get your b***y to The Magic HOUSE so you can have them tooooo!!!

Just a lovely pre-retreat exploration and run-through of potential activities today! We decided to jump on a boat and do a little river tour and it did not disappoint!!

So beautiful here, the sun is out, the birds are singing and everyone is happy 😊

My retreaters are in for a delightful time!!!

Lisbon has turned out for my May Magic House Retreat guests..fresh coffee, sheets and flowers, LETS GO!

You know what’s dangerous? An Alive AF! Woman. Yup, a well rested, clear minded, sober, creative, independent, woman who sees it all. Today it just hit me… this is what they are scared of. Because when we feel this way… we are unstoppable and powerful, and we change the world. We challenge the systems, we say no to the bu****it and YES to what matters.

Let’s F’ng GO!!!

P.S. I traveled from the US to Lisbon yesterday, got a massage last night, slept 10-7, and am ON FIRE 🔥 today. Magic is happening!

This week, Dina Perrine joins me to share what happened when she attended the first-ever Magic House Retreat in Lisbon, Portugal.

Her experience was profound — and honestly, I think you'll want to hear every word of it.

Dina came home with something she didn't expect: a completely new relationship with pleasure. She learned that pleasure is nourishing, that numbing is not the same thing, and that activating her senses is the pathway to feeling genuinely good in her body. She also healed her plantar fasciitis. (Yes, really.)

What she says about pleasure versus numbing will shift how you think about why you reach for alcohol — and what you actually need instead.

If you've been curious about the Magic House, this episode is your inside look.

Look at this Carolina Blue sky.

The sun is warm, the sky is blue, feeling alive, what about you? 🤗💫☀️

Happy Friday!

P.S. I used to want to sit outside and drink when it was a day like today. Now, I don’t even think about. I just relish the warm sun and breeze on my skin and appreciate it exactly for what it is. I know that sitting outside and drinking rose doesn’t make it better because it’s amazing all in its own!
You can celebrate the weekend without over-drinking! Ask me how I know! 🥰

6:17 pm on a Wednesday night…. Nothing going on… in between work and whatever I’ll settle into… a little bored a little blah… a little ehhh. The hardest part of the day for so many.

Allow. Notice. Breathe. Nothing is wrong. You got this.

Stop, notice and process b*tches!!!