Sol + Heart

Do as I say, not as I do. (Just joking. Mostly.)

Here’s the truth about being a Love Coach who is also a Communication Professor in the last two weeks of semester:

The advice I give? Absolutely correct.

My own implementation right now? A work in progress. 😂

But this is actually the point ~ openness isn’t something you achieve when life slows down.

It’s something you practice in the middle of the mess.

Even when you’re tired.

Even when your to-do list is unreasonable.

Even when the most romantic thing in your evening is a fresh cup of tea and ten minutes of silence.

You can still be someone who is open to love.

The semester has ended. (This was me last week.)

And I have a whole summer of adventures planned that I cannot wait to share with you.

Professor by day. Lovergirl by summer. 😉

Follow along ~ it’s about to get really good.

Here’s the pattern I see most often in the women who find love quickly:

They stopped treating dates like interviews and started treating them like conversations.

Not “does he meet my criteria” but “who is this person really?”

Not “is this going anywhere” but “what might surprise me about him?”

That shift ~ from agenda to curiosity ~ changes everything about how connection forms.

And as someone who has spent twenty years studying human communication, I can tell you this isn’t just a mindset thing.

When we approach another person with genuine curiosity, we signal safety. We create space. We become someone they want to open up to.

And that is the foundation every great love story is built on.

The good news? Curiosity is completely learnable. It’s not something you either have or don’t. It’s a skill. And it’s one of the first things we work on together.

If you’re ready ~ DM me the word LOVE.

A handful of spaces for private coaching are opening up this summer and I’d love to talk to you about what’s possible for your love life. 🤍

Hot take: Your non-negotiables list might be doing you more harm than good.

Not because you shouldn’t have standards ~ you absolutely should! But because most of us have never actually examined the difference between what we truly need and what we’ve just... always assumed we needed.

Your non-negotiables? Those are yours. Integrity. Kindness. Genuine emotional availability. The things that actually make love work. YES to those!

But your *negotiables* ~ the ones you’ve perhaps held for a looooong time, but not questioned ~ those are worth a second look.

Does he *have* to live in your city - or are you actually open to a long-distance dynamic?

Does he *have* to be a certain height?
Does he *have* to fit the exact picture you’ve been carrying around since you were 25?

Because some of those pictures were handed to us.

And they’ve been quietly running the show ever since.

The ONE shift that changed everything for me ~ and for the women I work with ~ was learning to tell the difference.

Follow along if you want more of this kind of conversation. We like nuance & we go deep here. 🤍

Nobody talks about this part; the seasons where openness to romantic love feels hard.

Not because you’ve given up on love but because you’re carrying something heavy. Grief. An aging parent. Divorce. A loss or ending that changed the shape of your life.

Those seasons are real. And they’re part of your story ~ not an interruption of it.

What I’ve seen, over and over, is that women who have lived through hard things bring something extraordinary to love. They’re not shrinking or auditioning or trying to be enough.

They’ve already been through enough to know who they are.

And that kind of woman ~ open, discerning, genuinely curious about who shows up ~ is magnetic in ways that have nothing to do with age or timing or any of the things she’s been told to worry about.

You are not behind. You are seasoned. And there is a profound difference.

If this is speaking to something in you ~ DM me the word LOVE ~ and let’s chat. I have spaces opening up to support single women who are ready to find love this summer. Let’s talk about what that could look like for you. 🤍

No judgment. For realsssss.

But if January looked a lot like last January in your dating life ~ and the January before that ~ it might be worth asking why.

Not because something is wrong with you.
NOTHING is wrong with you.

But because wanting love and actually moving toward it are two different things.

And the gap between them is usually not more time, or more self-work, or a better dating app.

It’s usually just one decision ~ to do something different.

Three quarters of 2026 still ahead of you.

If you’re ready to use them ~ DM me the word LOVE.

I have space for two women who are ready to find love in the next four months.

Let’s talk about what that could look like for you. 🤍✨

You’re not overthinking it because you’re desperate.

You’re overthinking it because you’re smart and you actually want this.

But finding love isn’t a problem your intelligence can solve. It’s something your whole self has to be open to.

And openness? It’s not a feeling you wait for. It’s a practice you start ~ in small, ordinary, delightful moments ~ before the right person ever shows up.

That’s what the four shifts I’m naming are really about. Not trying harder. Showing up differently.

If this is resonating, follow along.

And if you want a place to start practicing today, grab my free guide ~ A Little Love Affair with Life.

It’s two weeks of small, joy-filled prompts designed to open you back up to your life right now.

Because your love story doesn’t start when he arrives. It starts today. 💖

If you’ve been looking for a love coach who actually gets how hard it is out there right now ~ hi 👋 I’m Solveig. I might be the one for you.

I’m a Communication Professor with over 20 years of experience and a Love Coach.

I work with single women in their 40s who are navigating the full landscape of romantic love ~ the finding, the maintaining, and sometimes the tender work of moving through an ending with care.

I know that wanting romantic love can feel like a particular kind of ache.

And I know how genuinely difficult it is out there right now, for all kinds of reasons.

I am a human, coach, and teacher who has studied human connection her whole career and is still learning, too.

Also Rocco (the pup) and Stella kitty say hi. 🐾👑

Follow along. 🤍

People might have told you that you need to do more ~ more healing, more personal growth work ~ before you’ll be ready for romantic love again.

Let’s look a little deeper.

While that advice can be helpful, what I see in the deep, self-aware women I support is that the shift in their romantic life doesn’t come from more work.

It comes from noticing where you’re quietly keeping yourself closed off ~ and starting to practice something different there.

In ordinary moments. On random Tuesdays. In the life you’re already living.

Openness is a practice. And it’s available to you right now, exactly as you are.

Follow along for more of this. No gatekeeping here. 🤍