Emily Gough Coaching

Your partner isn’t the problem. And your relationship probably isn’t broken.

But your patterns probably are. And they’re what’s been running your relationship, your identity, and just about everything else in your life… until you decide to do something differently.

Here’s what’s really happening:

There are things you’re not saying, needs you’re not voicing, and resentments building under the surface of “we’re fine.”

You’re both operating from old programming: adaptive strategies you learned in childhood that worked then but are sabotaging your relationship now. You’re triggering each other’s wounds without even knowing it.

And instead of getting curious about the pattern, you’re managing around it, hoping it’ll resolve itself and blaming each other for the pain.

➡️ This is why we have something SO special for you: we’re finally launching a BRAND NEW group program for couples starting Friday, February 27th called Together in Practice 🔥

This is going to be taking the practices and deep work

Not only that, you get to have the experience of being in the work with other couples and realizing that EVRY couple has moments of struggle. you’re not alone, you’re normal, and there is a healthy, thriving relationship available to you on the other side of shifting some of these patterns, to welcome in more love and joy, and where even conflicts have the ability to create deeper intimacy rather than distance and disconnection.

DM me the word PATTERNS and I will send over some details 🥰❤️

It’s easy to jump to the belief that your partner is the problem.

But underneath that, what’s really happening is an opportunity for growth and intimacy to take place…if you’re open to it and willing to do the work to move through it.

Drop the word LOVE below to check out episode 2 of our new podcast, Love in Practice. Or DM me and I’ll send the info straight to your inbox 👇🔥

Part of being an emotionally secure human is having a grounded sense of self, and boundaries that go both ways.

It’s not just about what behaviours you won’t accept from others.

It’s also about not letting someone else’s mood hijack your emotional world, and remembering that their experience is not a reflection of your worth.

This clip is just one of the personal stories we’re sharing in Episode 2 of our brand new podcast, Love in Practice, where Kelly and I talk openly about the real dynamics we navigate behind the scenes.

🔥If you want the link sent straight to you, comment LOVE below or DM me to hav the info sent straight to your inbox. 👇

You can also tune in now on YouTube or anywhere you get your podcasts!

It’s here! Beyond thrilled to share that our brand new podcast, Love in Practice, is officially live 🔥

My husband and I created Love in Practice to bring you right into the real, raw, and beautifully messy work of love. The kind that asks you to show up with your whole being and put your heart on the line.

We’re sharing very personal stories from our own relationship while guiding you through:

❤️Building emotional intimacy
🙏Navigating conflict with compassion
👥Co-creating interdependence
🥰Healing old wounds to create partnerships rooted in trust, respect and growth.

Because real love isn’t perfect, it’s a daily practice. It’s the devotion to caring deeply for another without losing yourself in the process, and allowing yourself to be both challenged and changed.

This project is deeply personal and close to our hearts, reflecting the work we do in our own relationship every day along with the ways we support other couples.

❤️There are THREE episodes waiting for you to binge, and we’re holding nothing back - to the point I’m incredibly uncomfortable releasing some of these episodes 🙈🫠

You’ll hear us unpacking what we’re navigating in our own relationship in real time.

Most importantly, we fully believe that Love in Practice is best done in community, rather than isolation. Join us as we learn, grow and keep choosing love, one conversation at a time.

➡️Drop the word LOVE in the comments or message me privately and I’ll send it to you directly.

Doors are open! Your Grown A$$ Woman Era starts next Wednesday, October 8th 😍

I’m finally relaunching my most powerful and popular program. After more than a year on hiatus while I underwent absolutely massive shifts in my own life, it was finally time to take all the deep work I’ve been doing myself and bring it to this work.

Grown A$$ Woman Era is a group for women who are ready to come home to themselves, stop over-functioning, reclaim their worth, and step fully into their power.

This isn’t about just feeling “better.”
�❤️It’s about embodying joy, vitality, and the version of yourself who no longer shrinks to fit into anyone else’s expectations.

It’s about being surrounded by a sisterhood of women who see you, hold you, and walk alongside you to support you as you rise with bravery and an open heart.

➡️ We start next Wednesday, October 8th and there are only FOUR spots left.

Drop me the word GROWN and I’ll send you the details! 👇

Embodiment comes from within, and it can be easy to disconnect from your body in moments of high stress or moments of overwhelm and nervous system dis-regulation.Stop. Pause. Breathe. Come back to yourself, and accept the emotion you’re experiencing rather than fighting it, resisting it of judging the s**t out of yourself for even having the emotion at all.Emotions are data and offer valuable information, and you get to reconnect with yourself by digging deeper to notice what’s really under it. Converse with it, treat it like a guest that has arrived to offer you a gift of getting to know yourself better.Let it speak to you and see what it has to teach you.Let me know how it goes ❤️

Is it nervous system regulation? Or is it stuffing down inconvenient or uncomfortable emotions for the sake of appearing more palatable and worthy of love?For many years, I stuffed down anger. I had a close family member who would regularly explode in anger, and when I started to express my temper in similar ways as a teenager and into my twenties, it scared the s**t out of me.So I cut myself off from my anger, because I didn’t like who I became with it. At the time I didn’t have the tools to know how to express it in a healthy way, I just knew I didn’t like myself angry, I didn’t want to become an “angry person” and it seemed like I would be so much more lovable without it.That good girl programming can run deep 🤦🏻‍♀️It hasn’t been until more recent years that I have truly started to tap into, express and utilize my anger in a healthy way.And anger is incredibly healthy and normal and human, by the way - just like every other emotion you are capable of experiencing in this messy, perfectly imperfect life. Plus, anger is what lets you know that someone has crossed your boundaries. It’s motivating, the fuel for change, and can be a sacred expression of your personal truth, a catalyst to move you or a relationship forward - without attachment to an outcome.There is *so* much nuance in this conversation, but I would challenge you to sit with this one.And I will leave you with this reminder: you did not come here to be fu***ng palatable.You came here to both receive everything this life has to offer, and most importantly to BE the full experience.Grown Ass Woman Era, my 4-month women’s group starts soon and it will challenge you, hold you, and shake s**t up in your life in the best possible ways. One thing I can promise you is that you will never be the same afterwards.DM me for details and let me know if you’re done being palatable too 🔥