05/17/2026
(words I needed, so you get them too)
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And if we’re being honest…
Most of the time you know the difference.
You know damn well what you can control and what you can’t.
You know what you’ve been trying to force to resist.
Maybe this is just a reminder that “control”
…sometimes means controlling the external (what happens, what others do, etc).
…and sometimes only means controlling the internal (your response to those things).
Hope this helps.
Happy Sunday.
05/12/2026
hold your horses, cowboy.
05/06/2026
The way you lead others usually reflects the way you lead yourself.
05/04/2026
Your brain craves (novelty (new stuff) and familiarity (things it already trusts) at the same time.
It thrives when it’s exposed to new information, different perspectives, and problem-solving.
That’s how it grows and adapts.
But if those challenges are “too much” the brain will get protective and cause the body to lock up.
The body, on the other hand, doesn’t work the same way.
It performs best when it feels safe and trusts the movements, patterns, and stresses you put it through.
When you expose your body to consistently similar stress it develops better motor control, mind-muscle connection, tissue capacity, and foundational characteristics like strength, size and mobility.
These are what bring true progress; not constantly shocking the system with wild variety.
The key is balancing both. Challenge your mind, but give your body consistency. That’s how you build long-term resilience.
In rehab, trust is everything.
When your body doesn’t feel stable in a movement, it reacts with stiffness, hesitation, or pain.
That’s not weakness, but instead, a protective response.
Forcing through it doesn’t rebuild strength, it reinforces fear.
Instead, rehab is about finding movements your body does trust, even if they’re smaller or look different than what you’re used to.
It’s about proving to your body, rep by rep, that it’s safe to move.
As that trust builds, so does the ability to handle more load, stress and complexity.
Training works the same way.
You don’t get fitter by constantly shocking the system with random exercise that have no congruency or excessive fatigue.
You get stronger by reinforcing good movement, improving efficiency, and gradually increasing the challenge in a way your body can handle.
When your body trusts the positions you’re in, you can produce more force, move with confidence, and push intensity without flaring things up.
It’s about working in a way that builds trust between your brain and your body.
That’s what leads to real, sustainable progress.
05/03/2026
I will die on this hill 👇🏼
Modified lifts are not a step backward.
They are usually the thing that lets you keep training hard while your body calms down and builds tolerance again.
The goal is to find the version of the lift you can train with effort, consistency, and less irritation.
THEN… over time, you can start adding things back in.
More range of motion.
More load.
A more familiar set up.
A more normal version of the lift.
You earn that by building capacity first,
…NOT by repeatedly poking the thing that already hurts.
04/25/2026
I’m writing a book.
It’s the book I wish I had when I was stuck in pain, doing all the “right” things, but still feeling like I couldn’t trust my body enough to train hard again.
Because pain is rarely just about one tight muscle, one weak area, one bad movement pattern, or one thing that needs to be “fixed.”
The physical side matters.
But so do your stress, sleep, beliefs, fear, training history, environment, and the way you respond when symptoms show up.
That doesn’t mean pain is fake.
It means your whole system is involved.
And if your whole system is involved, your plan needs to reflect that.
That’s a big part of what Train Beyond Pain is about.
It’s planned to release this fall.
More soon!
04/10/2026
silence, soliloquies & serotonin
threads of thought, loose ends, & good light.
tiny things with big light.
you had to be there.
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scenes from the corners of my life, lately