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We all want perfection. We want ourselves to be perfect. We want the people in our life to be perfect. We may learn to accept the “imperfections” but the striving is innate to us as humans, and maybe that’s okay. Maybe that’s what keeps us pushing harder. Maybe that’s what helps us become better if not perfect. Because ultimately being perfect always is probably unlikely, but wanting to be & working to be can make us the best version of ourselves. Just remember to continue striving but not become resentful or hopeless when one falls short because true perfection is a myth, but trying to be that makes you among the best already.

It’s common that we look at some couples often on social media or maybe a glance in the mall, or the half baked stories of some relative and wonder wow these people sound like . We think that they have it all together because of the fleeting moments we see, but everyone masks their pain. Everyone masks their struggles. Everyone masks their compromises, to look “picture perfect” but trust me, nobody is. Which doesn’t mean you can’t grow in your relationship or it’s wrong to aim to be treated better, but ensure the goals and aspirations you have are actually YOURS. Because you never know, your real life may just be a lot better than their reel life.

Power of gratitude.

How will you write your story?

How easy it is to choose to gaze into your phones instead into that partners eyes who you cried for. How easy is it to forget that you swore that if you ever got a chance to lay next to eachother you would hold eachother so tight and nevee let go. How easy it is to forget the struggle of waiting for the goodbyes to turn into goodnights, when the goodnights have turned into a fight of who would turn off the lights. How easy is it to want to get away from the one who you thought you could never get enough of. How easy is it to forget to difficult it was when you didnt have it. Take that minute or two, just before you fall asleep and right after you wake up to run your hands through your partners hair, to put your phones aide, turn off netflix and just for two minutes, its only both of you in the world, and you worked really hard to get these two minutes, cherish them while you have them.

Little girls need to stop reading tales of prince charmings. We need to stop corrupting impressionable minds with the idea of some Knight in shining armour, about the definition of happily ever after. The over idealistic, eutopian and core aspiration "to be married" as a route to etenral bliss, pretty much rendering their life until then worthless and after? Well none of the stories talk about the after. So teach your girls to dream big, tell them that they can change they world, that their kindness and their huge heart can fill the world with joy, tell them there are millions of things they can do or be. But most of all remind them to enjoy what they have. To cherish their friendships. To love their parents. To see the world. Please end this narrative that their real real will start after a great romance, but instead embrace the love the have in everystep of life.

- Naima Hasib

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Very often during my coaching sessions I have come across my clients struggling with this aspect of ending a relationship (even toxic ones), and even after it is over, they blame themselves for not being able to hate or completely dislike the person who caused them pain.

So heres the secret - ITS OK.
When you share a relationship or bond with someone, be it romantic, friendship or any other form of relationship, it is rare that it will be 100% bad, if it was we probably wouldnt have put up with it. So the good memories or even the habit of liking them may keep some level of affinity alive for them. Because thats how your lovely heart is, it wasnt made to hate. It was made for love, but you have to love yourself first and thats where the boundary comes in. Its okay to have some fondness towards them in your heart still, but it’s IMPERATIVE to not have place in your life.

How often do we end up making excuses for the people we love? Trying to convince ourselves and reason on their behalf, inventing some story about maybe “I am too sensitive/emotional/irrational…….”
No. Stop covering up and rationalising the actions of people who have realisation of the pain they have caused you. Because if you don’t express yourself, if you don’t call them out on it, it will become a consistent pattern.



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Read this when you feel like things aren’t going as per your plan. 📋

Remind yourself of this when you grateful for life’s beautiful surprises 🎁.

And Remember this always. 💗

If you were looking for a sign to do something today, this it is. 🌸

Take that trip, watch that movie, read that book, start that blog, say I love you, say I am sorry, say I forgive you. But do it now. Do it as soon as you can, because all we have is this moment right now.

How are you going to use yours? 🌟

If you were looking for a sign to do something, this it is.

Take that trip, watch that movie, read that book, start that blog, say I love you, say I am sorry, say I forgive you. But do it now. Do it as soon as you can, because all we have is this moment right now.

How are you going to use yours? 🌟

Happy 💕

Please remember that you do not have to do it all by yourself. Self reliance is not about ensuring you take care of absolutely everything on your own without seeking help, it can also meaning being aware about the aspects that can be handled better through a helping hand.

Let’s make it simpler - What if you had to hold a bag of 30 kgs all by yourself for an hour? Maybe with some struggle and eventually a broken back you could do it. However if you have 3 people by your side who can help you split the weight, would that make it easier? Or in fact even if they were incapable of holding it for you, even if they just stood next to you and cheered you on, do you think that would help?

Trust me, it does.

Taking help, sharing emotions and finding strength through our relationships are among the beautiful and endearing aspects of living in an interdependent society.

Don’t force yourself to do it all alone. Which doesn’t mean become completely dependent on others, but simply that when something can be done keeping your sanity, without breaking your back, using a little help. Seek it. Take it.

Ps- Especially expert/professional help. If someone is trained at helping you achieve what you want, in a lesser about of time, and with higher efficiency, the. isn’t accepting that help the wiser thing to do?